I'm 26 years old and I've never been more peaceful of all my life.

Do you think its possible you ever wonder if many people would just feel good at 25-30 either way after growing up etc?
I remember being a total mess until that age, Im happy nobody threw hormones and surgery at me, I dont think that would have helped.

Sometimes I feel like trans surgery just interferes with a process of growing up that is just generally pretty tough for many.

I know it’s weird and you might all think I’m psychotic now.

People can become psychotic from trauma. Out of the 3 trans people I dated, one was from a religious cult.

Trans in itself is also very similar to one if you think about it. Extreme painful surgery and bodily changes, in the name of a concept that you are supposed to believe with little evidence.

I kind of look at trans-kids as a sort of child sacrifice. "I cut off my sons breasts, because I am a true believer, he was chosen, he is special and better, and has transcended!".

But I think your description hits close for people I consider "false positives". People who wouldn't be trans if we didn't have a trans movement.

I think this group is a bit wider though. Because you have a lot of people that transition due to peer-pressure from friends, by pressure from a parent, groomer or a teacher.

Thank you for sharing though, my father is a physician very much into the trans thing and wanting to be very liberal, he called me a "homophobe trumper" very recently when I expressed my concerns that the majority of this generations trans are very likely trenders or mentally ill people being exploited.

I like to question things, and Im honestly not even sure that transition is beneficial for legit dysphoric people, or even someone born intersex- there needs to be more studies that are not politically steered to show if the treatments actually have a positive effect. Looking at it objectively Im very sceptical, especially since having sexual experiences with transwomen that were so sad and without much pleasure for the transwoman, compared to my experiences with women that always were a very lusty affair, even when i was young inexperienced and didnt know much about using my hands etc.

"people are just treating gender like it's a fashion trend and I'm sick of it."

I dont think its just that- in my friend group everyone was bisexual, because it was the most "tolerant" view. It was really a sort of social hysteria to be honest. This was more than 10 years ago though, way before the recent transsexualism movement. In todays very identitarian left, its much more important to have the right victimhood-status.

If you are white and uppper-middle class that most trans people seem to be in studies, being non-binary is the easiest way to get some sort of acceptance.

My friend group was interesting though. The gay guys are still gay, but most people are either straight or gay, the whole "Im pansexual" thing really hasnt panned out. As most of the guys have grown guts or become rugged "men" we dont really make out with eachother like we did as more androgynous emo boys either.

but the appointment team was weirdly aggressive but in brief told me it did not matter and insisted that i keep the appointment and that the doctor i see will have tips on how to speed things up like my surgery date

They are so disturbing- really vulture-like. Dont go.

Men: I’m insanely jealous of the attention my bf gets from other men. They always want to show him things or talk to him. Meanwhile I’m either ignored, or they won’t talk to him/us if we’re together. I almost feel like a peasant in a conversation two royalty are having, or like a kid in an adult conversation. I literally feel like they don’t see me as an equal. Even “progressive” ones.

I had this issue with an ex(Im a straight guy) - if she wasnt into the topic or didnt understand it perfectly, she would not be able to enter the situation whatsoever. I think its a communication missunderstanding really, where women dont understand how competitive guys can be when talking -> Often you need to battle a bit to get into the conversation, guys dont do the "oh sorry I interrupted you Jenny blabla" nearly as often, it can probably feel they shut you out, but I suspect maybe you havent found the way to "take place" that guys probably now either culturally or instinctually.

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I just feel like no one likes me and I don’t fit in anywhere.

This could be that you have some stuff to work on, or you are a bit weak "socially". If you dont have cool hobbies, high confidence, are good at making and keeping friends, tend to be introverted and if you are stubborn and dont want to change due to what others think(or cant stick with something and you are TOO flexible) you will feel like this you whole life.

Im sorry for the kinda criticising rant, I can assure you I identify with most of the above, especially when I wanted to transition. But, to be honest the most important question is - how would transition improve any of this in the first place?

It took me until I was 27, to feel that I started to get a path in life and accept and love myself as a male.

And I didnt have to struggle with detransitioning etc in the meantime. I desisted very quickly, but I do get scared when I think what would have happened if someone or some people "affirmed" me.

Idk if I should go therapy because I’m in a good place in my life I’m on estrogen, passable, have a good job and have a girlfriend. I don’t think I would’ve ever gotten my gf if I looked how I looked as a guy. She knows I’m not really a girl inside but she’s okay with this since she is bisexual.

I dont think you got your gf because you looked feminine, probably because you did cosplay and was interesting.

Its interesting how many guys transition because they feel they have to be hyper-masculine.

Its not really required, you just need some form of status. Im sure you can still cosplay, maybe you just need to change the characters and the visuals.

but I still get the urge to skip my injections and detrans. I doubt I can keep everything I have and will probably lose my gf too.

Like one guy said, if you are afraid of your gf getting with someone else, youve likely already lost her. Also, as you age, its very likely your male characteristics will be more apparent. Try to find interests and things that make you attractive, that are not connected to a female aesthetic.

Today was the first time going to a social event while trying to pass as a man and I could really use advice. Tldr how do you talk to people.

I heard this Robert D'Angelo quote "guys would rather die in a war than approach women". Apparently they would transition too!

Id recommend looking at standup, having fun hobbies to talk about that people think are attractive, and getting in shape.

If you feel attractive, you will feel more entitled and worry less about women wanting to reject you immediately and hating your prescence or feeling threatened.

Its a bit like being homeless, you might not be a threat but your "need" and your poverty make people feel threatened anyways. Dont be a man thats in need of anything, but that can give something.

Thanks for the advice I will definitely think about it more that way about my gf. I need to address why I feel this way about her.

Well in a way you are kind of r/transmaxxing, Im just not convinced that it will lead you the way you want in life. What if your gf wants kids and you find yourself sterile? What if the estrogen messes upp your hormonal levels and libido and you cant achieve an erection?

Hell, putting your permanent health on the line because of one persons attraction to you does not sound like a good plan in life. Not saying Im not influenced by the women I date *constantly* but after 10 years of that personality trait Im at least aware its happening.

Also wait why do you say that male features will come out later? Is this actually true even if you start HRT at a young age?

A lot of guys pass even without HRT when they are younger, its from the fact that feminine features are often associated with neotony, looking like a younger member of the species. As you age, even with hormones it will be harder to pass. I cant say how fast or how much harder it is, but the whole sex-change business is pretty much experimental. Id be wary of makeup/photoshop influencers vs what you experience in reality.