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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account does not show clear red flags of being inauthentic. The user's story is detailed, emotionally consistent, and spans a specific, personal timeline (e.g., pregnancy progress). The passion and anger expressed are consistent with the experiences of genuine detransitioners who feel harmed.
However, one potential minor red flag is the repetitive use of supportive phrases and emojis (e.g., "Good luck!! 💗", "Rooting for you!") across different contexts, which can sometimes be a bot-like trait. But this is not conclusive, as it's also common for real people in support communities.
Verdict: Likely authentic. The account appears to be a real person sharing their detransition experience.
About me
I started my transition at 14 because I was deeply uncomfortable with puberty and the idea of being a woman. I took testosterone for four years, influenced heavily by my online community, but I always felt like we were just women pretending. I began to detransition after realizing my deep, unchanging desire to be a mother, not a father. Now, being pregnant has been the most affirming experience of my womanhood, and I’m excited to be a mom. I lost friends and my teenage years to what I now see as a mental illness, but I’ve found peace and acceptance here.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition started when I was really young. I came out as trans when I was 14 years old. I think a lot of my feelings came from a place of discomfort with puberty and the changes happening to my body. I hated my breasts and just didn't feel like I fit into the idea of being a woman that I saw around me. At the time, I thought the only way to escape those feelings was to become a man.
I started taking testosterone when I was 16 and was on it until I was 20. During that time, I was deeply involved in the online trans community. Looking back, I can see how much I was influenced online and by the friends I had then. We all kind of fed into each other's ideas. I lived with what I now see as mentally ill and delusional people for a few years. I remember seeing these trans "men" who would wear super feminine makeup and outfits but still get upset when they were misgendered. Even back then, I had a little bit of self-awareness. I knew I still looked like a woman, so I never got angry when people misgendered me. It felt like we were all just women with extra steps, pretending to be something we weren't.
I started to detransition when I was 21, but I made it official last year. I’ve been off testosterone for two years now. A huge turning point for me was realizing that I always, deep down, wanted to be a mom. That desire never went away. I knew I specifically wanted to be a mother, not a father. Becoming pregnant and now being 28 weeks along with my first baby has been the most affirming experience of my womanhood. I am so excited to be a mom and for my child to see me as a female figure they can look up to.
My thoughts on gender have completely changed. I believe that if you are born a woman, that’s who you are. Womanhood is fluid and there’s no one way you have to act or look. You don't have to wear dresses and makeup to be a woman. I feel like society and the trans community failed me. They would rather push people to transition and ruin their mental and physical health than offer real help. I lost my whole teenage years and part of my adulthood to what I now see as a mental illness. When I left, I was harassed by my former friends. I lost my "best" friends, had to delete my social media, and change my phone number. They said I was making the trans community look bad or that I was never really trans. It’s a toxic community filled with liars.
I do have regrets about transitioning. I feel like I was taken advantage of as a teen. It’s not fair that we are now seen as the bad guys for telling our truth. But I’ve found a way forward through radical acceptance. It’s been hard, but this community has been a lifesaver. It’s one of the only places where I feel understood.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Came out as transgender. |
| 16 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 20 | Stopped taking testosterone. |
| 21 | Began the process of detransition. |
| 23 (last year) | Officially detransitioned. |
| 23 (present) | 28 weeks pregnant with my first child. |
Top Comments by /u/jad3aquablad3:
Transitioning as children or teens hurt a lot of us and we were taken advantage of, and now we are seen as the bad guy… It’s not fair and it never was. Radical acceptance is one way to cope, and i know it can be very hard to get to that, but it’s possible. I know what you’re going through, pm me if you want to chat about this, but know you are not alone. It gets better.
There are VERY few doctors that are morally correct, if any really. I’m so sorry you’ve been struggling but hang in there. Take some time to really figure out what you want with yourself, meditate or pray on it (whichever is more your style) and keep moving forward. We only get one chance so please don’t give up and make the best of it. Rooting for you!
I was and lived with these mentally ill, delusional types for 2 or 3 years before I realized that this is literally just being a woman with extra steps… It’s honestly just sad that these types of trans “men” will tell each other they look masculine while they walk around with the most feminine makeup and outfits known to man. The worst part imo is that they will constantly feed into each others delusions and then when they get misgendered they get so upset and let it ruin their day because they truly believe they aren’t just woman using “he/him” or “he/they” pronouns. When I was in this phase I had just enough self awareness to understand and not get upset being misgendered because I knew fully I looked like a woman and not a gay man in drag… sadly most of them convince themself that’s what they are when they look the farthest thing from it.
I’m sorry for what you’re going through… I lost my “best” friends, had to delete social media, and change my phone number because i was getting fucking harassed by these people. It’s crazy to think the ones who you’re supposed to respect show no fucking respect at all when you realize you aren’t one of them.
I can’t say much about the family you are born into, but those people are not your friends. So many people (especially trans) love to use the excuse that “you’re making the trans community look bad” or “you never were really trans” which is so fucking ass backwards and toxic coming from a community riddled with liars and disgustingly mentally ill people. At this point i can’t help but just feel sorry for these people.
You have done nothing wrong. Don’t let it get to you if it has at all. If you don’t have the space to be able to fully detransition, then do little things that’ll help you feel feminine again, even just a cute outfit. It’s hard at first when you feel like you’ve wasted so much time, but you’re on the path to get your true self back and that’s what is most important. Stay strong! 💗
First I want to start with saying very sorry to hear how much you’ve been struggling so much.
This subreddit has been has literally been the only place to feel like I have people who understand me, and it’s barely half whose view points are similar enough to mine. It’s very tragic how society would rather “accept” and give help to trans people and let them ruin their mental and physical health, than help or even show any sympathy to people like us that are trying to get our lives back. Most of us have lost our whole teenage and a lot of our adult years to the mental illness that is the trans identity. We are faced with almost everyone in the transgender community and their supporters saying it’s our fault, we did this to ourselves, we should’ve thought it through before transitioning, whatever it is to make it seem like we’re the ones at fault.
I could go on and on about how fucked everything is and how society sees these things, but it won’t change the way people think about us. Again I am so sorry that things are feeling so hopeless, but please keep going and know that things will get better. There are people who will support you in the ways you need and therapist that can help you through this hard time. Don’t give up. It will get better.
Be honest, explain it to him in a way you think he would understand, but just speak your truth. It can be hard, but if you want to be a wife and a mother then that should be enough proof of your womanhood! You shouldn’t have to prove to him that you are enough of a woman, tbh even being one is simply enough. If he wants to have a future with you and loves you, he will not judge you for your past and will hopefully only focus on making a happy future for the both of you. I wish you the best of luck with this 🫶
I have gone through something similar. I came out at 14, started T at 16, and detransitioned at 21. I have been off T for two years now (detransitioned “officially” last year). I always loved the idea of being a parent, and I always knew in the back of my head that I specifically wanted to be a mom. I am 28 weeks pregnant now and so excited for my first baby.
That being said, I personally think something very important to consider about is how want your child to see you as they grow up. Do you want to be their mother or motherly figure? I personally feel that being a mom (very soon) to my child affirms my womanhood and I want them to see me as a female figure they can look up to.
It’s important to remember that womanhood is fluid! There is no set way that you need to act. If you are born a woman and you know that’s who you are, that’s truly the deciding factor. Don’t feel like you must be tied down to this idea that you have to wear dresses and makeup all the time. Of course, I know those things help a lot of us that have been affected negatively by T, just remember looks aren’t the whole picture.
I wish you the best in your journey, good luck💗
So great that you’re discovering what makes you most comfortable and confident, keep it up and enjoy the journey of being your true self!
also if you get confused by the flairs (i did when i joined lol) then just look up flairs in the subreddit’s search bar and there a few post that explain them
Never took puberty blockers, but i was on T from 16-20 and i’m current pregnant, almost full term with literally no issues. Got pregnant first try even! Taking those test is a good idea though and i hope you will be just fine. I’m so excited to be a mom and i hope you can experience it too when you’re ready! Good luck!!