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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, this account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a bad-faith actor.
The user demonstrates:
- Personal, nuanced experience with gender non-conformity and detransition topics.
- Consistent, passionate viewpoints that align with a critical perspective common in that community.
- Engagement in extended, multi-faceted conversations over several years, including offering empathetic advice and personal anecdotes.
The tone is strong and sometimes angry, but this is consistent with a genuine detransitioner or desister who is passionate about the harm they perceive from gender ideology.
About me
I was born female and as a kid, I insisted I was a boy because I liked practical clothes and didn't want to face the difficulties of being a woman. My feelings naturally changed during puberty as I matured and began to understand social norms. Looking back, I see my desire to be male was a form of escapism from low self-esteem and societal pressures. I'm grateful I never medically transitioned and that I grew out of that phase naturally. Now I'm a woman comfortable in my own body, and I'm focused on building my future instead of questioning my gender.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was a kid. I was born female, but I was very gender non-conforming. I actively told my parents I wanted to be a boy. I think a big part of this was that I was less socially aware than other kids my age. While my friends seemed to just absorb ideas about gender from a young age, it all just went straight over my head. I wore trousers every single day while my friends wore skirts, and I didn’t even realize I was doing something different or that people thought it was weird. I just liked them because they were practical—no cold legs or scraped knees.
I was sure I wanted to grow up to be a man, but not because I liked typical "boy" stuff like sports. I liked geeky, in-between things. My desire to be a man was also practical; I saw how women were treated and I didn't want any part of that. I didn't want to be treated poorly or be expected to have babies.
This all changed for me a couple of years into puberty. My brain seemed to finally catch up and I started to understand and internalize social norms about gender. It was like a switch flipped. I feel lucky that I can remember this process so clearly because it showed me that my early gender non-conformity wasn't some deep identity, it was just how I was before my brain developed more. I believe I had a natural, inborn gender non-conformity that was resolved by going through puberty. I'm not autistic, but I do have dyslexia and I probably would be diagnosed with ADHD if I pursued it.
I never medically transitioned. I only ever transitioned socially as a kid by insisting I was a boy. Looking back, I see that a lot of my feelings were tangled up with not wanting to face the difficulties of being a woman in this world. It was a form of escapism. I also struggled with low self-esteem, which made the idea of becoming someone else very appealing.
I don’t have any regrets about not pursuing medical intervention because I never did. I’m grateful that my period of social transition was something I naturally grew out of. I benefited immensely from stepping back from online communities and just living my life. Focusing on my future—what job I wanted, what kind of life I wanted to build—was far more important than figuring out what gender category I fit into.
Now, I see gender as a social concept that some people feel more strongly than others. For me, it wasn’t an innate identity. I think many young people, especially teenagers who aren't comfortable in their own skin, can be influenced online or by friends to see normal discomfort as a sign of being trans. It’s so important to think about your long-term future and not make permanent decisions based on temporary feelings.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| ~5-6 | Began telling my parents I wanted to be a boy. Preferred trousers for practical reasons. |
| ~12-13 | Entered puberty. My brain began to internalize social gender norms, and my desire to be a boy faded naturally. |
| Present | I am a detransitioned female, comfortable in my body, and focused on building my future. |
Top Comments by /u/jetpatch:
Meanwhile actual research in the UK is showing that most women and girls actually do worse transitioning while men do ok.
You don't have to be left or right.
What you do need to do is keep out of media bubbles and read all sides. Kept an open mind but also have healthy cynicism of everyone.
Yes, you can't place absolute trust in anyone, especially someone with power over you. I'm sorry you went prepared for this. Some of us were brought up cynical but we still went down the same path because we thought we were fighting against the norm and authority.
Maybe this is a decision for after lockdown. Start prepping for if you have to move out now but don't do anything major until coronavirus has passed. You don't want to be alone if you get quarantined. Hopefully it won't come to that anyway and you will just have saved a nice bit of cash.
PCOS gives women double the risk of type 2 diabetes no matter what their weight and that's T at far lower levels they give to FtMs. You are basically inducing a hormone disorder which some women spend their lives trying to manage because of the health risks.
With your bottom surgery you have to think that you've been sold an experimental medical procedure which has gone wrong. Yes, you might not ever look the same again but then if you'd been in a terrible car accident you'd have the same issue. You have to go forward from here.
Inflammation is linked to depression, hang in there it may past as you recover.
When the neovagina disasters sub was open it was quite common to to get these kinds of posts then within 6 months the same person was back to trans subs calling all the people who'd reached out to them when they were down names.
Basically some people want intersex to be an identity which you can identify into and blurring the lines between what is and isn't an intersex condition enables that.
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38744731/
And then some people want to say sex is a spectrum which is hard if intersex conditions are only 0.018% of people.
Autogynephilia is in the DSM 5. It's not just a theory, it's a proven medical diagnoses and biased Youtubers aren't the place to find good info on it. If his brother does have autogynephilia then experimenting with gender presentation would be a bad idea as it's a progressive disorder which gets worse the more you indulge it.
I think when you are young and your own identity is still being formed it's much easier to believe in blank state, all differences are learnt/environmental rather than some being innate. Especially if you find yourself on the downside of some of these traites, like young women and physical strength, you can get very angry about it. Raging against the universe doesn't get you anywhere and you have to accept it.
I do make an effort nice to men here because I've had some on other platforms point out to me the problems they personally are going through and how the critical responses don't help. The problem is many of the guys themselves can't seem to help coming out with sexist and ignorant things about women in their own posts which people then feel the need to point out. Ignorant beliefs about women actually do hurt women if left unchallenged so it's not just a case of people on their personal hobby horses but this challenging is almost never helpful for the OP personally and we shouldn't try to kid ourselves otherwise. For MTFTM literally just being a bit more cautious about writing about things you don't really know about, one example this week was someone saying women needed to douche every 2 weeks, and putting something like "I used to think X" or "I wonder if X" rather than just "X" will stop triggering a lot of critical responses.