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- Personal, consistent experience: The user shares specific, first-person details about their transition (starting T young), detransition (physical changes off hormones), and ongoing life (dating, body image).
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About me
I was fourteen when I was prescribed testosterone after just two doctor's appointments, which happened way too fast. My transition was driven by trauma and body dysmorphia, not a true gender issue, but my doctors never explored that with me. After stopping hormones, my body changed back somewhat and I learned to use my natural voice to sound feminine again. I used a home laser device to remove body hair, which helped me feel comfortable in my skin. I now know I am female and deeply regret my medical transition, wishing I had taken time to work through my issues first.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was messy and deeply influenced by not understanding myself. I was a young teenager, only fourteen, when I was prescribed testosterone. It happened incredibly fast; after just my second doctor's appointment, I was given a shot. Most of my treatment wasn't even overseen by a proper doctor, but by a nurse. I never saw a gender therapist or an endocrinologist. That experience alone made me lose a lot of trust in the medical system.
Looking back, I can see that a lot of my desire to transition was tied up in trauma and a deep discomfort with myself that I didn't understand. I hated my breasts and my developing female body during puberty; it felt alien and wrong. I now believe this was a form of body dysmorphia, not a true gender identity issue. My practitioners never paid any mind to my underlying traumas, which were a huge influence on my decision to transition in the first place. I needed therapy for that, not hormones.
I started taking testosterone very young, which made me naturally flat-chested. When I eventually stopped T a few years later, my body did change back somewhat. Within a couple of months, I developed a small A-cup chest, and I got more fat in my hips, thighs, and butt. I'm pretty skinny, so I was actually happy with that size. My voice also changed. It never got back to exactly how it was before testosterone, but I learned to make it feminine enough to pass as female. I didn't even do formal voice training; I just noticed my "nice customer service voice" sounded very feminine, so I consciously used that more until it became my normal voice. I've learned that plenty of women have deeper voices, and that's okay.
I did consider bottom surgery at one point, but I'm so glad I never went through with it. I've come to believe you shouldn't cut off something so sensitive and capable of bringing pleasure. I also learned about the extremely high complication rates and how invasive it is. Human anatomy is full of variation, and there's nothing wrong with the body I was born with.
A big part of my process in detransitioning was dealing with body hair. I got an at-home IPL laser hair remover device, which worked great. It just required patience—it took about ten weeks for the majority of my hair to be gone. It was a practical solution that helped me feel more comfortable in my own skin again without making permanent changes.
Now, my thoughts on gender are much simpler. I know I am female, and I don't feel the need to do anything that feels unnatural just to prove to society what my sex is. My journey taught me the hard way how important self-discovery is. You really need to give yourself the time and space to think things through, especially if you have any doubts. If I could go back, I would tell my younger self to postpone any medical steps until I had really worked through my issues. You can always do surgery later if you still want it, but you can't undo it.
I do have regrets about transitioning medically. It was a path I took for the wrong reasons, and it caused me a lot of unnecessary struggle. I benefited immensely from stepping back and understanding my own body dysmorphia and trauma, rather than continuing to affirm a mistaken identity.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Was prescribed testosterone after only a second doctor's appointment. Never saw a gender therapist. |
| 14-18(?) | Took testosterone for several years. |
| 18(?) | Stopped taking testosterone. |
| 18(?) | Within a couple months of stopping T, developed an A-cup chest and more fat in hips/thighs. Began natural voice adaptation. |
| 18(?) | Used at-home IPL laser hair remover to remove body hair over 10 weeks. |
Top Comments by /u/guten_fag:
From my experience most men do not even care, if anything many of them will embrace your unique anatomy (as they have in my personal experience). Human anatomy is full of variation and there is nothing wrong with you. I would not cut something so sensitive capable of bringing me to orgasm off of my body. I recommend body dysmorphia therapy.
The fact that you're posting on this sub is enough for me to think you should at least postpone it until you really know what you want. In my experience my practitioners did not pay mind to my traumas which were in reality a large influence for my transition in the first place. Self discovery is hard work but it's very important you give yourself the time and space to think things through. You can always do the surgery later if it's what you really want right?
I also read as male but I feel if you maybe dyed your eyebrows and eyelashes, plucked your eyebrows to be in a thin feminine shape and got more feminine glasses you could do a lot to feminize your appearance. I found the shorter hair to actually make you look more feminine. Of course other things, like makeup, permanent makeup, hairstyling and clothes would have a bigger impact if you're up for it. But at the end of the day you know you're female and I wouldn't do anything that feels unnatural just to prove to society what your sex is. I'm wishing you the best sister 🙏
Lol this exact thing happened to me too only when I was 14. No therapy required beforehand, literally just got a shot after my second doctors appointment. Most of my treatment wasn't overseen by a doctor but by a nurse. Never saw a gender therapist or endocrinologist. After this experience I don't think I'll ever trust a doctor again.
I'm with you on some of this but I have also met trans women who pass really well who choose to not get bottom surgery because it is just a very invasive surgery with extremely high rates of complications. Blair White made a vid explaining how she has no plans to get bottom surgery because of how it is basically like a piercing in that if you don't constantly keep the hole full it will close up and give you a massive infection. Also, I do think it's possible for some genuinely trans women to be bisexual or maybe even lesbian but the amount of lesbian identifying trans women now is extremely disproportionately high. Like you said I think it boils down to how they interact with women they're attracted to, if they act like another woman or like a pervy straight guy.
Not sure if this is helpful but you can get an at home IPL laser hair remover for less than a couple hundred dollars. I got the silk'n infinity device for abt 120 euros and it works great, just requires some patience. You can find cheaper ones on Amazon just check the verified reviews first. It took me about 10 weeks to have the majority of my hair gone. Thicker hair like armpit and pubic hair takes longer, but trust me if you do it consistently it will work.
This is a common but true saying: there is someone for everyone. I have met men who are really into muscular and in that sense more masculine women. I think the trick is to just try to find men who are into what you are. For example, I'm pierced and tatted so I make sure I'm only with guys who admire my piercings and tattoos. Otherwise they will make you feel like shit for not being what they're attracted to.
In my experience no, your voice won't get back to exactly how it was before but you can definitely at least make it feminine enough to pass as female. I didn't even voice train I just sort of learned over time. I noticed my "nice customer service voice" sounded very feminine, so I consciously put on that voice more often until it became my norm. Remember that plenty of women have deep voices!
For me it did, I went from being naturally flat chested from going on t at a young age to an A cup within just a couple months off t. I'm pretty skinny so I'm actually happy with this size. I also got more fat in general, in my hips, thighs and butt. I recommend keeping an eye on your diet though. Eat well and plenty.