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The user expresses a consistent, passionate, and nuanced perspective rooted in radical feminist critique of gender, which is a common viewpoint in detransitioner spaces. The comments show personal reflection, empathy, and a deep understanding of the topic, including the psychological experience of puberty and the detrans/desister mindset. The advice given is specific and personal (e.g., offering to compare notes on medical issues), which is not typical bot behavior. The user identifies as someone who has never identified as trans but has experienced gender-related feelings, fitting the profile of a desister.
About me
I started out deeply uncomfortable with society's expectations for females, and I felt a sense of power when people mistook me for a male. I spent years in online spaces arguing that medical transition was a way to escape misogyny rather than a true identity. A serious health issue with my ovaries gave me a personal understanding of how alienating a body can feel. I now realize my problem was always with restrictive gender roles, not with being female. I've found peace in accepting myself as a woman who doesn't conform, without needing to change my body.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started with a deep discomfort, not with my body at first, but with what society expected from me as a female. I saw femininity as a trap, a set of rules designed to make women submissive and servile. I remember feeling a real sense of power and safety on the rare occasions I was mistaken for a male. It was a relief to be seen outside of that feminine box.
I never officially identified as trans, but I spent a lot of time in online spaces where these ideas were common. I strongly believed that the answer to hating feminine expectations was to reject being a woman altogether. I thought that medically transitioning was a form of conversion therapy, a way to avoid the real work of self-acceptance. I argued that people should be able to wear what they want and act how they want without hating their born bodies.
A big part of my thinking was influenced by seeing how rigidly society defines gender. I felt that telling one sex their destiny is to serve others pushes people, especially young women, to seek a way out through transition. I was very focused on the idea that teenage brains are still developing and that the intense emotions and identity confusion of puberty are temporary. I believed that if kids were better educated about the temporary nature of these feelings, they might not make permanent decisions about their bodies.
My own medical issues, specifically a problem with my ovaries that required surgery, also played a role. It gave me a personal understanding of how complex and sometimes alienating our bodies can feel. I offered support to others going through similar medical struggles, comparing notes on symptoms and side effects.
Looking back, my main issue was with gender roles, not with my sex itself. I now see that my desire to be seen as male was an attempt to escape the constraints of femininity, not an innate identity. I don't regret the time I spent questioning because it led me to a place of greater self-understanding. My regret is that I ever believed the solution to social pressure was to change my body. I've benefited from stepping away from that mindset and learning to accept myself as a woman who doesn't conform to stereotypes. I don't need to transition to be free.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Late Teens | Began feeling intense discomfort with societal expectations of femininity. Felt powerful and safe when mistaken for male. |
| 20s | Engaged heavily in online discussions, arguing that medical transition was a form of conversion therapy and that self-acceptance was the goal. |
| 20s | Developed a serious ovarian issue that required surgery, leading to a deeper personal understanding of bodily alienation and medical complications. |
| Present | Realized my discomfort was with gender roles, not my sex. Came to a place of self-acceptance as a gender non-conforming woman. |
Top Comments by /u/hexchromosome:
I've said this before and I'll say this again.
We do kids a disservice by not telling them what puberty actually entails.
Your brain is literally under construction. Your frontal cortex in particular. This is the area responsible for planning, reasoning, and making sound judgements.
Your brain is going to rely more on the limbic system during this time. That's your highly emotional lizard brain. Impulsiveness, paranoia, fear, and self obsession take center stage.
Your body will feel alien to you. Your identity will feel like the most important thing, and also an ever shifting target. Self hatred will gnaw at your heels.
And then it's gone. It goes away so gradually that you don't notice, but it does go.
You don't have to be abused to hate femininity.
Femininity is just ritualized submission. It's a series of traits that society fosters in girls and women in order to make them dependent, servile, and decorative.
You're probably coming to terms with the fact that society wants to put you in this trap because you're female, and it feels relieving to be perceived as male.
I've been mistaken as male a couple of times, and it made me immensely happy. I've never identified as trans. But it made me feel safer, more powerful.
That's a load of bullshit, and part of the reason why women are actively seeking to transition. You tell one sex that their destiny is to be a servant to everyone else, instead of realizing that all people, male and female, come with their own personalities and desires.
Medically transitioning is conversion therapy, I think the words you're looking for are self acceptance.
You should feel safe in expressing yourself through the clothing you want and the personality you have. You shouldn't be driven to hate the body you were born with so much that you feel the need to change it, or driven to change your personality because you're told it doesn't "match" your body.
I'd give it some time, your body is probably just adjusting to the new hormone levels. I really wouldn't worry much about it yet, but keep a log so you can track your symptoms over time.
Feel free to keep checking in as you get more info, and PM me if you want to talk. I've had a lot of medical problems, and needed surgery for an ovarian issue. We can compare notes if it would help