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About me
I started as a teenager who hated being a woman because I linked it with weakness and suffering. I thought becoming a man was the only escape, so I identified as one for a while. I later realized this was rooted in internalized misogyny and a negative view of womanhood. I never medically transitioned, which I'm now grateful for. I'm currently working on accepting my female body and building my own strength, separate from harmful stereotypes.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I never felt like I fit in with what a girl was supposed to be. I hated being a woman. For a long time, I thought the only way to escape that feeling was to become a man. I believed that being a man was better—it meant being strong and free from the suffering I associated with being female. I thought I was weak and doomed just because I was born a woman.
I now realize that a lot of these feelings were actually internalized misogyny. I had a very simplistic view of it at first, but after doing some research and talking to people, I understood that my desire to be a man and my hatred for my female body were rooted in these deep-seated beliefs. I had connected being a woman with being weak, suffering, and having a body that hates you. I couldn't think of a single good thing about being a woman.
It was a lonely feeling because when I tried to talk to my friends or my mother about hating being a woman, it seemed like I was the only one who felt that way. It helped a lot to read stories from other women online who also found it difficult, because it made me feel less alone.
Figuring this out was a huge turning point for me. I started to challenge the idea that I had to follow society's stereotypes for women. I learned that I could be whoever I wanted to be, no matter what body I have. I even got inspired by strong female characters, like Vi from Arcane, and decided I wanted to get physically stronger myself. I'm still working on motivating myself to start exercising, but the desire to feel strong in my own body is new for me.
I don't regret exploring my gender because it led me to understand myself better, but I do regret not questioning these negative beliefs about womanhood sooner. My transition was mostly social and in my own head; I never took hormones or had surgery. I'm grateful for that now, because it gave me the space to work through these issues without permanent changes. I'm now focused on learning to accept my body and separate my sense of self from the harmful stereotypes I internalized.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
Age | Event |
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Early Teens | Started feeling intense discomfort with being a woman and puberty. Believed being a man was better. |
Around 17-18 | Began identifying as non-binary and then as a man online and with close friends as a way to escape my feelings about being female. |
19 | Did research and realized my feelings were linked to internalized misogyny. This was the start of my detransition. |
19 (Present) | Actively working on accepting my body as a woman and challenging negative stereotypes. Seeking inspiration from strong women and building a positive self-image. |
Top Comments by /u/its-yanna:
I did some quick research and figured out why my desire to be a man and hate being a woman could be internalized misogyny. Thanks, apparently I had a simplistic view of what internalized misogyny could look like. Do you have any tips on how I could deal with this? It's hard to learn to accept my body when I can't think of a single good thing about being a woman
Thanks for the advice ^^ I've been trying to keep in mind that women don't need to follow the stereotypes imposed by society and that I can be whoever I want no matter what body I have. I've been thinking about starting to exercise to get stronger physically (my inspiration is Vi from Arcane), but first I have to overcome my laziness lol
Honestly, everything you said really resonated with me. I tend to think that being a woman equals suffering, being weak, and having a body that hates you. Like, I don't think all women are inherently weaker just because they're not men, but I feel like I, personally, am weak and doomed to eternal suffering for not being a man and I don't even know where I learned that because as far as I know none of my family members are misogynists. How did you stop having this internalized misogyny??
Yes!! Sometimes I like to see other women's stories about how difficult it is to be a woman because it makes me feel less alone, it's a shame I don't know any women like that in real life. I've tried talking about it with friends and my mother, but it seems like I'm the only one who hates being a woman
It's definitely not a stupid reason to have thought that boys are better just because your favorite character was a boy. I understand connecting with a character so much that you want to be them or that they make you feel things for better or worse, I'm pretty much like that too lol