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About me
I started feeling deep discomfort with being a girl as a child, which got worse during puberty and was completely tangled up with a history of abuse. I transitioned to male as a teenager because I believed it was the only way to escape my pain, and my therapist at the time ignored my trauma to push me toward medicalization. I eventually realized I was a woman chasing an unachievable fantasy and that I needed to deal with my trauma instead of running from it. Now, I am detransitioning and it is incredibly difficult, especially living with the permanent changes from surgery. I am finally seeing a good therapist to work through the abuse that was the real root of my problems, and for the first time, I feel like I'm on the right track.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was just a kid. I remember feeling a deep discomfort with being a girl from as early as five years old. That feeling got a lot worse when I hit puberty. What I didn't understand then, and what nobody seemed to want to explore, was that this discomfort started at the exact same time as a history of abuse began in my life. The two were completely tangled up together.
By the time I was twelve, I came out as non-binary and started binding my chest. I hated my breasts. A couple of months before I turned fourteen, I decided I was a trans man. I really believed that taking testosterone and having surgery would finally make me a 'real' man. It felt like the only way to escape the body that had caused me so much pain and that was connected to the abuse I suffered.
I started seeing a therapist when I was fourteen. I told her everything—about the abuse, my history of self-harm, and my eating disorder. But she completely disregarded all of that. She only focused on the gender dysphoria. After eight months, she wrote a letter to support my medical transition, and she even lied in it, saying I had no history of those other problems. I felt like I was being pushed down a path without anyone asking why I was really so unhappy.
For a while, transitioning did work. It gave me a kind of hope. But that hope didn't last. I eventually hit a wall where I realized I would never be a real man. I was just a woman chasing a destructive and unachievable fantasy. I was stuck in an exhausting cycle of hating my female body and feeling like I was never "male enough." The trans ideology felt like an escapist's strategy, a way to run from reality instead of dealing with my deep-seated trauma.
Now, I'm detransitioning. It's really hard. It's hard to wake up in the morning, hard to look in the mirror, and hard to hear my own voice. But I'm finally seeing a proper therapist who is helping me work through the trauma and abuse that I believe is the real root of my dysphoria. I'm trying to cope with these feelings in a healthy way now, by accepting the fact that I was born female and I will never be male.
My family has been surprisingly supportive through this detransition, much more than when I first came out. I don't blame my parents at all. They were scared. The medical professionals made them believe that transition was the only solution and that if they didn't allow it, I would kill myself. They just wanted their child to be safe and happy.
I have a lot of regrets about my transition, especially the top surgery. I miss my breasts and I feel damaged, like a part of me is gone forever. I feel like I was taken advantage of by an agenda that promotes minors altering their healthy bodies. Even though things are difficult now, I have more hope than ever because I feel like I'm finally on the right track, dealing with the real problems instead of masking them.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 5 | First experienced gender dysphoria; history of abuse began. |
| 12 | Came out as non-binary; began binding chest. |
| 14 | Decided I was a trans man; started seeing a therapist. |
| 14 | Therapist wrote a supporting letter after 8 months, disregarding history of abuse, self-harm, and eating disorder. |
| 14 | Underwent top surgery. |
| Now (Age not specified) | Detransitioning; seeing a new therapist to address trauma. |
Top Comments by /u/hydramax445:
I began binding and came out as non-binary at 12 and decided I was trans a couple months before scheduling my first appointment with her (age 14). I began experiencing gender dysphoria at age 5 which worsened during puberty. Despite that however, I did have a history of abuse (which started around age 5 and worsened during puberty) that the therapist was aware of. She disregarded it completely, and lied about it later on in the letter, as well as lying about my history of self-harm and an eating disorder. I had been seeing her for 8 months when she wrote this letter. I still struggle with gender dysphoria, but now I am trying to cope with it in a healthy way, accepting the fact that I will never be male. I believe that my dysphoria is due to the sexual, physical, and mental abuse that I suffered.
I feel like I was taken advantage of by an agenda that promotes minors mutilating and altering their perfectly healthy bodies. Transitioning worked until I realized that I would never be a real man, and I would instead exist in an endless and exhausting world of hatred for my body being female, and never being “male enough”.
I am now seeing a proper therapist to work through all of my past trauma, as well as the process of detransitioning. My family has been very supportive, much more so than when I first came out as trans. I want to clarify that my parents just wanted a safe and happy child, and I had not been safe or happy for a long period of time. The “medical professionals” made them believe that this was the solution to all of my struggles, and if they didn’t let me transition that I would kill myself. It’s hard to wake up in the morning, it’s hard to look in the mirror, it’s hard to hear my own voice, but I also have more hope now than ever, knowing that I’m finally on the right track.
I apologize, I should have clarified that my breasts are gone because of top surgery. Believe what you want, but it’s no secret that there are hundreds of other stories like this, and hundreds of other damaged people who want their bodies back. You claim to understand basic biology, then you should know that a woman can never be a man and vice versa. The trans ideology is an escapist’s strategy, running from reality. Treating gender dysphoria through transition is like treating a schizophrenic by affirming their delusions. Adults can do whatever the hell they want to their bodies, but surely, you can’t believe that a child is capable of making a life altering decision as grave as this.
What you are saying is true. I remember having teachers that were clearly against my transition, that wanted to step in and say something, but couldn’t. At 14 years old, I somehow believed that testosterone and surgery would make me into a ‘real’ man, because no one dared to tell me otherwise. Why do we let people chase after a destructive and unachievable fantasy?