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Reddit user /u/funnydontneedthat's Detransition Story

Transitioned: 11 -> Detransitioned: 21
female
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
influenced online
body dysmorphia
retransition
eating disorder
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The user shares highly specific, personal, and emotionally charged experiences (e.g., binding for 10 years, schizoaffective disorder, losing friends, tissue damage from binding) that are consistent with a genuine detransitioner's perspective. The tone is passionate and resentful, which aligns with the expected sentiment from someone who feels harmed by their transition. The language is natural and nuanced, not robotic.

About me

I was a masculine kid who was bullied and developed an eating disorder and schizoaffective disorder, which made me latch onto transitioning as an escape. I bound my chest for a decade, causing physical damage, because I was convinced my body was wrong. I was surrounded by messages that this was the only path to happiness and that no one ever regrets it. I now realize I was wrong, and finding a properly fitted bra and learning to accept myself as a masculine woman was the real solution. I’ve lost friends for speaking about my regrets, but I’ve finally found peace with the female body I spent so long trying to change.

My detransition story

My whole journey with this started when I was a teenager. I was a very masculine kid and I got bullied a lot for it. I also developed an eating disorder around that time, and when I was 15, I was diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder. I think all of these things mixed together made me really unhappy and confused about who I was. I’m still not 100% sure why I latched onto the idea of being trans, but looking back, it felt like an escape from all that pain and from being the person people picked on.

I started identifying as trans and began binding my chest. I became completely obsessed with my breasts, convinced they were huge and wrong for my body. I hated them. I bound my chest for ten years, from the time I was about 11 until I was 21. It caused a lot of tissue damage, and because I was also very thin, my breasts became really saggy. I was sure I needed top surgery.

During that time, I fully believed transitioning was the right path. I was surrounded by messages, especially online, that said this was the only way to be happy and that nobody ever regrets it. If you questioned it, you were called transphobic. I even said back then that I had no regrets. But that was because I was completely consumed by the ideology. It felt like the only truth.

Almost a decade later, my feelings completely changed. I realized I had been wrong. I regret the whole thing. I regret the years I spent binding and the damage it did to my body. One of the biggest things that helped me was finally getting a properly fitted bra. I was shocked to find out I was only a B cup. I had built them up in my head to be this massive problem, but a good bra and learning to dress how I wanted—whether that was in masculine or feminine clothes—completely changed my self-image. I didn't need to change my body; I needed to change how I saw it.

When I detransitioned and started talking about my regrets, I lost all my friends. The same communities that were so supportive when I was transitioning turned on me. I’ve been banned from other groups just for asking questions. They say they support you, but only if you support what they support. It’s a very isolating experience. I tried to talk to my dad about how scary it is now, being a woman who doesn’t pass as male anymore and fearing people who are stronger than me, but he just told me to stop caring what others think. It’s not that simple.

I get called transphobic now for saying I wouldn’t let my own kids transition as children. I think that’s just being realistic and honest, not hateful. We’re told to listen to minorities, but our minority—the detransitioned—is ignored because we’re seen as a threat.

I don’t think gender is what I believed it was. For me, it was a solution to deeper problems like bullying, an eating disorder, and mental illness. I don’t regret my journey because it led me to where I am now, but I deeply regret the physical toll it took and the years I lost to a false idea.

Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:

Age Event
11 Started binding my chest because I hated my breasts and felt they were too big.
15 Diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder. Had an eating disorder and was bullied for being masculine.
11 - 21 Bound my chest consistently for ten years.
21 Stopped binding. Realized the physical damage (tissue damage, sagging) and began to question my transition.
Now (Adult) Detransitioned. Found that wearing a properly fitted bra and accepting my body as a masculine woman was the real solution.

Top Comments by /u/funnydontneedthat:

10 comments • Posting since August 4, 2023
Reddit user funnydontneedthat (Questioning own gender identity) explains why detransitioners' lack of regret is often a temporary denial, arguing they are ignored because they threaten the prevailing ideology.
49 pointsSep 10, 2023
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I'm sure there's very little regret, I mean, look at all these people saying they don't regret it. /s

I said at one point I didn't regret it, I was consumed by the idea that it was the right thing. Here we are, almost a decade later, I regret it all and I'm told I'm a "minority".

So, if they always scream to "listen to minorities" why won't they listen to us? Because we are a threat to their ideology. Simple as that.

Reddit user funnydontneedthat (Questioning own gender identity) explains why they were called transphobic for saying they wouldn't let their kids transition as minors.
42 pointsSep 13, 2023
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Not trashphobic. Everything is deemed transphobic now. I said I won't let my kids transition as kids and I'm being dubbed transphobic. Even being sarcastically told that I should give them the "detrans experience".

You're not being transphobic, you're being realistic and honest.

Reddit user funnydontneedthat (detrans female) discusses being banned from SuicideWatch for asking a question, noting the sub is only supportive if you agree with them.
28 pointsJul 31, 2024
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Suicide watch also banned me(claimed I couldn't comment or post but still can lol). And just for asking a question. They're supportive until you don't support what they support. Don't worry too much about them. It sucks getting yelled at by people who claim to care but this sub is much more welcoming.

Reddit user funnydontneedthat (detrans female) explains her reasons for transitioning, citing childhood bullying for being masculine, an eating disorder, and the onset of schizoaffective disorder at age 15.
15 pointsMar 31, 2024
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I'm not autistic. I think one of the main reasons I decided to transition was because I got bullied for being very masculine as a kid and having an eating disorder. I'm sure the onset of schizoaffective disorder at 15 didn't help either.

I still don't know 100% why, but those may be some of the reasons.

Reddit user funnydontneedthat (detrans female) explains how binders and being thin damaged her chest, recommending a properly fitted, supportive bra as a solution.
15 pointsAug 20, 2024
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Mine, too. I was also pretty thin when I identified as trans so I'm sure that had a lot to do with it. I found that being a healthy weight and wearing a comfortable, properly fitted, supportive bra helps a lot. But make sure it's properly fitted. Ill-fitting bras are awful.

Reddit user funnydontneedthat (detrans female) explains that building pectoral muscle can help, but sagging is normal, and shares her experience with binding for 10 years.
11 pointsJun 30, 2024
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Working out to build up pectoral muscle can help but boobs are boobs. It's normal for them to sag. I did binding for 10 years, by the time I was 21 they were super saggy. I was also pretty thin at the time, building muscle and wearing a properly fitted bra instead of binding help mine not look so deflated and sad.

Reddit user funnydontneedthat (detrans female) explains why she stopped binding and recommends dressing butch and a well-fitting bra instead, warning of the tissue damage and pain caused by binding.
9 pointsMar 30, 2024
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Just dress butch. I wear very masculine clothes or very feminine clothes. And a well fitting bra does wonders for how you feel about your breasts. When I was binding I though I had huge boobs and I hated it. I was obsessed with it. Turns out I'm a b cup. That actually really helped my self image. Just dress how you want to, do be careful if you continue bind, though. No one seems to talk about the tissue damage and pain it can cause in trans spaces.

Reddit user funnydontneedthat (Questioning own gender identity) discusses the pressure of automatic affirmation in trans healthcare and the silencing of detransitioners.
5 pointsSep 3, 2023
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Well, right now we have a culture of always affirming a trans identity. If you don't then you're somehow transphobic. We are also flooded with the idea that nobody regrets their transition and detransitioned people are such a tint minority that they can't be right nor matter.

Reddit user funnydontneedthat (Questioning own gender identity) explains that acne should subside as hormones regulate and advises consulting a doctor about hair loss concerns.
4 pointsAug 4, 2023
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It should subside when you're hormone start to become regular again. Female hormones are a bit more complex than our male counterparts.

If you're really concerned about the hair loss then tell your doctor and see if there is a different drug or work around. I never had a problem with it causing me to lose hair but I can't say it won't cause you to.

Reddit user funnydontneedthat (Questioning own gender identity) explains the isolating consequences of detransitioning and the dismissal of their safety concerns by a parent.
3 pointsAug 17, 2023
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I don't have any friends, lost them all after coming out as detrans.

I've tried to tell my father about these things in the past and he just gives me the "stop caring what others think" which is easy for him to say when he's a man who looks like a man and doesn't have to fear being actually harmed by people far stronger than him.