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- Personal, emotionally nuanced experiences with detransition, therapy, surgery, and autism.
- Consistent narrative across posts spanning nearly two years.
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- Natural, conversational language with varied sentence structure and emotional tone.
The account presents as a genuine individual sharing their detransition journey.
About me
I started transitioning as a lonely, autistic teenager because I felt a deep discomfort with my developing female body. My mental health struggles and self-hatred were never properly addressed, and I was allowed to get a mastectomy at 15, a decision I now see as a form of approved self-harm. A turning point came when I realized I was just a weird girl trying to escape the pressures of womanhood. I am now 21 and infertile, living with the permanent consequences of choices I was too young to make. My focus now is on healing and learning to love my body as it is.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition started when I was a teenager. I was a lonely kid and I'm autistic, which made it hard to fit in. I think a lot of my feelings were just a normal part of puberty discomfort that got completely out of hand. I hated my breasts and felt incredibly self-conscious about my developing body. I found a lot of escape in fiction and online communities, and I think that influenced me without me even realizing it. The way female characters were often written felt shallow to me, and I couldn't see myself in them.
I started binding my chest when I was 15, but it backfired. The more I wore the binder, the worse I actually felt about my body's natural shape. It just made me fixate on it more. I was allowed to get a mastectomy way too young, and I deeply regret it. It was the worst decision I've ever made. Looking back, it felt like a form of self-harm that was approved by doctors. I didn't have the maturity to understand the permanent consequences.
My mental health wasn't handled properly at all. I had a lot of anxiety and low self-esteem, and instead of helping me work through that, the path of transition was presented as the solution. I’ve talked about this with my new therapist, and she agrees my issues weren't handled right. It's hard to talk about, even now, especially the part where it felt like self-harm.
A big turning point for me was a book series I read. It was the "straw that broke the camel's back" and started me thinking about detransition. It made me realize I needed to find media with complex female characters I could actually relate to. My perspective on gender has completely changed. I don't really believe in it the way I used to. I think I was a weird girl, and society was more comfortable with my autistic traits if they thought I was a boy. It was a way to escape from the pressures of being a woman.
I absolutely have regrets about my transition, especially the surgery. I am now infertile and have to live with a body that was permanently altered before I was old enough to truly consent. I think the doctors who did this to me, and to other kids, are monsters and should be held accountable. I believe if I had been given proper therapy that wasn't just affirming, if someone had helped me work through my self-hatred and loneliness instead of encouraging me to change my body, my life would be very different.
Now, at 21, I'm trying to learn to love and accept my body as it is now. It's a daily struggle, but I refuse to believe there can't be happiness for people like me. I'm trying to distance myself from negative conversations that fixate on body flaws and am considering getting into dance or martial arts to feel more connected to my body in a positive way. It's a long road, but I'm trying to move forward.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 15 | Started binding. Hated my breasts and experienced intense puberty discomfort. |
| 15 | Was allowed to get a double mastectomy (top surgery). Deeply regret this. |
| 21 | Now detransitioned. Working on self-acceptance and healing. |
Top Comments by /u/foxwelling:
I recognize so much of what you've said here. I'm so sorry that you have deal with this, its a burden no one should have to bear. I try to put to myself like this: if I could have learned to love and accept my body before, I can make myself love and accept my body now. It's a ambitious goal maybe but I refuse to accept that there can't be happiness for people like us. Hang in there, its hard but we can make if we try!
I don't think I can talk to my mom about this, she loves me me but there's somethings she just won't understand. We also paid out of pocket for the revision, so she'll might also take it as me being ungrateful. I did bring all of this up with my (new) therapist. She agrees with me that my issues weren't handle properly, I didn't really bring up the fact that it was basically self harm. I could barely bring it up at all but she did seemed receptive.
Ugh, some fucko messaged me a couple weeks ago, asking for details of some implied trauma and when I went to his profile he'd been posting in a sub essentially dedicated to jacking off to trauma. I really wish there was a way to hide from freaks like this. Stay safe y'all!
Absolutely you should sue. It's unconscionable that these drugs and procedures are given to people like us as kids, and we shouldn't allow them to get away with it. I can tell you from experience that the legal process isn't easy, technically or emotionally, but I think it's essential to hold these monsters accountable!!
Oh, I'm 21 now! Sorry, I wasn't clear in the original post. I hear you about the exercise thing, I'm considering dance or maybe some form of martial arts again. I have autism too, transition definitely feels like something pushed onto me because I was/am a weird girl, and people were more comfortable with those traits if I was a "boy". Thank you for taking your time to write a heartfelt response!
This post is so interesting to me. I also have autism as well as an incredibly lonely adolescence and I've noticed how fiction is a really powerful escape that influences us without us even realizing it. I think that women in fiction are usually presented as two dimensional and that is another part of what you described. Funnily enough, a book series was "the straw that broke the camel's back" so to speak when it came to me detranstioning. I've found its important for me to try and consume media with complex female characters that resonate with my experience. I truly believe there is someone who will love unconditionally and make you feel everything you're afraid is impossible!
This is pretty much exactly what happened when I was 15. The more I wore the binder, the worse I felt about how my body was actually shaped. I was allowed to get a mastectomy way too early, and it was the worst thing I've ever done. If I could, I would absolutely go back and do what you said in your post. I would also try to just distance myself from the sort of 'body bashing' conversations that are very common with other teens, dysphoric or not. It's one thing to commiserate, but fixating on perceived 'flaws' is the worst thing for your mental health. I am so glad you're able to take a step back and try to clear your head a bit!