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About me
I never felt comfortable as a man and thought transitioning would fix that. After two years on hormones, I was disappointed with my results and felt I would never truly pass as a woman. I realized I was influenced by online ideas and didn't know I could just be a feminine man. I stopped due to these feelings and health concerns. Now, I'm much happier living authentically as a man who wears women's clothes and rejects strict gender roles.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started from a place of just not feeling comfortable or confident as a man. I never had a very masculine face, and men's clothes never seemed to fit me right. No matter what I did with my style, I felt like I looked terrible. I saw transitioning as a way to get closer to what I thought I ought to be, a kind of solution to that deep discomfort.
I started taking hormones and identified as a trans woman for about two years. But things didn't turn out the way I expected. The physical changes were really disappointing to me at the time. I wasn't making progress with things like makeup, and I just really felt like I would never "pass." I started to realize that most male-to-female trans people never really pass, and that was a huge reason I decided to stop. It felt like an impossible standard to meet.
I also began to feel like I didn't belong. Even though I had wanted to be a woman, I felt like I just wasn't one and never could be, no matter how hard I tried. The common idea online that just wanting to be another gender means you are trans—I don't really believe that anymore. Things aren't as black and white as the doctors made them out to be.
There were also health concerns that pushed me to quit HRT. I was worried about the increased risks, like blood clots and fatigue. Lifting the weight of hormones and the pressure to perform a gender was a big relief.
Looking back, I see now that I was heavily influenced by online communities. I've had to do a lot of work to deprogram myself from that indoctrination, as well as deal with some childhood trauma. I felt compelled by gender roles and didn't see any representation of gender-nonconforming men. I didn't know how to just be myself if I wasn't trans.
Now, I've come to terms with the fact that anyone can wear what they want. I'm comfortable just being me, a feminine guy. I still wear mostly clothes made for women—not dresses or skirts, but things like tops and pants because I think the way they're cut fits me better. The most important thing I've learned is to just be yourself, whoever you know that to be. You will face adversity whether you transition or not, so you have to do what makes you comfortable. I don't regret exploring my gender because it led me to this understanding, but I do regret not realizing sooner that I could have just been a feminine man without medically transitioning.
I don't have any hatred for the trans community, and I think reasonable discourse is important. The voices of women and detrans people need to be heard. But for me, the answer was to stop trying to change my body to fit a role and instead just live my life authentically as a man who doesn't conform to stereotypes.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Early 20s | Began identifying as a trans woman and started hormone replacement therapy (HRT). |
| Early 20s + 2 years | Stopped HRT after approximately two years due to disappointment with physical changes, feeling I would never "pass," health concerns, and a growing sense of not belonging. |
| Present | Living as a detransitioned, gender-nonconforming male. |
Top Comments by /u/ghostghosterghostest:
I just really felt as though I could never pass. I wasn’t making any progress on makeup and the physical changes after 2 years were really disappointing at the time. In retrospect I realize I took a lot of those changes for granted, but I expected a lot more.
I also just felt as though I didn’t belong with via women and other trans people. I felt like even though I wanted to be woman I just wasn’t and couldn’t be one no matter how hard I tried. common trans wisdom on the internet may suggest that the desire to be another gender in and of itself is a marker of trans ness, but I don’t know if I believe that anymore.
At the end of the day, you just need to listen to your heart. In any case GNC people will always have hard times, whether you decide to transition or not. You will face adversity either way, but keep your head up and don’t feel like you have to commit either way, whatever makes you comfortable is best.
really surprised every one is getting so bent out of shape over her feelings. honestly everything she wrote here is really the sort of reasonable discourse we need to improve both the trans community and it’s objectives. we need to make sure the voices of women and detrans people are heard loud and clear, especially in this time where so much is changing. hope more people read this and listen to what she has to say.
as a detrans male, i stopped taking hrt when i realized that things weren’t as black and white as my doctors made them out to be. Most mtf will never pass and that’s a huge reason that i personally decided to simply be a feminine guy instead. there’s also a lot of health concerns that spring up from hrt like increased risk of blood clots, fatigue, and other issues. so those are the main reasons i quit. As with gender presentation, i say its best to just do you and dress how you want. it’s harder for us guys to do that without drawing so much attention, but lifting the weight of caring too much off your shoulders is a big relief. So if you wanna get anything out of my little rambling comment, just be you, whoever you know that to be.
I just didn’t feel confident with male presentation. Men’s clothes didn’t fit me very well and I don’t have a very masculine face. No matter what I did to change my style or appearance I just wasn’t comfortable and I thought I looked like shit. I saw transitioning as a way to just be closer to what I thought I ought to be.
Obviously now I’m not trans, but i’m glad I finally came to terms with the fact that anyone can wear what they want. I still wear mostly clothes made for women, not dresses or anything like skirts but I just think they way theyre cut fit me better. I definitely felt compelled to gender roles and now I’m comfortable being just myself, however that is.
this all sounds very helpful and I appreciate your answer. i’ll spare you the details but i know i have a lot of work to do yet on deprogramming myself both from the traumas of my childhood and the indoctrination into the trans community i experienced. thank you for your advice, again.
I will definitely say that was true to my experience. There’s so little gnc male representation both in life and in our art and media that I really didn’t know how to carry myself if i wasn’t trans. Thankfully i’ve learned to just be more comfortable being how I am, but it wasn’t easy and there’s still a lot of uncertainty...