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About me
I was born female and my discomfort started with puberty, when I hated the changes in my body. I transitioned because I thought being a man would feel safer, and I got testosterone very easily without any real psychological exploration. I eventually realized I had just traded one uncomfortable box for another and that my issue was more about anxiety and body discomfort than gender. Now, I'm slowly detransitioning and learning to dress in a way that makes me feel comfortable as a woman. I'm finally finding peace by accepting myself instead of trying to become someone else.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was complicated and, looking back, a lot of it was about me trying to find a place where I felt safe. I was born female, but I never felt like I fit in with the expectations for girls, especially during puberty. I hated the changes in my body, particularly developing breasts. It felt wrong and uncomfortable, like my body was betraying me. I think a lot of this was just a deep discomfort with puberty itself, not necessarily that I was supposed to be a boy.
When I discovered online communities talking about being transgender, it felt like an answer. It gave me a framework to understand my feelings. I didn't transition because I was rejected for being gay; my sexuality wasn't really the issue. I transitioned because I thought becoming a man would be a safer, more comfortable identity for someone who felt so out of place as a woman. It felt like an escape from all the pressure.
Starting testosterone was surprisingly easy for me. I made an appointment at a Planned Parenthood, told them I was trans, they explained the risks, I signed a paper, and I walked out with a prescription. There were no therapy visits or deep discussions about my past or my mental health. At the time, I was grateful for how simple it was, but now I see that it might have been too easy. I wasn't pushed to explore other reasons for my feelings, like my general anxiety or my deep-seated discomfort with my body, which might have been more about body dysmorphia.
After being on testosterone for a while and living as a man, I realized it wasn't the solution I thought it would be. I started to feel like I was just in a different box, one that also didn't fit. The process of detransition has been slow and deliberate. I've been detransitioning for about eight months now. I told my family first, and they call me 'she,' but I haven't told everyone yet. At school, people still call me 'he' until I feel ready to tell them otherwise. I'm taking it slow because I want to be comfortable in my own skin before I make any big announcements.
A big part of rediscovering myself as a woman has been through my appearance. I'm growing my hair out; it's been nine months and it's almost to my shoulders. I've found a shag haircut style that works well as it grows. I've also had to relearn how to dress. I hate looking frumpy, so I shop at thrift stores and look for specific necklines that help my figure—mock necks, halter tops, and square, flat necklines. I even learned how to sew so I can alter dresses to have a flatter chest, which makes me feel more comfortable and stylish.
I don't regret my transition in the sense that I needed to go through it to get to where I am now. It was a necessary part of my journey to understanding myself. But I do have regrets about how quickly it happened and that no one encouraged me to look deeper into my mental state beforehand. My thoughts on gender now are that it's incredibly complex, and for some people, like me, the problem wasn't gender at all, but other issues like anxiety and a profound discomfort with the body I had. I'm learning to see myself as a powerful woman, different and beautiful in my own way.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Around 13-14 | Started feeling intense discomfort with my body and hated developing breasts during puberty. |
| Around 19-20 | Discovered transgender identities online and decided to transition socially and medically. |
| 20 | Went to Planned Parenthood and was easily prescribed testosterone. |
| 20-22 | Lived as a man and took testosterone. |
| 22 | Began to realize transitioning wasn't the right solution for me and started my detransition. |
| 22 (for 8 months) | Socially detransitioning with family, slowly growing out hair, and learning to dress in a way that feels comfortable as a woman. |
Top Comments by /u/iamsecretlyapossum:
I don't find too many things on this sub offensive, but this made me irked. Not everyone in this community chose to transition out of society rejection. Being gay has nothing to do with the fact I transitioned. I transitioned as I thought it was safe. It wasn't for me. Speak for yourself with your "connection". Maybe don't make them so broad based. This is a group of humans who felt pressured to fit in a box and I'm not sure what you are saying here helps free anyone. But hose are my thoughts.
I made an appointment for her at planned parenthood in Alaska, USA for a week out. I went in, and told them I was trans and would like to start hormones. The explained risks, I signed a paper, and then was prescribed T. For me personally I didn't need therapy visits to get it, or much of anything at all, so it was quite easy.
I recommend taking it slow. I know there is no "design" per-say of how a woman should look, but it does help to let yourself soften up, and to let your hair grow if you choose. Maybe don't say anything until you're comfortable in the mirror. I found it helpful to mention the idea of my detransition to people I know won't go spreading it around till I'm ready. I've been on this journey for 8 months now. My family calls me she, but people at school call me he, until I am comfortable telling them otherwise. I wish you the best of luck, and remember who you are, don't let yourself believe anything less than the powerful women you are. We are all different and beautiful, and our journey can only speak to that. Good luck friend
I go for things with higher necs like mick neck shirts, halter tops, or things with a square flat neckline Lacy button downs are also really nice. Thrift stores have been helpful in finding cheaper things and I have gotten most of my favorite dresses and tops from those. Also a handy tip is to learn how to sew. I alter some of my dresses to have flat chests so I don't feel frumpy.
Take collagen and vitamin E! Also don't put heat in your hair unless you have to. I've been styling my hair in a shag, since it was easy to do with the shorter hair I had before. Also give yourself time, and have patience! I've been growing my hair out for 9 months and it's almost to the top of my shoulders Best of luck!!