This story is from the comments listed below, summarised by AI.
Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the comments, this account appears to be an authentic young person, not a detransitioner or desister. The user explicitly states they never thought they were trans and joined the sub out of curiosity, not personal experience. There are no red flags suggesting it's a bot or an inauthentic account.
About me
I was always curious about transition because I never felt strongly like a man or a woman myself. I came here to understand it better, but I quickly learned to just listen to people's personal stories instead of asking questions. The online debates felt too aggressive, so I focused on breaking down my own feelings with common sense. I realized my own journey was about accepting my lack of gender and learning to be comfortable in the body I was born with. Now, I'm at peace with just being myself.
My detransition story
My journey with all of this is a bit different because I never actually transitioned. I joined this community a long time ago because I was genuinely curious and confused about the whole thing. I saw it becoming really popular online, especially when I was around 17, and it just interested me a lot. I found it baffling, mostly because I don't really feel like any gender myself. I've never strongly felt like a man or a woman.
I originally came to this sub hoping to ask questions without being called a transphobe, but I quickly realized it wasn't the right place for that. It was a space for people's personal experiences, not for my outside curiosity. But I stayed because I found reading about other people's journeys really interesting, even though I mostly stayed quiet.
A lot of my thoughts back then were about how political everything had become. It felt aggressive and overwhelming, so I just gave up on trying to understand it through online debates. I decided to just listen to reasonable-sounding people and use common sense. My main advice to myself and others was always to try and break a big problem down into smaller parts. If the main issue was just feeling uncomfortable or worried about other people's judgment, I thought it was better to learn how to cope with that. I used to remind myself that most people don't give you more than a second glance as you go about your day, and they probably don't care about you either. I believed in focusing on making the best of the body you were born with and concentrating on the more important parts of life.
Since I never medically or socially transitioned, I don't have any regrets about that. My experience was more about observing and trying to understand something that felt very foreign to me. I benefited from just reading and listening, which was a kind of non-affirming therapy in its own way—it helped me understand my own lack of gender feeling and be comfortable with it.
Here is a timeline of my involvement:
My Age | Date | Event |
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17 | 2021-05-01 | Realized I had given up on understanding transition due to online aggression and politics. |
17 | 2021-05-01 | Stated that I never really thought I was trans and joined the community out of curiosity. |
(Earlier) | 2021-03-09 | Suggested finding in-person support groups instead of large online communities. |
(Earlier) | 2020-04-07 | Advised focusing on self-acceptance and that most people don't pay much attention to others. |
(Earlier) | 2020-03-12 | Commented that problems should be broken down and that discomfort with judgment is something to learn to cope with. |
Top Comments by /u/iwanttodiebutdrugs:
yeah i know ive just kind of given up looking into anything that has become political because im 17 and theres wayy to much agression. os i just ask when i hear reasonable sounding people.
so essentially common sense of fucking with human development might be a bad idea😂(not saying dont transition )
I think you're right
I think its just a part of reddit ,once a community is large enough it loses some of its urr community
Perhaps you can find in person/self governed support groups
Facebook may be good for finding it
Or getting a reccomendation from a therapist
Or perhaps you could start it
I dont really know anything buuuuuuuuuuut could it help to remember you dont give people much more than a second goance as you go about your day and they likely dont give ashit a out you either also you have been born with this body its" better" than some and "worse" than some but you have it so make it the best it can be and focus on the more important parts kf life
i meqn ive given it thought but only because its for lack of a better phrase so popular
ive never really thought i was trans , it just interests me alot because i find it quite baffling, largely because i dont really feel like any gender
i joined th sub hoping to ask questions but realized it wasn't really the place ive just stayed because its been interesting to read others experiences
im abit drunk now sorry of this is incoherent
long time since i joined
i probably figured giving it any amount of thought counts as questioning
i think i originally joined to ask questions where i wouldn't be berated as a transphobe but realised it wasn't the place for my questions. i just stayed because ive found the sub quite interesting , mostly stay quiet here
Right i understand now
Id say its worth thinking what about it is actually difficult Try and divide the problem into all of the other problems that cause it and see if you can solve them
If your difficulty bar is solely referring to just feeling uncomfortable then you should probably learn to cope with others judgement