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- Personal experience: They share specific, detailed personal history (e.g., being a butch lesbian, having top surgery in 2019, detransitioning at 23).
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- Consistent perspective: Their viewpoint is consistent throughout the comments, expressing a clear butch lesbian identity and a critical yet personal perspective on transition and detransition.
About me
I started identifying as trans at 20 because I was uncomfortable being a woman and had severe top dysphoria. I had top surgery at 24, which helped the physical discomfort but didn't fix my deeper insecurities. I realized I was trying to solve my low self-esteem by changing my gender, and I detransitioned by 23. My journey was influenced by my religious upbringing and seeing womanhood as something vulnerable and negative. Now, at 26, I'm finally comfortable and settled as a butch lesbian, without needing to prove anything to anyone.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender was messy, but I’ve come out the other side. I’m a butch lesbian, and that’s something I’m finally comfortable with. For a long time, I wasn’t. In my early twenties, around age 20, I came out as trans. I was uncomfortable being a woman and didn't feel confident. I felt more confident presenting in a masculine way, and I also had a real top dysphoria; my breasts were a source of sensory hell for me. That combination made me believe that transitioning was the right choice.
I ended up getting top surgery back in 2019, when I was about 24. In a way, it solved the sensory issue—that awful feeling was gone, and living in my body became easier. But transitioning didn’t fix the deeper problems. It actually made my insecurities worse. I realized that the confidence I was feeling was temporary, a kind of euphoria or honeymoon period that eventually wears off. When it did, I was left with more clarity. I saw that I had been trying to solve issues of low self-esteem and discomfort with being a woman by changing my gender, and it wasn't the answer.
By the time I was 23, I had stopped identifying as trans. I detransitioned. For me, it was about coming to terms with the fact that I could be a masculine woman. A lot of my struggle, I think, was also tied to seeing the world around me. I grew up in a religious background, which I’ve since left, and that environment definitely shaped my views. Learning about the traumatic experiences of other women close to me when I was young, like a friend who was raped, also affected my perception of the world and what it meant to be a woman, making it seem like something vulnerable and negative.
I don’t really have regrets about my top surgery because it did relieve that specific physical discomfort, but I do regret that I saw transition as a solution to my deeper psychological issues. I benefited from stepping back and working through my emotions without the framework of gender identity. Now, at 26, I’m comfortable with who I am. I don’t feel the need to prove anything to anyone anymore.
The online world played a role, too. Social media algorithms are designed to show you more of what you interact with, and I saw how that could create an echo chamber. It’s not a conspiracy to push trans content, but it is a system designed to keep you hooked, and it can definitely influence a vulnerable person. I’m glad I found my way out of that.
Here’s a timeline of the main events for me:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 20 | Came out as transgender. |
| 24 (2019) | Had top surgery. |
| 23 | Detransitioned/Stopped identifying as trans. |
| 26 (Present) | Comfortable and settled as a butch lesbian. |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/goblinkingthrowaway:
I don’t have much to say other then I agree. I’m a butch lesbian and the whole transmasc community is quite off putting. I even feel weird in certain butch spaces where there seems to be now an uptick in butch women who are bi. I dunno, there’s not many spaces left for people like ourselves. I’ve grown accustomed to being a loner, shit I always have been.
Insurance usually requires certain things if they cover it. Typically a note from a therapist and they expect it to be followed with certain behaviors. Typically you can’t get top surgery covered unless you’ve been on hormones for a certain amount of time, I’d assume bottom surgery is even harder to get covered seeing as that’s a million dollar surgery for afab people once each step of the surgical process is complete. Insurance won’t just willy nilly cover shit and most of the times they’ll fight you on simple stuff let alone something they really do consider elective rather then necessary. Top surgery alone is 10-13k out of pocket. If they go through insurance it’s not just as easy as walking in and getting the things you want. Maybe for hormones it is I don’t know but surgery with insurance for anything is a guaranteed headache.
Euphoria or the honeymoon period exists for a lot of things and yes eventually it wears off. However with it wearing off you gain clarity into the situation. That clarity may give way to negative feelings or may give way to stable positive feelings which would give way to a sense of neutrality. Feeling seen shouldn’t be the reason for transitioning.
Social media gets its main income from selling user data and ad space.
I’ve had Pinterest since 2012 and they never listened to “not interested” and most websites don’t. Why? Because clicking not interested implies interaction. The best way to clear out suggestions is by interacting with ads you want to see. Especially when it comes to Pinterest. They’re algorithm is incredibly touchy. One search is enough to turn you’re entire main page into that thing.
TikTok is also shit when it comes to recommending things I’ve seen a lot of people comment on seeing shit they don’t want to see. Honestly blocking is the most effective way to show any social media you aren’t interested. I don’t think it’s necessarily shoving it down people’s throats as it is a hot button topic right now.
There’s a lot of evidence that advertisers are tracking us and know more about us then we do. That’s nothing new. A lot of the generic ad shit can be chalked up to accounts where there is not a solid or long term period of interacting with site content. They don’t have a profile on you so they’re doing the average based on whatever stats you gave it to work with. It being offensive is not the intent, the intent is to sell. If they aren’t getting interaction on ads that doesn’t necessarily bode well in terms of reselling ad space to certain companies, they want to sell you things you want.
Further more all social media is advanced spyware at this point. Of course propaganda has moved there. It’s the main point of consumption. No point in pouring money into newspaper propaganda if no one will see it.
There’s a lot of moving parts. Companies invested interest in tracking you, target ads, government monitoring stats, propaganda, individual content creators, the user. That shit can get incredibly wonky. I don’t think it’s a conspiracy to push trans content, it’s a conspiracy to keep you hooked, consuming and engaging. If that’s what you’re engaging with that’s what you’ll see.
Actually no, i was uncomfortable being a woman and did not feel confident. I did however feel more confident being masculine and i did have a form of top dysphoria which combined led me to believe it was the correct choice but in the end it just aggregated my insecurities more. After coming to terms with transitioning not being the solution i was able to work through my emotions and i am now comfortable with who i am.
Age might also be a factor. I was 20 when i came out as trans i am 26 now, going on 27. Detransitioned/desisted at 23.
Gonna agree here. Emotionally mature people don’t act like how op is describing. Yes women can be catty/cut throat but once you leave high school if you’re still dealing with those women in your personal circles, it’s more of a symptom of the circle you’re in rather then standard social practice.
Man I would not trust hormones from online. Testosterone is a controlled substance in a lot of places as it’s used as a steroid often times. I don’t know how they plan on taking the T (injection or gel) I wouldn’t trust anything from online. Wouldn’t trust it at all. I’d be more concerned with guiding your child to in person options through medical professionals rather then trying to stop them entirely.
Kind of sounds like you’re focusing on women who are unstable. There are crazy abusive women, there are crazy abusive men. Sex/gender has nothing to do with being a good or stable person. As many people I know who have crazy mothers there are as many people I know who have crazy fathers. What is your point here?
I believe diamond was on that documentary they did an interview here
Walter Heyer has a website seems it’s still updated.
Guess I’m doing a deep dive on this now cause I’m curious I’ll post as a find stuff just so I don’t forget to report back.
Edit: I wanna make it clear I don’t necessarily support these individuals because a lot of them are also ex gay or support those things. I don’t agree with that, nor do I endorse it. Im just a nosey internet asshole.
Edit 2: taking a break, I’m on my phone and to do serious digging I want my laptop so I don’t know when that’ll happen. This has also been mildly triggering coming from an exchristian background having been forced to watch this stupid documentary years ago.
Breast tissue doesn't grow back once removed. That tissue is gone. What can happen though is people can put on weight and the fat cells that remain will swell causing it to appear as though theyve grown back when really all that is happening is the fat tissue is behaving like fat tissue. If the person were to then loose weight the fat tissue will shrink and it will go back to how it was post surgery. No new cells or tissue is created.