This story is from the comments listed below, summarised by AI.
Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, this account does not appear to be an authentic detransitioner or desister. The red flags are significant:
Contradictory Identity: The user claims to be a detransitioner who stopped HRT but also consistently identifies as a trans person who "passes well" and lives as a woman. These are mutually exclusive identities. A detransitioner is someone who has stopped identifying as trans.
Inconsistent Narrative: The story lacks coherence. They claim 16 years of transition and serious health issues from HRT, yet also state they are "8 months without hrt" and still living as a trans woman married to a man. This timeline does not align.
The account's narrative is internally inconsistent and contradicts the fundamental definition of a detransitioner, suggesting it is not authentic.
About me
I transitioned for 16 years, starting at 24, and built a life as a woman that looked successful from the outside. But I developed serious health problems from the hormones, and I saw so much harm, like my best friend's devastating surgery outcome. I've come to believe that a person cannot change their sex and that the idea you need to be seen a certain way to be happy is a trap. I stopped hormones recently and while I still live as a woman, I deeply regret the damage to my health. My own journey has convinced me this path causes more harm than good for most people.
My detransition story
My journey with this whole trans thing has been long and complicated, and it's left me with a lot of thoughts. I transitioned for 16 years, starting when I was 24 and stopping HRT just recently. I'm 40 now. For a long time, I lived fully as a woman. I'm married to a wonderful man and I run my own business. From the outside, my life probably looked like a success story. I "passed" well, meaning people saw me as a woman.
But inside, and from what I saw in the community, things were much messier. I developed serious health complications from the hormones, including osteoporosis and heart disease. My best friend had bottom surgery seven years ago and it was a disaster; she can't have sex and it's painful for her to even go to the bathroom. I saw so many people who were not helped by transition. I saw young girls with their breasts amputated and big scars on their chests. I saw people who looked completely like men but had a surgically created vagina. I saw the community encourage people to do things that were clearly harmful, like supporting someone in a long-term heterosexual marriage who wanted surgery and then being angry that their partner struggled to suddenly see themselves as gay.
All of this made me step back and think. I don't believe someone born male can become a female, or vice versa. A trans woman is a man on estrogen, and a trans man is a woman on testosterone. I think the only healthy way to deal with gender dysphoria is to accept that reality and be proud of who you are, without delusion. The idea that your happiness depends on how others see you is a trap. We should be telling people, especially kids, that they are perfect, to love their bodies, and to be themselves—whether that means playing football or wearing high heels.
I don't think most people who want to transition are actually suicidal because of their gender; they are just suicidal and need real mental help, not hormones. Transition should be an absolute last resort, not the first option. I saw so much of what I call "madness" in the community: people with messed-up hormones and strange voices, "transbians" who I believe are heterosexual men transitioning for sexual reasons, and a general refusal to face reality.
I don't regret my entire journey because it brought me to my husband and my career, but I deeply regret the damage to my health and the years I spent believing in a solution that ultimately causes so much harm. I stopped the hormones, but I still live presenting as a woman because it's the life I've built. My own experience and what I witnessed have convinced me that this path is not the answer for most people. We need to be realistic.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 24 | Started my transition and began taking hormones. |
| 40 (after 16 years) | Stopped Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) due to serious health complications. |
| 40 (currently) | Now living as a detransitioned person, but still presenting as a woman in daily life. |
Top Comments by /u/jjhbbhhhb:
I mean really??? To say to a child: you are born in wrong body and you need to stay on pills till rest of your life because your happiness depends of how other people see you!”” Instead: you are perfect, love your body, your self! Play football if you want, wear high heels if u want. But be yourself!
They need help. That is not normal. They make all trans community look bad. And are not even really trans. They are sick. Trans people just wanna live in peace . This is like crazy people with mess up hormones screaming around! Enough is enough! This come from a trans person that lived as woman and pass well!!!!me!!!!
??? Expense of other freedom? What do you mean exactly? As a detrans who go through mostly whole process I guess I have right to my opinion. If my opinion is not what you wanna hear it is your problem. If my opinion hurts you as long as I do not assault you it is your problem. When I see a biological man on estrogen I have right to come to conclusion it is a born man. If this hurts this person than this person have much bigger mental problem than GD.
Ok thank you for your answer. So I just turned 40 in September. And I was in transition for about 16 years. I am married to a “cis” man and I run my own business with all employees being “cis”. I live in Germany so please forgive my bad English. I have developed osteoporosis and heart disease because of hrt. In all this years of transition I have met many trans people. My best friend had srs 7 years ago. She can’t use this neo vagina for sex, every time she go to toilet it hurts so she try to hold how long she can. I saw people with beard and silicone breast. I saw people looking like man but having neo vagina. I saw Jung girls wit out breast and big scar’s on chest. I saw people referred their pets by “ them” becouse animal can’t speak therefore can’t say their gender. I saw people in 12/15 years in hetero marriage wanted to have srs and very engry their partners have problems not become “gay” and trans community support all of that. Yea you can take black market hormones. But you are not suicidal becouse of your gender. You are just suicidal. You need mental help not hormones. I wish you all the best.
I do not want to fix nobody. I just wanna my freedom to express how I see things and not to be harassed for that. If a man in dress feels like woman it is not my problem that he still looks like man and my eyes see him like man. He can’t demand me to see world through his eyes. Period
One perso wich can not understand fact, face it, and live with it in any way they want ( but be realistic) that they are trans and that trans woman is not a woman, it is man on estrogen same as trans man is woman on testosterone. To accept that and be proud of yourself is only right way for gender dysphoria. If one can not accept that or can not live with that that this person have other mental problems and some other diagnosis but not gender dysphoria. To be a trans dosent be delusional. Cis or trans we need to stay realistic. If ine can’t this is other mental illness.
Well as a trans person ( stop hrt) but still living my life presenting as a woman, I can tell you that Blare presents trans community in best possible way. She pass, she is realistic, she is smart and down to earth. Other one was so aggressive, delusional, not best person to present our community.
Well great if their happiness depended of how other people see them. Great if there was no other way to treat this mental condition so they need to go to so difficult, not self accept way. But this should be last choice! As a person who lived and still living as a trans . 8 mount without hrt, a trans person that “pass” I have seen a lot of trans community! I am married to a great guy, I have my own business, I do pass. Still I can denial that this madness needs to stop!!! “Translezbian “ hetero guys who dream about lesbian sex ant transition for sexual reasons, Jung girls who amputated their breast, fake happy trans community with mess up hormones and funny fake voices!!! Enough is enough!!!!
Hmmm.. but how can we know that person who transition is happy because of transition. We go older. We change. We work on our career, relationships… how this person can know what kind of life they would have if they did not transition? Some people are happy some are not. You just can’t predict how your life would look like if u didn’t transition. What if there would not be a trans medical care?what if there would not be option? Synthetic hormones just don’t exist?do you think everyone who would like look like opposite sex would be miserable till rest of their life? Or they would stop thinking about it and made best of their life?