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The comments demonstrate a consistent, nuanced, and passionate perspective that aligns with a genuine desister/detransitioner. The user engages in complex arguments, offers personal insight ("it helped me immensely"), and provides empathetic, if blunt, advice. The tone is frustrated but coherent, which is consistent with someone who has experienced significant personal harm.
About me
I started transitioning because I felt a deep shame about my female body and wanted to escape the pressures of being a woman. I took testosterone and had top surgery, believing it was the answer to my discomfort. I eventually realized I was trying to escape oppression, not my sex, and that the physical changes couldn't fix my underlying issues. Connecting with other detransitioned women gave me the perspective to accept myself as female. While I have permanent regrets about my body, the journey brought me to a place of greater self-awareness and honesty.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition was long and complicated, and it took me a long time to untangle my own feelings from what I was being told by others and online. For me, a lot of my initial discomfort was rooted in a deep unhappiness with the expectations placed on me as a female. I went through a period of intense shame about my body, especially during puberty. I hated my breasts and felt that everything about being female was grotesque and wrong. I now see that this was a form of internalized misogyny, even though at the time I would have fiercely denied hating women. I was attracted to women and found them beautiful, but I couldn't extend that same acceptance to myself.
I believe a lot of my feelings came from a place of low self-esteem and depression. I was lying to myself without even realizing it, trying to escape the reality of being a woman in a world that often treats us poorly. I thought transitioning would solve this deep-seated discomfort. I took testosterone and eventually got top surgery. For a while, I thought it was the answer. I felt like I was finally becoming my true self.
But over time, I started to realize that the physical changes didn't fix the underlying problems. My motivation to transition wasn't entirely pure; part of it was a desire to escape the oppression and discomfort of being female, to try and date women as a man. I had to come to terms with the fact that even after surgery and hormones, I would always be female. Any partner would have to deal with that reality, and so would I. I couldn't actually become male.
What really helped me was connecting with other detransitioned women. Talking to them put everything into perspective. I realized I wasn't special or unique in my feelings of discomfort. In fact, it's completely normal for women to feel uncomfortable with the oppression we face. We are born into an oppressed class, and pretending otherwise just makes you more vulnerable to feelings of isolation and dysphoria. Accepting that reality, as hard as it is, was the key to my healing. It allowed me to stop running and start building a life where I could be happy and healthy as myself, a female adult.
I do have regrets about my transition, specifically about the permanent changes to my body. The surgeries and hormones have left me with serious health complications, and I am now infertile. I can't get those things back. But I don't regret the journey because it led me to a place of much greater self-awareness and honesty. I had to go through it to finally understand myself.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and developing female body. Hated my breasts. |
| 17 | Began identifying as non-binary, then later as a trans man. This was heavily influenced by online communities. |
| 19 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 22 | Had top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 25 | Began to seriously question my transition and explore the roots of my discomfort. |
| 26 | Stopped taking testosterone and began identifying as a detransitioned female. |
| 27 | Started connecting with other detransitioned women, which provided crucial perspective and support. |
Top Comments by /u/gib_loops:
yes that's textbook internalized misogyny. (not the libfem spinoff of internalized misogyny you are probably more used to being discussed) as i said, it will take you probably many years (and many human connections) to bring it up into your subconscious and then move away from it. best of luck :)
Everything about my femaleness feels grotesque and wrong to me, and I can’t imagine being happy in my own skin no matter what I do to it. I don’t hate women or female bodies at all—I’m attracted to women and find them extremely beautiful—but being female myself brings me a great deal of shame and self-hate, and I can’t change that fact about my body no matter what.
how can you write that and still think you don’t hate women or female bodies. it screams misogyny.
i don't think its healthy to have 'being able to date women as a man' as motivation to retransition. because even if you do retransition, you will never have a functional penis, so in all of your relationships with women, you and your partners will still have to deal with the fact that you're female.
so because your mom didn't want to paint a toddler's nails, you are blaming her for your entire life today. whack. but im not getting the vibe that its a priority to you to live a happy and healthy life and thats something you need to work on with a therapist or smth
i have no idea what the source(s) of your discomfort is (are), i always recommend making friends with detrans or desisted women - conversations with them can put a lot of things in perspective.
also make a commitment to yourself to be honest. a lot of gender feelings come from us lying to ourselves, usually without even realising it.
we are born into an oppressed class and realistically we're not getting out any time soon, if anything things are getting worse for women globally. as long as we lie to ourselves about our existence, we are vulnerable to dysphoria and feelings of isolation.
its okay, you are probably just very young. im too old to be giving people (especially misogynistic people) that much power over me.
at the end of the day, you are female and your interests and hobbies and thoughts and feelings and whatever else you believe sets you apart from the rest of us, are perfectly normal * and in itself a proof that women do have all of those interests and hobbies and thoughts and feelings *
maybe to you but it helped me immensely. realising, against what gender identity theory has been insisting on for decades, that all women are uncomfortable with their oppression and that im not special and different for feeling that way. it set everything in perspective for me.