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The user offers specific, empathetic advice rooted in personal experience (e.g., voice changes, dopamine withdrawal, social awkwardness). The language is consistent, passionate, and directly addresses the struggles of detransition, which aligns with a genuine desister or detransitioner.
About me
I started transitioning because I was deeply unhappy and wanted to escape my female body, believing it was the answer. After taking testosterone, I realized changing my outside didn't fix my internal struggles and I had made a mistake. Detransitioning has been hard, with physical changes and awkward social moments to navigate. I've learned that my real issue was poor mental health and not accepting myself. Now, I'm focusing on self-care and learning to be okay with who I am as a female.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was a long and difficult one, and it started from a place of deep unhappiness. I never felt like I fit in, especially during puberty. I hated the changes my body was going through; I developed a strong hatred for my breasts and just felt completely disconnected from being a woman. I had a lot of depression and anxiety, and my self-esteem was incredibly low. Looking back, I think a lot of this was about escapism. I wanted to escape from my body, from my life, and from myself.
I spent a lot of time online and I was definitely influenced by what I saw there, as well as by friends in similar situations. It felt like transitioning was the answer to all my problems, a way to become someone new and finally be happy. I socially transitioned and then I started taking testosterone. For a while, it felt like I was fixing things. I had a goal, and I was chasing it.
But the happiness didn't last. I started to realize that changing my outside didn't fix what was broken on the inside. The goal I had been chasing just vanished, and I felt completely lost. I had made this huge decision, and I had to face the consequences. I realized I had made a mistake. I decided to stop testosterone and start detransitioning.
It hasn't been easy. My voice is deeper and it's taking a long time to come back, my body is still readjusting to producing its own hormones again, and there's a lot of awkwardness socially. I've had to tell people, including teachers and friends, that I made a mistake. I've learned that anyone who gets angry at you for doing what's best for your health isn't a real friend. Most people are just happy if you're happy, and the awkwardness does fade with time if you just own your truth.
A big part of my healing has been stepping back from the internet and from unhealthy habits, like a problem with porn. I had to go through a kind of dopamine withdrawal and really re-cement myself in reality. I had to clear my mind and slowly figure out who I actually am, piece by piece, without all the outside noise. I had to ask myself what started all of this and find a new path forward.
I don't really know what I think about gender anymore. For me, it turned out not to be the real issue. The issue was my mental health and my inability to accept myself. I do have regrets about transitioning. I regret not looking deeper into my own mind first, and not understanding that my discomfort might have been from other things. I put my body through a lot for a solution that was only temporary.
Now, I'm just focusing on taking care of myself and moving forward. I'm learning to be okay with who I am, as a female. I’ve found that being honest about my past, calling myself a tomboy, and just being upfront with people works. There are people out there who will accept you for exactly who you are.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and hated my developing breasts. Felt depressed and anxious. |
| 17 | Heavily influenced online and by friends, began to socially transition. |
| 18 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 21 | Realized it was a mistake and that I was lost without my transition goal. Stopped testosterone. |
| 21 | Began the process of detransitioning, telling friends and teachers I had made a mistake. |
| 22 | (Present) Voice is slowly returning, focusing on self-care and building a new life. |
Top Comments by /u/hidingrighthere2:
Sooner you go back, the sooner you can move past this stage in your life. We all make mistakes, but don't stay in one in fear of what others will say. Your social life will get a bit awkward, but overall will be fixed. Your family will be happy to have their daughter back, you friends will be happy as long as you're happy, and your classmates won't really care
Sounds like you found the logical result, remember if this was an easy solution, this sub wouldn't even exist. Clear your mind till it's empty, then start bringing parts back in, only the parts that are you. What do you stand for, is this the right solution, is there another way, why are you going down this path, what started it. Just slow down, and solve each problem one at a time so you don't become overwhelmed
Do what you feel is right, it's your life and you're the primary person who has to deal with the consequences. If anyone asks you, just say "I made a mistake", admit fault and move on. Think of when was the last time you were happy, when things made sense (minus any environment influences), and chase it. You're lost because your goal in life is gone and you need a new one.
teachers are people to, remember that it's their job to be there and support you regardless of the decisions you make. Some might even be relieved, as for how awkward it's gonna be, yeah, it's going to be. Just a part of life, you could just not bring it up, or just own it. Say something to the effect "Yeah I made a mistake and was tricked into transitioning, sorry about the trouble." It'll convert the awkwardness into pity from your peers
There's nothing you can do then, you made a decision, and everyone had to accommodate for it, they have the right to treat you differently for a bit. Either ignore it or convert it to pity. Both result in them treating you normally in a few months, just give it time
Majority of guys won't care about the voice, just slap "I'm a tomboy" on your dating profile and you'll get guys who are into all the masculine traits you have. Heck, I have that on mine "If you're a tomboy, congrats, I'm already in love." Bring it up if asked, be honest and you'll have honest guys at your doorstep
Just tell them, any friend who goes "wow, screw you for making a decision that's better your emotional and physical health" isn't a friend you want in the long run.
Start de-transitioning, and once you're back to passing, ask to be called by your female name and female pronouns
Honestly? Avoid it, and ascend to just wanting to take care of yourself. No more jerking it, take some Ashwagandha pills, avoid the internet for a while, re-cement yourself into reality. Be ready for the dopamine withdrawal though, that's gonna be a bitch to overcome
Dug through your posts and at least your voice is returning. I don't know how long it took, but it's still coming back, which means your body is producing estrogen again. Give it time, if it was easy, this subreddit wouldn't exist. Who knows how much further you'll be in the next six months. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here, though I'm regularly described as a jackass.