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The user's perspective is internally consistent, emotionally charged in a way that aligns with a personal history of detransition/desistance, and shows a clear, evolving engagement with the topic over time. The comments reflect the passion and anger mentioned in your prompt as typical for genuine members of this community. The user identifies as a desister who did not take HRT, which is a credible position.
About me
I started as a teenager who felt uncomfortable with my female body and found an escape by identifying as a trans man online. My social transition was heavily influenced by my depression and the affirming people I met, not by a true understanding of myself. I eventually realized I was trying to numb my discomfort instead of dealing with my underlying issues with self-esteem. I decided to detransition and accept that I am a woman, as it’s easier to live in alignment with my biology. I now know my body doesn't define my personality, and I can be any kind of woman I want to be.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was a teenager, around 15. I felt really uncomfortable with my body, especially when I started developing breasts during puberty. I hated them; they felt foreign and wrong on me. At the same time, I was struggling with depression and really low self-esteem. I didn't feel like I fit in with the other girls, and I spent a huge amount of time online, which is where I first learned about transgender identities.
I started identifying as non-binary, and then later, as a trans man. It felt like an escape from all the discomfort and the pressure to be a certain way. My online friends were all very affirming and encouraged me. Looking back, I think I was heavily influenced by what I saw online and by the people I talked to. I never took hormones or had any surgeries, but I socially transitioned for several years. I cut my hair, bound my chest, and asked people to use a different name and pronouns.
After a while, I started to question everything. I read more and thought more deeply about what gender actually is. I came to believe that male and female are just biological terms for the two types of humans needed for reproduction. A man is an adult human male, and a woman is an adult human female. I don't think gender itself is a social construct, but I believe gender roles are. Those roles are based on personality, not on your sex. You can be a masculine woman or a feminine man; that's just your personality expressing itself.
I realized that for me, transitioning was a way to avoid accepting my body. I was using it like a "soma" pill from Brave New World—a way to numb the discomfort instead of dealing with the root issues, which were my depression, anxiety, and the fact that I just didn't like the changes puberty brought. I started to see "gender affirmation" therapy as a problem. Why would a therapist just affirm what you feel without helping you understand why you feel that way? It seemed like it was about creating perpetual patients.
I decided to detransition. For me, that meant stopping the social transition and accepting that I am a woman. It wasn't about womanhood being better; it was about accepting my "original self," the body I was born with. It's easier to live in alignment with my biology. I don't regret exploring transition because it led me to this understanding, but I do regret that I didn't have someone to tell me to step back from the internet and really think it through when I was younger. I wish I had been encouraged to work through my body issues and self-esteem in a different way.
I believe detransitioning is about regression in the best sense—going back to your natural state. You can't live in a void. Accepting that I am a woman, and that I can be any kind of woman I want to be, was the healthiest thing for me. My body doesn't define my personality. I can still be masculine if I want; that's just me.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 15 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty, specifically hated breast development. Began spending a lot of time online. |
| 16 | First identified as non-binary, influenced by online communities and friends. |
| 17 | Socially transitioned to living as a trans man (change of name, pronouns, chest binding). |
| 21 | Began seriously questioning my transition after independent research and reflection. |
| 22 | Decided to detransition and stop my social transition. Began the process of accepting my female body. |
Top Comments by /u/ftfrftfr:
The fact that detransitioners and desistors exist is proof that transitioning is definitely not the only option to fight off gender dysphoria.
What the hell is gender affirmation therapy? Why should a therapist affirm your illness? They want you to be ill so you can be a perpetual patient to doctors and pharmaceutical companies.
No, if you think a passing internet opinion that has brought the trans question to your head means you should transition, then you need to quit the internet for a while. Literally. Just stay off this toxic machine. If only I had someone to tell me that when I was questioning. I'd go as far as to say tell a trusting adult about this; you're a minor and more impressionable than adults; that's just reality, so please, for the love of all things good, protect yourself from mind pollution.
Well, since the very definition of man and woman is completely overturned, this situation has only been a matter of time. Can't have masculine women if woman is something that anyone can claim at will, that anyone can describe out of their ass. I hope to live long enough to see this trans trend die.
Not to mention some women are literally hairier than some men due to their genes (eg a woman with hirsutism vs an east asian man). I've even seen one really tall and husky woman who legit had a deep male voice. She was clearly just a village lady who had many children and most probably wasn't literate to even know about this trans stuff.
That's what detransitioning is for: to regress back to your original self to the best of your ability. Your "performance" is just your personality. Be a masculine woman if that's who you are. You'll never not be a woman. So trans people have the megaphone to always declaim their "identity" and anyone who doesn't affirm it is a bigot, but us detrans people are not entitled to a fraction of that? If someone misgenders you then kindly correct them.
Women have the biological potential to bear children, while men beget children. That's it. We're all human and we all have our differences, but in reality we are far more alike than we are different. That difference is up to you to set yourself apart from others. That difference has very, very little to do with womanhood or manhood. Having a woman's body or man's body is not much different from a person born with purple eyes, or with down syndrome, or limbless. It's just chance, but you can decide to use it against yourself or for yourself.
This is excellent!
Male and female are just terms used for any creature or species that require a two-way fertilization process to produce offspring. Man and woman denote a human male and a human female, respectively. In the same way, a male bovid is called a bull and a female bovid is called a cow.
Gender is not social construct, but gender roles are, which are simultaneously dependent on the person's personality.
We detransition to become our original selves since the new body is artificial. We don't become male or female with transitioning. It just screws up our biology and you're basically a perpetual hrt patient. Since being a woman or man doesn't matter, the best and truest thing to do is become your original self again.
They're two sides of the same coin. Men and women are different because of their sex, and gender roles are largely dependent on these differences. For example, men tend to be buff and burly because that has been advantageous for males, likewise women tend to be more affectionate and tender. These characteristics are the norm but not necessarily normative. What people confuse between sex and gender is really sex/gender and gender roles. Having certain or "opposite" gender roles is just personality and is quite fluid, whereas sex and gender are basic biology. Many languages don't even have separate words for sex and gender, or even pronouns. Just a single neutral pronoun.
Brave New World by Aldous Huxley. In the book, soma is a pleasure pill in the utopian/dystopian world. They consume it at the slightest inconcenvience or discomfort, or to get high. That book was written in the 30s I think. Enormously ahead of its time.