neurodivergence is the NUMBER ONE cause behind a feeling of generalised dysphoria. autistic people really struggle with this and often suffer with a disconnection between their emotions and their bodies. that's why it's so often co-morbid with other conditions like anorexia. dissociation, detachment, depersonalisation are all features of autism spectrum disorder. so is alexythymia- an impaired ability to recognise and describe emotions- and hyperfixative behaviour. ALL of these things together are the perfect conditions for someone to become sucked into a niche community online and become really fixated on fantastical solutions.

unfortunately, misery and addiction are team sports. people find communities online that validate some of their worst fears and feelings about themselves, and become hooked on it. for example I have come across a streamer community that are all addicted to various hard drugs and alcohol, constantly abuse and take advantage of each other, yet they all stick together anyway- because *misery loves company*. I get the SAME vibes from TQ+ communities online. real crabs in a bucket. sometimes people become utterly trapped and forget that there is an outside, that they don't have to stay. it can help to give them a little push to remind them that the outside world is still there.

people seem to gain little to no clarity about themselves from time spent in the trans community; when you 'identify with' something you are projecting your emotional core onto something external. you are saying, 'this exists separately to me, and I resonate with it'. you cannot 'identify as' something that you already are, because it's already within you. you can only 'identify as' things that you have seen outside of the self. it's all in the language that we use. language REALLY matters and it tells you how people really feel. the concept of 'identifying as' something comes directly from the experience of an unstable or unreadable internal identity- something that should be associated with neurodivergence and personality disorders.

I spent years and years feeling confused and disoriented because of my neurodivergence. I finally got a chance to have a break from life for a bit and just learn and work with myself and I understand everything so much better, so much calmer with much less anxiety. I achieved clarity and peace of mind from philosophy and thought and time with the self and reconnecting with the world around me and the people in it. I think that's what most people need, but our environment drowns out the quiet at all times and doesn't give you a chance to rest for long enough. we really do need to go and touch grass, go out and meet people, pick up some new hobbies, try a new skill, visit somewhere we haven't been before, eat better, condition our bodies and minds to be healthier and stronger. the kindest thing you can do for the self is to stop running away from it like it's an unwanted chore, and treat it with respect and nurturing instead.

people are not living consciously. they are detached from their bodies and suffering as a result. the cure is to flip your awareness and do everything mindfully and with purpose. some days I hate doing housework. but on good days it's a welcome challenge because it wakes up the brain and keeps me active. like it's all about making conscious effort towards better choices, life is about the process of things and not the finished result. hence why "I will be happy when I have finished transition" doesn't really work; because transition is a full-time commitment to an ongoing process that is never fully completed. your partner has a lot more agency and power over himself than he realises. he maybe just needs some help remembering that. it's hard work! but FAR better than being constantly pushed around by the weakest instincts that we have.

unconsciously perhaps, males transition because they *want* to be objectified whereas females transition because they *don't*. at the centre of it all, even with all the hand-wringing and postmodernist whataboutery, there is still a very very clear male/female divide. the MtFs are in so deep with the affirmations of each other that they are some of the worst misogynists of all, because they literally cannot see life from a female perspective and they don't try to, yet they claim it as their own. they project their male, sex-oriented perception onto us and declare that we must be like that too. there is none of that respectful distance that transsexuals and transvestites used to have- they do their own thing but they did it on their own time and in their own spaces.

the way that this culture has escalated from being in the shadows to being very very visible but also much more violent and aggressive seems quite similar to the pattern of a sexual deviant growing in confidence and committing more and more transgressive crimes until he is stopped. given it's mostly being driven by that exact type of person, who is excited by violating boundaries, I think that's a serious cause for concern socially. an entire group of men are doing this *together* and we are letting them escalate.

I was never interested in feminist literature before I encountered MtFs. seeing how they treated JK Rowling and the radfems, not just online but how they behave in real life at protests as well, appalled me and made me realize that these are not people that I want to associate with, they are not our allies and they are not our friends. they hate us. they want to be us but they don't care what we think or feel. even a few MtFs I know IRL have behaved in socially unacceptable, creepy ways towards me and my lesbian friends, my ex-partner was assaulted by a MtF friend that she trusted who invited themselves to our house.

you are right that New Transgenderism is a different thing to Old School Transsexualism. the psychological background may be similar but the social expression of it is very very different. philosophically it's completely different too. I don't think it's in anyone's best interests to let the same people who think it's acceptable to say things like "kill yourself" and "die in a fire" to strangers online dictate which words are safe to use. that's literally insane. exactly what all those greatest 20th century works of dystopian literature was trying to warn us about

maybe a year ago I saw kids on tik tok posting about the hogwarts game and the harry potter films throwing up a disclaimer on the screen that they UNEQUIVOCALLY DO NOT SUPPORT JK ROWLING but that actually they quite like the harry potter franchise and please can I have permission to enjoy it again?

if you have to ask your "friends" and "allies" what is allowed for you to say, do and think, usually against your better judgement, they're not really your friends. or allies.

this is partly because of the "life-saving care" rhetoric, all the hyping it up that it will fix everything for you and your life will be perfect afterwards and you will finally be your "true" self. in a similar way to a born-again christian, now they have that revelation and they're still riding on that high they might retrospectively look back and feel as though everything in their lives was leading up to this "watershed moment", separating the Before and the After.

the faith-based structure and tone of transgenderism sets this up perfectly. you are literally putting all your eggs in one basket when you transition so it will only work if that person believes there are no other baskets available. notice that those who have been through the whole process usually double down the hardest, because failure is simply not an option for them. there is no way back.

of course born-again christians don't have to take hormones or get surgeries to be christians. they don't have to do anything to themselves cosmetically. that's where transgenderism is totally unique- it's structured like a quasi-religion, but no other religion has ever required invasive medical treatment to participate. the way people talk about it and to each other within TQ+ groups is fascinating and terrifying at the same time. I think we will see more of these bizarre faith-based, semi-philosophical, semi-political, pseudo-religions around altering the body and mind in the future. we are entering an age of the Self like never before.

it's fascinating to watch people do "we have always been at war with East Asia" on themselves, don't attack them for it though. show compassion and sincerity and try to break down their illogical thinking by just asking more questions and prompting them to think. a lot of people kind of "snap out" of it once they challenge what they passively accepted as truth.

"for the majority there is something else going on"

whatever this is, it's a very powerful social phenomena. a lot of it seems to be coming from the top down; motivated by business spotting a new gap in the market, or organisations who technically already achieved their purpose but now need to pursue a new one to justify their own existence.

it's also come at a time of rapid social change, unstable world politics and a growing crisis of mental health and identity all across society. everyone is looking for answers and everyone feels a sense of unease and upheaval.

there's just so many things happening at once that turned out to be the perfect storm of conditions for a semantic and social contagion to really take hold, on a much bigger scale than we've ever seen before. I don't think this is entirely organic. there are a lot of people and entities who stand to benefit socially and financially from pushing young people to medicalize themselves- I find it bizarre that so many young people calling themselves leftists, individuals and free thinkers will critique capitalism as exploitative and yet not extend that same treatment to things like sex work and gender affirming care, because they've been told not to.

the Newspeak, the historical revisionism, the incoherent lies, the way you're encouraged to doublethink and pretend and not think for yourself, the hostility and anger and for the love of god don't drop the ball or you'll get eaten alive... somebody is stoking the fires on purpose to prevent any real political resistance taking hold. whilst we're all yelling at each other nobody's doing anything about industry profiteering, corruption and warmongering. or housing or healthcare or schools falling apart or sewage dumped in the rivers or MPs stealing expenses or billions being moved out of the country to offshore tax havens.

so many young people are unemployed, unhappy, and unstable. can you imagine what could be achieved if that frustrated energy and want for a better world was directed to the right places

autistic people don't really conform to social expectations of any kind. we know what they are, but we often just don't fit into them so we don't always try to because it's exhausting to do that all the time. to be autistic is to live in a constant state of discomfort- that's something you have to learn to live with, not something to fixate on and try to run away from.

consider that a large number of young autistic people who haven't had enough time to grow into their bodies and adjust to adult life yet are finding resources online telling them that they feel this way because of gender, that there's something wrong with them, and that GAC will fix it. imo the internet is directly attacking skinny, feminine teenage boys who live in their bedrooms.

autistic people are also prone to a more literal, black-and-white method of thinking. if it's not this, it MUST be that. it's very easy to wrongly ascribe a very complex issue down to a singular cause if it has promising answers. reality generally doesn't work this way, and our worldview can be a bit rigid at times, sometimes we need a little help to think outside the box and actually see all the possibilities available to us.

puberty as an autistic person is very difficult, it's difficult for everyone but it comes with added challenges. body dysmorphia and eating disorder has quite a high comorbidity rate with autism, I'm not sure exactly why that is but it's worth mentioning that complicated issues with confidence, self-image and self-harm are extremely common in autistic people.

as an autistic person myself I wouldn't want somebody to speak over and for me, because a lot of us are independent and we're not incapable of making decisions. but at the same time I have serious, serious questions about whether GAC is appropriate for autistic people because it's such a complex disorder and it really confuses things medically. not all of us are so self-aware.

this is why it makes no sense that they're so mad at the radfems. like I don't agree with everything they say either, but second-wave feminism is responsible for giving us gender neutral clothing and toys, opening up traditionally 'male' activities like Scouting and football to girls and vice versa, they gave women the right to have their own bank accounts and file for divorce. All this only happened in the 1970s, not too long ago. it was radfems that gave us today the opportunity to present ourselves however we like and not be restricted into narrow boxes.

these views that short hair = male are not only unprogressive they are harmful to women. by insisting that it is true, they're basically saying that lesbianism/gender non-conformity is not a real thing and not worth respecting. use their own logic against them and point out how undignified, disrespectful, and offensive this is. at the centre of it all, no matter how it's defined, it's *always* been homophobia.

something you unfortunately have to learn growing up lesbian is that some men just do not respect our boundaries at all and have a creepy fascination with us. all the young men I had had terrible experiences with back in the day are 'transbians' now, because they're obsessed with us. I have no reason whatsoever to believe that their intentions are innocent. it's no coincidence that the men pretending to be lesbians are the ones who are most angry, most hardcore about pushing these bizarre ideas on everyone else, the ones setting the tone and direction of the argument, because they're using us to get what they want and it all rests on people just giving them permission to do it. it's always been about sexual entitlement; it's a big mistake and puts young women in harm's way to just allow it to happen. they all know exactly who the men and women are, but it's the pretending not to know that is the key to getting away with abuse.

inceldom and transness are two sides of the same coin, because it's about mindset. personally I would rather stick both my legs in a shredder than 'ally' with the creepy men who abused me. every young woman is at risk whilst this is going on and it's not right that we're forced to accept it by social pressure. young women need to know that they can stand on their own two feet and have their own opinions, you have that power. you can wear whatever the fuck you want, style your hair however the fuck you want, you're still female. female is so core to your being and your life experience that it should be one of your most prized possessions. women can have their pride back.

you just need to encourage them to ask questions and think for themselves. read up about our history, the history of feminism and suffrage, LGB history (the TRUE version, not the Marsha P Johnson threw the first brick version- Philadelphia Liberty March, the Daughters of Bilitis, the Mattachine Society, lesbians supporting gay men during the AIDS crisis, lesbians and gays for the miners, Erwin Gorhbandt and Carl Vaernet), seek out the information that's supposed to be 'dangerous'. there's no such thing as dangerous information unless you do not trust your own capacity to think and form opinions. encourage them to be smarter than that, which TQ+ will never do. they want you to just be good little girls and sit down and shut the fuck up (as they're so fond of saying) when you're being spoken to. nothing progressive about that. there is nothing new under the sun

maybe I'm an oldhead but I don't really get these terms 'top' and 'bottom'. they're relatively new and I've only heard trans and queer people using them. I don't think it's necessarily healthy to reinforce this line of thinking that there must be a dominant party and a submissive party, because those are naturally associated with gender roles and, tbh, sound like they stem from porn culture and consumption, not a mutually enjoyable, equally respectful and intimate experience. sorry to divert off-topic a bit, just the way this language is used is strange to me, it seems dehumanising. quite different from what I know. like the gay men's community have a totally different relationship with sex than lesbians do, that's just reality. I feel like we shouldn't even be using the same language to describe it, because the words don't fit.

that's the main problem with transgender theory, it's not just about social justice or human rights or progressivism etc but it's a philosophical assertion. a fundamentally broken and contradictory one full of worrisome cracks.

to accept that men can become women, first you have to break down the boundaries between them and deconstruct your idea of what men and women are. of course this has no real impact on reality, there are still two sexes, it's just an exercise in postmodernism- I think it is, therefore it is.

for me it's about language; language is everything, it's one of the many dimensions that work together to make up our reality. it should be treated with respect and mindfulness, because when you abuse language and you put bad intentions into your words you're having a negative impact on the reality around you (in effect that's what magick spells are, if anyone is interested in that. just a keen awareness of how your actions and intention may shape the world around you and a commitment to do it right).

for someone to come to me and tell me that the words I use to describe myself and my boundaries, that define me as an individual and separate from them, the words I use to describe my personhood and my aspirations and the things I value- to treat those words as if they are meaningless and interchangeable, so disrespectfully, and that when I use them it's offensive now- that's just incredibly narcissistic and irresponsible behaviour. how can you describe that a person has violated your boundaries and stolen something from you, if the words you would use to do that no longer describe you and what happened to you? what do you do when you need to defend yourself but you can't define where your boundaries are? what purpose does it have to achieve this? who does it benefit?

I'm not going to let the same people who throw around phrases like "kill yourself" and "die in a fire", a gross and perverse porn-related sense of humour, threats of rape and death (like they sent to JK Rowling, and still do) as if those words mean nothing at all tell me what I can and can't say. fuck. that. they have no respect for the language they use, they will bend and twist the philosophical framework to force it into the round hole when it's clearly a square.

it's not in anyone's best interests to entertain a group of people so hellbent on destroying your ability to use language. if we were talking in terms of magick I would describe them as a group of chaotic, delusional, rogue black magicians who have no idea what they're doing and are carelessly putting themselves and people around them in danger by playing around with things they don't understand.

I'm not old enough to know what it was like before about 2010. been to Pride a few times over the years and noticed how it was more and more about trans and queer, and also more centered around men's sexuality. the first time I went in 2013ish it was more family-friendly. both times I went after that I saw almost-naked men gyrating in cages, the leather pups and daddies, furries etc and I just thought... this isn't what I came here for. where are my people?

the final nail in the coffin was watching archived footage of Pride parades, protests and the AIDS crisis from 1969-2000. it was a tight community with clear, actionable goals, they supported each other whilst respecting each others' spaces, they knew how to interface with the public in a healthy and proactive way to get those rights they deserved (they left the fetish gear at home and acted like normal, socially conforming individuals). compared to the the absolute circus I see in today's activism it absolutely blew my mind that, at one point, we were so chill, so organised, so normal.

the hodgepodge of confused messaging at the protests today pisses me off. showing up with Pride flags and Marxist-Leninist flags on the same pole tells me that you don't understand what either of those things are, it projects total clownery to the public and causes people to not take us seriously. I refuse to let these people speak for us.

I stopped giving a fuck about being called a transphobe or a bigot or what have you because they're the same people who throw around phrases like "kill yourself" and "die in a fire" as if they're meaningless. they simply do not care. they're imposters. at some point the LGBT community was split by this entity that claims to be us, but isn't us. I'm finally getting through to people explaining this to them and they're beginning to understand, thank god.

I think the tide is turning and we're establishing a real community of like-minded individuals again. a lot of us are sick to the back teeth of histrionic identity politics and just want to be gay in peace!