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Based on the provided comments, the account "francis2395" appears to be authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or an inauthentic actor.
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- Consistent, nuanced arguments: Their comments show a deep, consistent engagement with complex ideological and medical topics over a long period (2022-2024), which is difficult for bots to fake.
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The views are strong and ideological, but this is consistent with a genuine, passionate individual in this community rather than a sign of inauthenticity.
About me
I was a teenage girl who felt terrible when my body developed during puberty, and I found online communities that convinced me I was actually a boy. I started taking testosterone, thinking it would fix my depression, but it just made my life revolve around being trans. I realized I wasn't rejecting being female; I was just rejecting the stereotypes and had some internalized homophobia to work through. I stopped hormones and am now learning to accept myself as a woman, understanding that my body was never the real problem. I regret that transition was presented as the only answer, and I believe we need to be able to talk about the dangers of this for young people.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was a teenager. I was a girl who felt incredibly uncomfortable with my body, especially when I hit puberty. I hated the development of my breasts; it felt wrong and alien to me. I also struggled with depression and anxiety, and looking back, I had very low self-esteem. I spent a lot of time online, and I found communities that told me these feelings meant I was born in the wrong body and that I was actually a boy, or maybe non-binary. It was presented as the only way to be happy.
I started to believe that transitioning was the solution. I thought if I could just change my body, all my other problems would disappear. I socially transitioned in my late teens, asking people to use a different name and pronouns. I remember being shocked at how easy it was to get hormones; I looked into it and found that at some places, you could get a prescription on your very first visit without any therapy. It felt too easy, like there were no safeguards.
I took testosterone for a while. But instead of solving my problems, my life just became more about being trans. My happiness started to depend on whether other people would validate my new identity. I saw this in the wider community too; people would get extremely upset if they were "misgendered," and it seemed like a very fragile way to live. I started to realize that I had been trying to escape from myself. My discomfort wasn't about being a woman; it was about the stereotypes and expectations I thought I had to live up to. I also had to confront some internalized homophobia; I think part of my rejection of being a woman was a rejection of the possibility of being a lesbian.
I began to detransition. I stopped taking hormones and went back to living as a woman. It was a difficult process, but it was the right one for me. I've come to understand that a woman is simply an adult human female. There is no "feeling" like a woman; you just are one. Women can look and act in any way they want—they can be masculine, feminine, or anything in between. Believing that not fitting a stereotype makes you "non-binary" is a misunderstanding. I regret transitioning because I see now that I was trying to fix internal problems with external, irreversible changes. I benefited greatly from stepping away from trans-focused online spaces and learning to accept myself as a female person, without feeling the need to change my body to fit an identity.
I believe that for a very small number of people with severe, untreatable dysphoria, transition might be an option, but it's become the first and only solution offered to far too many people, especially young people like I was. We need to be able to talk about this without being called hateful. My experience has shown me that the path of self-acceptance, while hard, is healthier and more sustainable than a lifetime of medical dependency.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14-15 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and breast development. Felt depressed and anxious. |
| 17 | Spent a lot of time online, influenced by trans communities. Started to believe I was transgender/non-binary. |
| 18 | Socially transitioned, using a new name and male pronouns. Researched hormones and was alarmed by how easily they could be obtained. |
| 19 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 20 | Began to question my transition, realizing my happiness was too dependent on others' validation. Recognized internalized homophobia and issues with stereotypes. |
| 21 | Stopped testosterone and began detransitioning. Started the process of self-acceptance as a female person. |
Top Comments by /u/francis2395:
Any criticism of gender ideology, and I do mean ANY, from the absolute mildest to the absolute harshest, is bound to be called "transphobic" at some point or another.
That word has lost all its meaning.
Wanna hear some perfectly rational and true statements that get called transphobic?:
- "Men can't be women"
- "Female-only spaces are important"
- "Lesbians are not into dick."
- "Surgeons shouldn't perform gender-related surgeries on minors".
All transphobic.
Look out the window. See that tree? Transphobic. See that car? Transphobic. Your neighbour? Transphobic!
Everything is transphobic.
Afterwards, my post on r/lgbt got deleted where I talked about my detransition. Its extremely odd how such an accepting community can be so ignorant about detransitioners
As a gay man, the "LGBT" community in the last few years has disappointed me to the highest extent.
They are not women because woman is the English noun for an adult female human being.
The word "female" could technically refer to females of any species. Female horses, female deers, female chickens, female sheeps, etc.
Whereas "woman" is specifically the female of the human species.
Transwomen are adult male human beings, therefore men. And transwomen who go to great extents to surgically alter their appearance are feminized men.
This should neither be controversial nor offensive.
"Your opinion is harmful".
In radical trans ideology, anything that is reasonable, thoughtful, sane, rational and logical is "harmful". Always.
There is zero room for rationality. The present-day trans movement is unfortunately filled with extremists.
I really don't understand why it is so controversial to acknowledge the meaning of trans woman, which is a biological male who visually presents female and lives in society with a female identity, usually to alleviate gender dysphoria. Most old school transexuals (pre 2000) never shouted the "Transwomen are women!" line. That insistence seems to be fairly recent.
The word woman is very specific. It gives us a lot of information.
It tells us the person is:
- Human. (A horse can't be a woman, a rabbit can't be a woman...)
- Adult (A 3 year old girl is not a woman)
- Female (A male can't be a female).
So it's species-specific, age-specific and sex-specific.
So no, trans women are not women. And that is perfectly okay!
The 3 criteria to be a woman are: Adulthood, femaleness and humanhood. That's it.
If you are a female human of adult age, you are a woman. It doesn't get more simple than that.
A woman with short hair, muscles and a job at a construction site is 100% as much of a woman as one with long hair, a dress and pink fingernails. Women can be as conventionally masculine or conventionally feminine as they wish.
I am a man but I have no idea what a "man innate feeling" is. I'm simply an adult human of the male sex, and the English language calls that "man".
I don't think I've ever heard an explanation of 'non-binary' that doesn't boil down to not fitting certain masculine or feminine stereotypes associated with our sex. But being non-conforming is totally fine. Men and women come in all sorts of shapes, colours, sizes, styles, etc.
People who believe in the idea of "non-binary" as a concrete identity seem to mistakenly think that stereotypes & cultural expectations are what defines men and women. It is fundamentally a psychological misinterpretation & misunderstanding of what men/women are.
There would be no issue if someone called themselves a "Non-binary woman" or "Non-binary man", to indicate that they don't perfectly fit into the 'binary' of femininity or masculinity.
The problem is that people who identify as "non-binary" think that their non-conformity makes them not a woman and not a man. That's the regressive part.
We should teach others that women/men come in different shapes/sizes and have different preferences & clothing styles and that no one is less of a man or less of a woman because of their non-conformity.
Jalisa Vine has a large following and came out as detrans recently. She did say though that she felt uncomfortable admitting it to herself and to her viewers for a while. So, it definitely plays a role. She also mentioned that she always tried to appear as a happy trans person in front of the camera even when that wasn't the case. It's a near certainty that there are famous trans influencers out there who are deep down unhappy.
But now my brain is telling me i had those issues bc I was a woman all along.
There can be no such thing as "Being a woman all along". Just like I can't possibly say that because I feel alienated in my 20-30 age group, it means I "was 50 years old all along". Not possible.
The only way to be a woman is to be born a female human being and survive into adulthood. A woman is not a feeling, or a thought process, or a set of acquirable attributes. A woman is a female human of adult age.
If your brain is telling you that you are 'actually a woman', then you should address those flawed thoughts and try to figure out where it's coming from. Another comment suggested internalized homophobia. That's a possibility. Or it could be something else. Give yourself time to figure it out. No hurry. It'll all be fine.
On one hand there are people who would have you believe that you are born in the wrong body. And on the other hand there are people, like us here, who want you to reach the understanding that you are born perfect! <3
I think it's quite obvious which mentality is healthiest!
Glad you are loving this group!