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Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a bad-faith actor.
The user consistently identifies as a cis woman who never identified as trans or medically transitioned, which aligns with being a desister in the broadest sense (someone who considered but did not pursue transition). The comments show a coherent, personal perspective on female socialization, body image, and gender politics. The passion and specific, relatable anecdotes (e.g., childhood experiences with body shame) are consistent with a genuine person.
About me
I started hating my female body when I hit puberty because of the unwanted attention it got. I dressed as a boy for years just to feel invisible and safe. It wasn't that I felt like a boy; I just wanted to escape being sexualized. Now, as an adult woman, I've processed that fear and am comfortable with myself. I see now that my discomfort was with how society treats women, not with being female itself.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender is a bit complicated, even though I never actually identified as trans or transitioned medically. Looking back, I can see a lot of overlapping feelings, especially when I read the stories here.
When I hit puberty around age 12, I hated what was happening to my body. I developed a womanly figure, including a bigger butt. My family would make comments about it, and even though they thought it was a compliment, saying things like "Men love big butts!", it made me feel awful. I was only a kid and I was terrified of any kind of sexual attention. I felt like people were staring at my body, and it made me incredibly uncomfortable. It wasn't that I hated being a girl in my soul; I hated the way my female body was being seen and sexualized.
Because of that, I started dressing like a boy. I wanted to hide my shape and just be invisible. I didn't want anyone to see me as a developing young woman. That phase lasted for years, from about 12 until I was 18 or 19. My real, more feminine self didn't really come back until I was older and I had started to process those feelings of discomfort and fear. It’s interesting to see so many detransition stories from women who felt the same way I did—we just wanted to escape the unwanted attention that comes with having a female body.
I’ve always been comfortable identifying as a cis woman, but I understand the pressure. I also have thick body hair, and I’ve had to learn to accept it because it’s just a normal part of being a mammal. Society pushes this idea that women have to be hairless, and it’s an unfair standard. I think a lot of body issues for women aren't just about hating a part of yourself, but about hating the attention it brings.
I don't have any regrets about a medical transition because I never went through one, but I do regret the years I spent feeling like I had to hide my body. I think if I had been a teenager today, with the messaging online, I might have been convinced that my discomfort with sexualization was actually gender dysphoria. I'm glad that didn't happen.
I also think it's important to talk about how women are treated in general. I'm a left-leaning person, a straight-ticket Democrat voter, but I feel like I can't talk about certain things without being called a TERF. It's frustrating because I see detransitioning as a real issue that needs to be discussed with compassion, not silenced. And from my own experience, I know that being a confident woman doesn't mean people treat you better. Studies, and even stories from men who've used female names at work, show that women are often treated worse and with less respect, no matter how confident they are.
Here is a timeline of my experiences:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 12 | Hit puberty. Hated my developing female figure, especially my butt, due to unwanted comments and fear of sexual attention. |
| 12 - 18/19 | Dressed like a boy to hide my body and avoid being seen as a woman. |
| 18/19 | Started to feel more comfortable with my body and began presenting in a more feminine way again. |
| Present | I am a cis woman who understands the pressures that lead some women to transition, but I am comfortable with my gender. |
Top Comments by /u/funsizedaisy:
being branded by Democrats as "hate."
I'm curious how many Dem voters share this opinion though. My FB friendlist very heavily skews Dem and some of my friends post in support of these bills. I bet a lot of Dem voters just bite their tongue because they know liberals are gonna attack them.
I'd say I'm fairly leftist (not sure how liberal my views are. But I am left). I'm a Dem voter. Like straight D down the ballot. And I'm in support of these bills. I feel like this is one of the only places I can say this though. Because I know for fact I'll be labeled a TERF if I say this anywhere else.
I'd assume it's like any other disorder, in that you can't just remove it.
I don't have gender dysphoria so idk what the coping mechanisms are. Seems like society at large think transitioning is the only coping mechanism but since a lot of trans people don't ever transition there's gotta be a lot more to it. Maybe ask for advice in trans circles on why some of them chose not to transition? They might be able to lead you down a path in your mindset on being more comfortable with your body.
I'm a ciswoman, dont have PCOS, never went on T and my body hair is thicker than that. I'm not here to invalidate your insecurities but hopefully you'll come to realize that being hairless is just an unfair trait that's pushed on women. A lot of us are hairy af and it's just a stereotype to peg us as smooth and hairless. We're mammals. We're hairy. It's normal. I dont like my body hair either but the older I got the more I accepted it. If it doesn't go away you'll probably eventually accept it too.
when many woman especially with large chest get it from a mixture of the male gaze
This is something that I think a lot of people aren't understanding enough about. Insecurities arent always about stuff you hate about yourself, it's also stuff that draws a lot of unwanted attention. I hate when the latter insecurities get dismissed because "but guys love big boobs!" or whatever tf.
My family used to make comments about my big butt ever since I was a child and no matter how angry I would got they would just say "oh stop! Men love big butts!" Idgaf when men like, especially at 10 years old. All that shit did was make me wanna cover my ass as much as possible. I always felt like people were just staring at it. Honestly, it's not even that big. It probably looked big for my size because I was skinny but it's not like JLO booty or anything.
It took me yeeeears to get over it. I dressed like a boy as soon as I hit puberty because I hated how womanly my figure became (I was only 12. I was scared of the sexual attention). My girlyness didnt come back til I was about 18/19. I've always identified as cis but it's interesting to see all these detrans stories from women who just wanted to step out of their body for similar reasons that I did.
I usually don't comment in this sub because I'm cis and never identified as trans. I'm only in this sub because I rarely get to see the topic of detransitioning without one side of the argument being strongly anti-trans or the other side acting like it's too rare to care about. I'm mostly here to listen so I give zero input. But as a ciswoman, i can tell you that I'm confident in the gender I present and no, people don't treat me better because I'm confident.
Several studies show that women are literally respected less. There was a viral post not too long ago of a man who started emailing clients under a female name and said the way people treated him was night and day. He found his job hard to do when the clients thought he was a woman because of how nasty they would get with him (he talked exactly the same in his emails, the only thing that changed was that the customers thought he was a woman). And that's just one little example. You can find several other instances and studies that prove we treat women like shit.