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About me
I was born female and never felt like I fit in, especially when puberty made me hate my developing body. I found answers online that said my discomfort meant I was a trans man, and I pursued testosterone and top surgery hoping it would fix my depression. The relief was temporary, and I soon realized I had made permanent changes for a temporary feeling. I am now a woman again, living with the deep regret of my infertility and altered body. My journey has taught me that you don't need to change who you are to be yourself.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition was complicated and I’m still figuring a lot of it out. I was born female, and from a young age, I never really felt like I fit in with other girls. Puberty was incredibly difficult for me; I hated the changes, especially developing breasts. I felt uncomfortable and disconnected from my body, and that discomfort just grew.
A lot of my initial feelings were tied to other issues I was dealing with. I struggled with depression and had very low self-esteem. I now realize I was also heavily influenced by what I saw online. I found communities that told me my discomfort meant I was trans, and it felt like an answer. I started identifying as non-binary first, which felt like a less scary step, but eventually, I was convinced I was a trans man. I think a big part of it was a form of escapism—I thought becoming someone else would fix the pain I was in.
I took testosterone and had top surgery. For a while, I felt a sense of relief. The things I hated, like my breasts, were gone. But the underlying problems didn’t go away. The depression and anxiety were still there. I started to realize I had made a permanent change to my body for what might have been a temporary feeling. I began to deeply regret the surgery. I feel like the medical professionals I saw were negligent. They affirmed what I said without really digging into the other reasons for my distress. If I had gone to a doctor asking for a hysterectomy for any other reason, they would have said no, but under the guise of being trans, it was allowed.
I’ve come to believe that the idea of “feeling like a man or a woman” is confusing and doesn’t really mean anything concrete. I am a woman. I always was and always will be. That doesn’t mean I have to be a certain way or like certain things. I can dress how I want, act how I want, and love who I want. I think I had some internalized issues about being a masculine woman that pushed me toward identifying as a man instead.
I don’t regret exploring my identity, but I deeply regret the permanent medical changes. I am now infertile, and that is a heavy thing to live with. My advice to anyone, especially young people, is that there is no rush. You don’t have to decide anything right now. Your body is natural, and making peace with it is possible.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started puberty, began to feel intense discomfort with my body and hated my developing breasts. |
| 16 | Found online trans communities and began to question my gender. Started identifying as non-binary. |
| 18 | Socially transitioned and began living as a man. |
| 20 | Started testosterone therapy. |
| 22 | Had top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 24 | Began to seriously regret my transition and started the process of detransitioning. Stopped taking testosterone. |
| 25 | Now, living as a woman again and trying to come to terms with my changed body and infertility. |
Top Comments by /u/jonny-reddit:
It's negligent by all concerned.
If you were 20 and went to the doctors asking for a hysterectomy because you "knew you'd never want kids" they wouldn't do it, yet you can ask for that in the guise of being trans.
I'd raise these as formal complaints against those involved, if you have the strength.
Hi mate.
You've come to a good place for advice- I expect all the forums you're on are telling you how great it is that you have found your "true trans self?"
One thing is to realise that you're a boy, a man, and can never be a woman. The Instagrams and Blaire Whites are just a show, the reality of hormones etc is brutal.
Watch some youtube of detrans (picque resistance project are cool) I'm sure there's good MTF resource too.
Also remember your 15, there's no rush to decide anything!
Take it easy
Detrans isn't really on anyone's agenda, I bet there's no real law on it.
For example I think health plans in the US cover trans surgery but not detrans.
I would look at sueing the people who did this to you at such a young age, best of luck for the rest of your journey
I'm really sorry your parents gave you such a shit response. You don't deserve that, for sure
Hard truth though, being trans, esp if you present as a man but are actually a woman, is going to make life hard and finding love harder.
I'm a bloke but I know from people on here and my wife that your breasts are always a tough relationship. They're ace, but they signify a lot, and can make you a target for bad guys.
I'd also say don't worry about whether you "feel" like a man or woman. Like wtf does that mean, people focus on it but it's bollocks. I'm a husband, father, do I "feel like a man?" I dunno sometimes I suppose.
Good luck with everything!
Hey I'll give you my 2c for what it's worth.
You are a woman. You always were, always will be.
Having said that your can do, dress, sleep with, and feel anything. My wife is almost always wearing my "boy" clothes, sometimes gets called a boy (esp when she was younger and overweight) but she's super cool and I love her for it.
As for friends, not sure, just jump in the deep and I guess?
Your Dr should respect your wishes. After all, they did to start you on the journey, right?
Big love and all the best
Hey no advice but I didn't want to read and run. Sounds like you've gone through a lot, you're stuck between 2 things and if I were you, I'd go back to your natural body and make peace with it. You can still do whatever you want, and you'll have to deal with the surgery etc, but it might make at least some things feel more normal.
honestly wish you the best with it all
I hate the sound of my own voice when I hear it back, i think everyone does!
I hope you get some good clarity on your transition/detrans, there's so many people on here and other sources who can help you make the right choices (and even more who will help you make the wrong ones lol)