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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags indicating it is a bot or inauthentic.
The user's comments display a highly emotional, reactive, and personally invested style. The language is inflammatory and passionate, which is consistent with a genuine, angry individual rather than a dispassionate bot. The arguments, while aggressive, are complex and context-specific, showing an ability to engage in a heated, real-time debate—a task bots typically struggle with. The user also references personal experiences with abuse, which aligns with the expected perspective of a detransitioner/desister who is "passionate and pissed off."
About me
I started transitioning because I thought all my problems came from being born male and that becoming a woman would fix everything. A lot of this was fueled by anger, especially towards my mother, and a misguided belief that women had easier lives. My transition felt like an escape at first, but it didn't fix my deep depression, self-hatred, or loneliness. I eventually realized I was trying to solve internal problems with an external change and had a completely distorted view of womanhood. I've stopped hormones and am now working on accepting myself as a man and healing my real mental health issues.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition is deeply tied to my struggles with self-hatred and a desperate need to escape from myself. For a long time, I believed that all of my problems were because I was born male. I felt that being male was the root of my misery and that if I could just become a woman, I would finally be accepted, loved, and safe from the person I hated being.
A lot of this came from a place of deep anger and resentment, much of it directed at my mother. I had a very difficult relationship with her and I blamed her for a lot of my pain. I think I used that anger to fuel this idea that women had it easier, that they were treated with more care and trust. I thought that if I could become one, I could access that better life. I now see that this was a form of internalized misogyny, where I both resented and idealized womanhood without understanding the real struggles women face.
My transition was an attempt to run away from myself. I was deeply depressed, had very low self-esteem, and was looking for any way out of the mental anguish I was in. I thought hormones and living as a woman would be that escape. For a short while, it felt like a solution. But it didn't fix the core issues. I was still the same profoundly unhappy person, just in a different costume. The problems I had with my mother, my loneliness, and my self-loathing didn't go away; they just morphed into something new.
I eventually realized that my desire to transition was rooted in a distorted view of gender. I had created a fantasy in my head about what it meant to be a woman, based on my own pain and a complete misunderstanding of the female experience. I came to see that the societal issues I was angry about—like toxic masculinity—are problems created by and for men, and that women are navigating their own set of serious struggles within that same system.
I do regret transitioning. I regret not dealing with my underlying mental health issues first. I regret the anger I carried and directed at women, and the way I used transition as a weapon in that anger. I regret not seeking proper therapy to work through my trauma and my deep-seated self-hatred before making permanent changes.
Detransitioning for me was about finally facing myself. It was about admitting that I was trying to use an external change to fix an internal problem. It was a painful process, but a necessary one. I'm now trying to build a life where I can live as myself, a man, without the hatred and anger that consumed me for so long.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| ? | Began identifying as transgender and started social transition. |
| ? | Started taking estrogen hormones. |
| ? | Realized transition was not addressing core issues and began to detransition. |
| ? | Stopped taking hormones. |
| Present | Living as a detransitioned male, working on underlying mental health. |
Top Comments by /u/kaibacorpqueen:
I am sorry you suffered this. I've never seen a mtf ever have this experience and it was eye opening to know you guys struggle as we do with loathing our sex sometimes.
You're beautiful and wonderful as you were born. Live your truth, love. Stop hating the body and life you never asked for or demanded :)
Females are not put a pedestal, unfortunately. We don't even have basic rights over our bodies. You were treated "better" as feminine by other women because you could be trusted. We are given more excuses and support because of what toxic masculinity forces on males and feminine being considered weak therefore "it makes more sense" that we NEED support and excuses while men showing any sort of "weak/feminine" qualities are told to man up. This isn't women's doing, this is a society built gender role that we didn't make. Men built and set that standard.
It sounds if your mother had so many husbands and seemingly treated them right and not you that this had nothing to do with "male" hatred. She just sounds like a narcissist and your using your own hatred of your mother to push a narrative that women have far less equality than men when the only equality you guys do face is in response to inequalities already being forced on us.
I am getting a lot of misogyny off of you. I would go to therapy and work this out like people tell us women to all of the time drowning in our higher rape, domestic violence, and eating disorder statistics.
Men rape, abuse, and do far more to women violently on paper and always have statistically. You don't get told not to walk down the street by yourself at night or to never go to a party alone without a trusted friend. I've met millions of women in real life who've been assaulted and one man who had been raped by ANOTHER MAN. The fact you deny that women face this less than men as a whole shows the levels of your own delusion and desperate need to be a victim and that's only because you've genuinely never been one. I don't have to try or pull facts out of my ass to prove my victimhood. I'm a domestic violence victim, my mom as, and sexual abuse survivor. All done by men.
Imagine having it so easy that literally people not trusting you because your sex has abused, raped, and traumatized theirs for centuries is your point in how unfair your sex is treated. Oh boy, that's.. really really awful. Jesus Christ. How have you made it so long? How much therapy have you've been in to work that out?
Yeah, my analysis was wrong because I don't think your mom was a narc at all. She just hated you and had genuine good reason too. Your whiny, hateful, entitled shit. I probably would have too!
Oh yeah, we can all tell you have 🤣 You wanted to be one of us because you thought it would make people like you more and here we are. It didn't work so it has to be an us issue. You just can't seem to get that it's you, just you, that's the issue. Even your MOM SOMEHOW hated you for being a "male" and it couldn't just be you're a miserable shit. No way.
If psychological abuse is someone retaliating to your projection and misdirected anger (Telling a rape/domestic violence survivor how non-delicate she is and defenseless for talking about genuine issues) then if there's was any doubt what I'm saying about your mom is true, there's none now. You're a shit. A miserable rejected angry shit.
You can do some reflection and stop keep being alone. Your choice. You'll just be another random dude in our fb messages talking to himself to me either way.