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The user's comments show a consistent, emotionally detailed, and complex personal narrative about detransitioning. The language is nuanced, with specific medical and personal details (e.g., vocal range C2-C4, reasons for transition/detransition) that align with a genuine, passionate individual sharing a difficult lived experience. The anger and criticism towards the "trans community" are consistent with the stated context of someone who feels harmed by their transition.
About me
I was a tall, tomboyish girl who was bullied, and an abusive ex-girlfriend convinced me my problems would be solved if I became a man. I started testosterone at 20, and while it gave me a deep voice and a beard, I never felt like a man inside. It didn't fix my depression and instead made my mental health much worse. I stopped at 24, but now I have to live with permanent changes like my voice, which took away my passion for singing. I've learned that true freedom is accepting yourself as a masculine woman, not changing your body to escape pain.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was a long and painful lesson that I learned too late. I was born female and for a long time, I was just a tomboy. I was okay with that. I liked masculine clothes and had interests that weren't super feminine, and I was tall for a girl. I got bullied for being too tall and too hairy, which gave me really low self-esteem. I thought it would be better to be a tall, hairy guy than a girl who was constantly made fun of.
The real push to transition came from my abusive ex-girlfriend. I was very vulnerable after that relationship and I had PTSD. She brainwashed me and convinced me that I wasn't just a lesbian, but that I was actually a trans guy. I also struggled with internalized homophobia from my religious background; I thought dating women was wrong and being a man dating women would be easier and more acceptable.
I found a lot of "success stories" online that made transition seem like the answer to all my problems. I thought it would fix my depression and anxiety. In my country, which is in Eastern Europe, getting hormones was surprisingly easy. They just asked me a few simple questions like what toys I played with as a kid and who I was attracted to, and then gave me testosterone. I started taking T when I was 20 years old.
I was on testosterone for almost four years. It changed my body drastically and very quickly. My voice dropped incredibly within the first three months. My vocal range became C2-C4, which is extremely deep. I grew a full beard and a lot of body hair. I developed an Adam's apple. Even though I looked like a man, I never actually felt like one. That was a huge red flag I ignored. I never had real gender dysphoria. I was always okay with my breasts and my genitalia and never wanted any surgeries. In my dreams, I was never a cis man; I was either a trans guy or just myself, a girl.
Transition didn't solve my mental health issues; it made everything worse. My depression and anxiety got much heavier, and now I can't sleep without medication. The biggest change was that my sexuality shifted. Before testosterone, I was attracted to women. After starting T, I became attracted to men, but I couldn't see myself as a gay man. I watched heterosexual porn and always associated myself with the woman in those scenarios.
I finally realized I had made a mistake and stopped testosterone at the end of September, when I was 24. I detransitioned because I understood I was never a man. I was a woman who had been influenced, traumatized, and brainwashed. Now I have to live with the permanent changes testosterone caused. My voice is my biggest source of pain; I lost my ability to sing, which was my biggest passion. I am incredibly hairy and have to shave constantly. I look and sound horrible to myself now, and it’s a daily struggle. I have to use voice training techniques to sound more feminine and it's exhausting. I sometimes wear a wig.
I don't regret transitioning because I think everything happens for a reason and I learned a lot about myself, but I do regret the permanent damage it did to my body and my life. I believe true freedom is accepting that you can be a masculine woman or a feminine man without changing your body. We need to treat the root causes of distress, like trauma, depression, and internalized homophobia, instead of just affirming a new gender identity. I was failed by a system that didn't ask enough questions.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 20 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 23-24 | Was on testosterone for almost 4 years. |
| 24 | Stopped testosterone (end of September). |
Top Comments by /u/jjheygayftm:
This! You're absolutely right, dysphoria = symptom. I'm currently making a video for my youtube channel listing top 10 things that can "trigger" your "gender dysphoria" when you're not even trans. Such things as being molested, having ptsd, borderline personality disorder, being autistic, being gay etc etc
I can't believe it happened to me, especially in my country, which is quite conservative. Turns out EVEN in such countries u can easily get hormones and transition. They just asked me a few questions like "what kind of toys did u prefer when u were a kid" and "r u into men or women". Awesome.
Absolutely! there are sooo many contradictions in modern trans community and it just keeps blowing my mind. I'm tired of this game and I've had enough. I remember when I started thinking about detransition, I went do trans subreddit and asked them "is that ok if I don't have any kind of dysphoria about my genitalia and breasts?" and they were like "yaaay absolutely, you're still a dude" and I was like "tf is wrong with u guys, r u kidding? WHERE am I a" dude"? " it's like when Matt Walsh was asking "what is a woman" and literally NO ONE answered him... O K.....
I think true freedom is when we don't say "oh,u liked playing with boys when u were a kid? Yeah, ur definitely a boy" or something like that. True freedom is when we admit there are females and males and there's nothing wrong with being, let's say, a tall, strong and masculine girl, or vise versa when it comes to boys. People should just live their lives without mutilating their own bodies in order to "conform"
Yeeeah, I've just watched Isaac's video and then decided to check out the comments myself. I'm just curious, what's Noah's long-term plan, r they ok with being perceived as a 13y.o.boy for the rest of their life? Of course it's none of my business, but I'm really curious about it
My favorite question haha. I transitioned to male not due to "gender dysphoria", but because of having ptsd after 3 years of abusive relationship. There were lots of other reasons, one of them is inner homophobia as I mostly dated women and thought it was wrong
"Was there anything traumatizing in the past that might make me think I'm trans?" Being sexually abused, having abusive parents, struggling with internalized misogyny or internalized homophobia, being autistic, suffering from depression, anxiety disorders, BPD, eating disorders and so on. If anything of the abovementioned is applicable to you, I urge you to seek help from a good psychiatrist/psychotherapist first.
Because it's about being mentally unstable and instead of "affirming" we should dig into the root of distress. Why don't we "affirm" people with anorexia and don't say "yes, you are really overweight and you need to lose weight" when they weigh 30 kilograms?
This kind of "freedom" is extremely harmful and then we have people (mostly biological females) who are left with being constantly misgendered, literally for the rest of their lives, just because medical system failed them and they were taking testosterone for a while. I don't want to have this "freedom", but it's way too late for me, I'm fucked up.
Why "cause people who "fail" to kill themselves in the first place"? It's never "gender dysphoria" that's the true reason for being suicidal, but the combination of body dysmorphia + depression, which should be treated, but nobody gives a damn. Even 10 years ago, there was no such mass level of suicide due to "gender dysphoria" as it is now.