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About me
I started as a teenager with terrible body dysmorphia, feeling completely disconnected from my female body and believing I was a man. Online spaces heavily influenced me, and I was certain that looking male would fix my deep discomfort. Getting away from the internet and into nature through hard physical work made me appreciate my body for what it could do. I realized there's no right way to be a woman, and by 21, I had completely grown out of wanting to transition. I'm now relieved I never pursued medical interventions and want to help others feel safe being gender non-conforming.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I had really bad body dysmorphia. I hated the way I looked and felt completely disconnected from my body, and that led me to start thinking I should be a guy. A lot of the trans talk I heard online sounded exactly like the thoughts I was having.
I spent a lot of time in online spaces where this was discussed, and I think I was definitely influenced by what I saw there. For a while, I genuinely believed I was a man trapped in a woman's body. I especially hated having breasts and wanted to get rid of them. I thought that if I could just look like a man, all my discomfort would go away.
But I never actually took hormones or had any surgeries. What changed for me was getting away from the internet and spending a lot of time outside. I went camping and did hard physical labor. That work made me appreciate my body for what it could do, and I started to feel connected to it in a way I never had before. I also met so many different kinds of people from all over and realized that women are allowed to look and act however they want. There's no one way to be a woman. Stereotypes are just that—stereotypes. By the time I was 21, I had completely grown out of wanting to be a man.
Looking back, I don't think there's any such thing as a "male brain" or "female brain." The science shows that our brains are all incredibly variable. The idea that someone can be born in the wrong body is incorrect and, I think, a harmful concept. It just reinforces the same old sex stereotypes we should be moving away from. My goal now is to make the world safer for gender non-conforming people. No one should be forced to live out a bunch of arbitrary, outdated stereotypes.
I don't regret transitioning socially because it was part of my path to understanding myself better, but I am so relieved I didn't pursue medical intervention. I've read about the serious health complications that can come from hormones and surgeries, like bone problems and increased risk of dementia, and it's insane to me that these are given to kids. I believe that for many people, underlying issues like body dysmorphia, trauma, or being autistic aren't properly explored before they're encouraged to transition. I benefited from therapy that wasn't just about affirming a new gender identity but about understanding my own mind.
I think the current conversation around gender can be really toxic, especially for young people online. It can shield them from the reality that it's okay to be a masculine woman or a feminine man. I hope we can get back to supporting and protecting those people instead of telling them they were born in the wrong body.
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| Teenager | - | Developed severe body dysmorphia, hated my breasts, felt disconnected from my body, and was influenced online to believe I was a man. |
| 21 | - | Grew out of the desire to transition. Found connection to my body through physical labor and camping. Realized women can look and act any way they want. |
Top Comments by /u/fridakahlosmonkey:
"female" at birth is setting this kid up for a lifetime of medical horror. He's not even going to be able to get adequate medical care because his family is so deep in trans ideology that they refuse to understand that men and women are physically different.
The idea that someone can have a "boy brain" stuck in a girl body and vice versa is incorrect. The largest and newest studies show that men and women have extremely variable brains. There are a coupl eof sex specific things- men's brains are 10% bigger on average because their bodies are 10% bigger. And cortex thickness is thicker in women, the theory is that testosterone thins it, so if you're on T blockers you'd show a female cortex thickness because of the cross hormones you're pumping into your body.
'“They say, ‘I have a son and a daughter, and they are different.’ And I say, ‘I have two daughters, and they are very different.’ When you talk about male and female identity, people are very wedded to the idea that men and women are different. People like me are not sex-difference deniers,” continues Rippon. “Of course there are sex differences. Anatomically, men and women are different. The brain is a biological organ. Sex is a biological factor. But it is not the sole factor; it intersects with so many variables.”
I ask her for a comparable watershed moment in the history of scientific understanding, in order to gauge the significance of her own. “The idea of the Earth circling around the sun,” she bats back.'
I'm so sorry for everything you've been through. One of my main concerns is trying to get us back to supporting and protecting feminine men and masculine women. I think in your position that dating men who can't admit they're attracted to men would really mess with my head too. Good luck with everything <3
So we can add increased suicidal thoughts to the dangers of puberty blockers?
So far we have:
decreased IQ
osteoarthritis
osteoporosis
increase of 20% of developing dementia
increase of 15% of developing Alzheimer's
increased suicidal thoughts
It's insane that these meds are given to kids.
This study is now 8 years old. You'd be lying if you haven't noticed in the last 8 years an INSANE boom of people coming out as trans.
This- I think in the past when it was actually difficult to transition and you were forced to wait, the people who went through with it were actually pretty happy with their results because they were suffering from therapy-resistant gender dysphoria.
But now that you can walk into a clinic and BOOM- get your hormones after a 1-4 sessions and no therapy to make sure you're not suffering from undiagnosed Autism, ADHD, or trauma, there's rising regret. The whole "Trans are Lit-uh-rall-lee whatever sex they claim" is also I think incredibly detrimental to dysphoria. People are going through transition thinking they're going to come out looking like a super-hot version of the opposite sex.
I had body dysmorphia as a teen which led me to want to be a guy. A LOT of trans talk sounds so much like the thoughts I had.
I eventually grew out of my body dysmorphia and wish to be a man at 21. I spent a lot of time outside camping and doing physical labor that made me appreciate my body and feel connected to it. I also met so many people from around the country that I realized that women are allowed to look and act however they want. Stereotypes are just that.
Personally, I think medical transition has health negatives, so I'm happy you're think of detransitioning. I hope you explore CBT and /or DBT, which has been cited by some detransitioners as helpful. I don't want anyone to suffer from something like gender dysphoria, and I hope it helps you. As for the more aesthetic elements- I hope you continue dressing in a way that makes you happy. My goal is to make the world safer for gender non-conforming people. No one should be forced to live out a bunch of arbitrary, outdated sex stereotypes. I'm a woman and I don't. Good luck with everything.
The internet is 100% toxic for kids and teens. This is a good move on your part. Basically she can have the internet back when she's an adult. I wouldn't send her to a therapist unless you can find a gender critical one. I'd also bring up how you felt about your body and that nearly everyone, if not everyone feels the same way- they just hide it.
Good luck <3
yeah, pretty much. I don't actually think there's some sort of well thought out master-plan. I do think that it's probably considered a "fortunate" side effect by certain groups. There are homophobic people on both sides of the political spectrum who deep down think that many homosexuals were just "born in the wrong body," and that trans is the "cure".
I also know a few "child-free" people who vocally advocate for sterilization and regard and instances of people being infertile (or mostly infertile), like pcos or other health conditions as a good thing. Literally, they'll talk about how it's good for the planet, so parents sterilizing their kids and teens under the influence of trans ideology is good to them. They also think IVF should be banned.
***I also know a many child-free people who are not anti child/people and simply don't want kids. My very good friend is child-free and has zero issues with kids, especially because all of her friends have kids. She didn't want them, and her husband, who initially did, ended up coming around to being happy sans kids.
I think there's a couple of things to keep in mind:
as a biological woman, finding a gay man to date you (not just the occasional hook up) is going to be nearly impossible.
I think that someone is trans only when they experience dysphoria. Dysphoria causes you to not be able to accept your biological reality. Hormones can be useful for the person suffering, but they're bound to increase isolation for you. If you're heterosexual, finding a man to be compatible with is easier if you look like the female you are. I wore men's clothes throughout my teens before I figured out that I'd have to make some concessions on how I dressed if I wanted to date guys- specifically the kind of guys I'm attracted to. Getting back to point 1, since you're not attracted to straight guys, you have an issue. Gay guys are not going to date you no matter how masculine you look. Gay men are homosexual, which means they're attracted to the same sex. I'm not trying to be jerky, but there is a lot of confusion among younger people about what homosexuality is. It's not clothing or style. Masculine women are still women, even if they identify as men. The biological underpinnings of sex are fairly well understood. The creation of gay and lesbian animals in a lab is commonplace. Humans are animals, and while the formation of our sexual preference is a little more complicated than as displayed in animals, it's still a concrete thing that isn't swayed by clothing choice.
I sincerely hope you get some help for your dysphoria. I had body dysmorphia as a teen and it was brutal. But, I got better and I believe that while you may not have permanent, uninterrupted peace with your body, that it can get better without the physical damage hormones can do.