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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a bad-faith actor.
The user's perspective is consistent with a desister (someone who considered but did not medically transition). Their comments show:
- Personal experience: They reference their own past consideration of transition and struggles with identity.
- Consistent, nuanced philosophy: Their views on identity, societal pressure, and self-acceptance are complex and repeated across multiple posts over a year.
- Engagement with the community: They offer empathetic, thoughtful advice to others, which is not typical bot behavior.
The passion and criticism of trans ideology and "Big Pharma" are common and expected viewpoints in the detrans community and do not indicate inauthenticity.
About me
I'm a feminine guy who considered transitioning in my early twenties after spending too much time on social media. I realized my confusion came from pressure to fit a masculine stereotype and from the immersive world of online content, which I saw as a kind of advertisement. I stopped watching porn and started therapy, which helped me understand that my real goal was self-acceptance, not changing my body. I now see myself as a feminine man and don't believe I was born in the wrong body. While I don't regret exploring it, I'm glad I avoided permanent medical steps and learned to love myself as I am.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started in my early 20s. For about six months, I seriously considered transitioning. I’m a guy who has always looked quite feminine, and I think that played a big part in my confusion. I spent a lot of time online, especially on Instagram and TikTok, and I saw all these perfect, confident trans people. But I’ve studied photography, so I know how easy it is to create a convincing lie with good lighting, makeup, and editing. I started to see it all as a kind of advertisement, and it made me very skeptical.
I realized a lot of my desire to be a woman came from spending too much time around a very toxic, performative kind of masculinity. I felt pressured to act a certain way that wasn't me. I thought maybe I needed to embrace my feminine side but in my own male body, rather than change my body entirely. The idea of taking hormones for the rest of my life, going against my body's natural coding, really worried me. What were the long-term effects? I decided I needed to learn to love and accept myself as I am first.
I also had a big problem with porn. I believe it’s a powerful form of mental conditioning that slowly alters your mind. Modern HD porn is so immersive and realistic, it can really mess with your head and create desires that aren't truly your own. I had to stop watching it to clear my mind and focus on my real life.
I saw a psychotherapist for a while, and just having an understanding adult to talk to helped me a lot in a subtle way. It grounded me. I also used CBD oil to help with anxiety, though I was careful with it because I’d overused other psychoactive drugs in the past.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's all very complicated. I don't really buy the idea that people are "born in the wrong body." What is a soul's gender? I think a lot of people, including me, just feel different from the cultural stereotypes for our sex. I see taking hormones as a form of biochemical body modification, like something from transhumanism, rather than a necessary medical treatment. I believe you should be able to do what you want with your body, but you have to be sure it's for you and not because of societal pressure.
I don’t regret exploring transition, but I am very glad I slowed down and didn’t go through with medical interventions. I realized I could be a feminine man and that was okay. I didn't need to change my body to fit into a category. My main regret is getting so caught up in online hype and almost making a permanent decision based on that. I benefited from therapy that wasn't just about affirming a trans identity but about understanding myself better.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 22 | Briefly considered transitioning for about six months, but decided against it after thinking about the long-term effects of hormones. |
| 22 | Started psychotherapy and began using CBD oil to help with anxiety and to stay grounded. |
| 22 | Stopped watching porn to break the mental conditioning and focus on my real life. |
| 23 | Fully embraced identifying as a feminine man and accepted that I didn't need to change my body to be myself. |
Top Comments by /u/herrwaldos:
Imho - Slow down, give it a year of thought.
99% of the stuff on IG or Tik-Tok is fake, or with heavy artistic manipulations. I know it - I have posted on IG too.
I have studied photography - photography is fake - it is a lie. Movies are fake too - 25 frames per second of lies - well nowadays it's 100 frames per second or so.
It's very easy to make convincing images, videos - pull up a confident face, with a smile - speak wise words, appear smart - have some good make up and lights - etc etc - without any reality check.
Believing IG/Tik-Tok is like believing ads on a TV.
Don't believe the hype! ;) It's Big-Pharma - going Big-Trans with a Big-Hrt sidekick.
About tops - it's not boobs, that make or make not a man or woman - some guys have man-boobs, some women have no boobs.
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Who are the people, that are born in the wrong body? Are there then people without bodies? Does it not relate to topics of souls, spirits etc?
Let's say then, there are souls born in wrong body? Does a soul have sex or gender?
These are speculative questions, for the sake of speculation - idk if anyone has correct answer and can prove it.
Perhaps, many people, dues to some development variations, hormonal variations feel somehow different from the cultural stereotypes of sex gender.
What is expected from each gender varies within cultures and through history.
It supposedly signifying alianses or references to Communism, Marxism or other Social movements.
Tho, in the given context, imho they just put it there for some comie cred points.
And the whole graffiti stuff perhaps is sold out as well.
What does detransing have to do with Communism, it's a personal medical, psychoneurological choice.
I agree to this! Stop watching porn! It is a slow but strong mind altering manipulation. A kind of mental conditioning.
Plus porn nowadays is not what it was 15 years ago, when it still sort of pretended to be 'art' and the quality was not so good. And it was obviously looking porny, nowadays it's 60fps HD Full Colour range 3D - total realistic immersive experience - of course it changes mind and mind states, otherwise they would not bother making it.
Another topic: The wish to become one with the object of desire. Check, if that might be the issue. I'm not saying it is, but try to be aware of it.
Generally, it's good to stop porn, more time for yourself and your life, more positive and healthy energy.
Cheers!
'I feel like I have missed out on being a woman and being femenine. I miss the life I never had as a femenine girl. ' you are 15yo, if I understand correctly from your post. I do not think you have missed your life - it is just beginning.
' I want to grow my hair really long and wear makeup and jewelry like I have never done.' - just do it - long hair and jewelry is not limited to girls, a lot of guys have long hair and wear jewlry too.
It is also completely ok to be a masculine girl or a feminine guy or be somewhere in between or mix things as you like it.
'I am still extremely uncomfortable with my body and chest, but I don't want to be stuck in between man and woman anymore. What do i do? How can I navigate whatever this is at school after being an out/transitioning trans guy?' - a lot of people in their teens feel uncomfortable and unsure in their bodies. you are always free to change your mind on this, you live with your mind and body for yourself. If you feel that you do not want to be a guy, you do not have to do it. Simply be a girl.
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But what is a woman? I want to ask.
So perhaps, if I understand correctly - how the trans 'philosophy' works:
There is a kind of general category called 'woman' and inside that category, there is 'cis woman' and 'trans woman'.
Thus the ''trans woman is woman' - means 'trans woman' is part of a greater category called 'woman'. Perhaps Logic scholars can write this in better and proper maths.
Now it is a kind of logic and language game. But what is this 'woman' - this 'general woman'?
I find this problematic - as some kind of mathematical trick is used to paint over the biological natural reality.
And where do intersex, ambigious genetalia, androgynous, non-binary people belong?
Technically - taking hormones is biochemical body modification.
Perhaps you can look at it from transhuanism or posthumanism pov, even cyborg concepts.
That is, I assume - you are not taking hormones for some acute and important body heath reasons.
Ultimately - it is your body, you can do what you want with it. How you want to look, etc.
Tho, one must try to discern - do you want your body shape changed, because of your own wish - or do you want to, because you want to fit society pressure?
But why did you take HRT? Did you yourself wanted the buds removed? What do you want to achieve with taking the hormones?
Many young humans, till mid 20s and later can look very androgynous, non-binary or in between - it is not final definition of their sex, gender etc. And other humans develop sex, gender specific body shape earlier.
NB: These are just my opinions - I do not represent any community and I am not a qualified specialist in medicine or psychology etc.
'And how do I socially detransition without my friends who are trans seeing me as a horrible bigoted person because of the reasons that I detransition?'
- It is ok to change ones mind - it is ok to experiment, to see what works for you. (Edit: I deleted the part that I thought was too judgemental)
- Do not give in to peer pressure, do not please friends. Friends might change - but your body and your mind will always be with you. No one can know you better than yourself.
- If, it is possible to transition, it is possible to de-transition - by the same logic. There is nothing bigoted about choosing to be how you want to be.
- If you have only chosen so far to change your prononuns - well that is only a language game for now - go back to your original ones.
- Perhaps, think, what you want to do in your life and with your life, what profession or business or politics, what are your goals? Thus perhaps the gender question will resolve naturally.
Cheers!
It's the capital industries that provide the hrt hormone chemicals.
What is the true self?
What are the perfectly collectivist human gods? Who decides what is perfect? Who decides wjat id god?
I feel god right now, f eg, who are you to oppress me with your 'trany dogma'!
What if, the system for no oppression, becomes the new oppression? Like USSR.
Yes, I'm with Marx, but we can't be naive hippo hippies.
Perhaps we were fed an ideological opium.
Soon, Coca Cola will have Hammer and Sickle on theirs logo, because it will mean nothing.
Perhaps people don't want to traumatise you more, by writing careless or unresearched comments.
It's easy to get miss understood through text, and drama follows, so folks just maybe stay away.
I'm going to write some points here, but please remember, I'm just a redditor, I have no qualifications, use your best skepticism, feel free to disagree:
Perhaps you are closer to intersex, Non-Binary or two-spirit people... There are subs on Reddit about that. Also androgyny might be something to research.
I was and still am a rather feminine looking guy, I think it is ok, we don't have to mold ourselves out of our own skin so to say, just to fit some societies stereotypes.
I had a short half year's long idea of sort of transitioning, but then I thought, I'll have to take horms for the rest of my life, against my natural body coding... what are the long-term effects, do I even want that... Perhaps I should learn to love and accept myself as I am first, since I don't have any other significant body problems.
Perhaps your desire to be a woman - is perhaps you need to embrace your feminine side, perhaps you weren't allowed to be as you want..Maybe people forced you too much into hyper masculine activities..
So I figured out, I had just spent too much time around toxic acted pseydo masculinity with other traumatized people. I needed to drop that. Embrace my feminine side in my male body... And I feel more comfortable and complete that way.
But for you, definitely you should also seek consulting - doctor's, therapists, nutritionists, etc.
Having a psychotherapist session, simply being able to talk with some understanding adult in live setting - for me it helped a lot, but in a subtle kind of way.
On substances, I find that for me CBD oil helps staying grounded and calmer. I had previously overused all sorts of psychoactive drugs tho. But be skeptical with CBD or weed, it works for some, and doesn't work for others.
All the best, Cheers!