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Based on the provided comments, the account "kaleice" appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or an inauthentic detransitioner/desister.
The user shares highly specific, personal, and consistent details about their detransition (starting T at 14, being on it for 2 years, detransitioning at 16), offers practical advice, and expresses a wide range of passionate, nuanced, and sometimes angry emotions that align with the experiences of genuine detransitioners. The narrative is coherent and deeply personal, not the repetitive or generic language of a bot.
About me
I started as a young girl who never fit in, which led to an eating disorder and deep self-hatred. I thought becoming a man was the answer and was easily prescribed testosterone at 14, even with my known mental health struggles. After two years, I realized I was just running from myself and that I could never actually change my female body. I stopped hormones and found peace by finally accepting myself as a woman. I'm 16 now and finally happy, but I believe my underlying issues should have been treated instead.
My detransition story
My whole journey started when I was really young. I was a bigger kid than the other girls and I never felt like I fit in. This led to a really bad eating disorder when I was about ten years old. I hated my body and felt miserable. I think a lot of my issues came from low self-esteem and not being able to handle the pressures that came with being a teenage girl. I was also struggling with my mental health, dealing with depression and anxiety.
When I was 13, I came out as transgender. I was so sure it was the right thing. I resented being female and saw transitioning as a way to escape all the discomfort I felt. I was influenced a lot by what I saw online; it felt like a solution to all my problems. I started socially transitioning and then, when I was 14, I was prescribed testosterone. It was surprisingly easy. My pediatrician referred me to an endocrinologist and after just one or two appointments, I got the prescription. This was even though the doctor knew about my history with an eating disorder, which I was still struggling with at the time. I never saw a gender therapist, just a regular therapist.
Being on testosterone felt like magic at first. I was excited about the changes, like my voice dropping and growing some facial hair. I was 100% confident that this was what I wanted and that I would never live as a female again. I was on T for two years. But around the two-year mark, I started to change my mind. I began to ask myself why I felt I needed to rely on hormones to be happy. I realized that no matter how much I tried, I would never actually be a man. I felt like I was growing into someone unknown to me, and it was scary. I started to see transition as a form of escapism, a way to run from myself because I hated who I was.
The day I finally "woke up" and decided to stop was the lowest point in my life. I felt completely broken and shut down for a week. But even in that pain, I knew it was the right decision. I felt fulfilled for the first time in a long time. I stopped taking testosterone cold turkey when I was 16, because my doctor said it was fine to just stop.
Detransitioning was awkward, but it was mostly a change in mentality. I had to come to terms with the fact that I am, and always will be, female. I had to stop rejecting myself. To help with my appearance, I did small things that made a big difference. I thinned my eyebrows, cut bangs, and started wearing a little mascara. I shaved my body hair and started taking better care of my skin. I stopped forcing myself to act rigid and masculine and just let my natural movements come back. I even started wearing feminine underwear again, which surprisingly made me feel more comfortable in my body, not less.
A big moment for me was reading "The Vagina Monologues." It opened my eyes to feminism and female empowerment and actually made me want to be a woman again. I realized I don't have to perform or wear makeup to be a woman; I just have to exist. I am now more connected to the little girl I was before all of this started than I ever was to the person I was trying to be for those four years.
I do have regrets. I regret that I was ever allowed to start hormones so young without proper mental health support. I think the medical industry failed me. I believe that if I had gotten help for my underlying issues—like my eating disorder, low self-esteem, and discomfort with puberty—I never would have transitioned. I think transition is often a band-aid solution for deeper problems, and it never leads to lasting happiness because you can't change your sex. I am now very critical of the transgender movement and believe it has caused a lot of harm, especially to young people.
Today, I'm 16 and I'm finally happy. I feel like I'm back to being the bubbly, energetic person I was meant to be. I don't regret my journey because it led me to where I am now, but I strongly believe that no one should medically transition. It's not the answer. Learning to accept and love the body you were born with is the real path to peace.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 10 years old | Developed a severe eating disorder (anorexia). |
| 13 years old | Came out as transgender and began socially transitioning. |
| 14 years old | Was prescribed testosterone after minimal appointments. |
| 16 years old | Stopped testosterone and began my detransition. |
| 16 years old (present) | Living as female again and feeling happier and more connected to myself. |
Top Comments by /u/kaleice:
No one needs surgery to help. Body altering is not the solution for body dysmorphia. Therapy is. We don't give anorexics lipo to make them more comfortable in their bodies because they want to be skinny, so why should we give women double mastectomies because they want to be men?
I know you posted this because of me lol. Being absorbed in trans media is brain melting. My comments seem transphobic to you because you're still involved in the agenda and are still clinging onto a set of beliefs. I am simply just saying it how it is, and any rational person that hasn't been exposed to trans ideology would agree. You don't realize the magnitude of this movement. It's way deeper than just hormones and surgery.
Absolutely talk to your endocrinologist. I have an appointment coming up, and I was also given hormones as a minor. (14) The statistics need to be taken very seriously, and by speaking out, you are raising awareness. I'm thinking about suing tbh. Best of luck 🤞
Bingo, you didn't medically transition so you don't even know the world of horrors the 'care' of gender affirming medicine is. Gender ideology cannot clash with physical reality. That's where everything goes wrong. Being who you are does not involve getting surgeries and attempting to mimic the other sex. Also, can you inform me of any other time in history where millions of people claimed to be born in the wrong body and need surgery to fix it?
Over the years, I developed a habit of pushing my jaw forward to look more masculine and I had to train myself a little to get it back to normal lol. After around a month it just came naturally. I also gained weight which definitely helped fill out my cheeks ❤️
If you were the only person on the planet, would you still want to put all the time and effort into transitioning? If you feel burdened by transition now, it will not be worth it in the long run. Transition for me felt like something holding me back from my full potential as a person, and I did not want to rely on hormones or surgery to be comfortable with myself. I just should, because it's my body. I was 5 years into transition, and I just couldn't handle it anymore. Dysphoria SUCKS. But you can overcome it. It's all in your head. I rejected myself my entire life, and I'm finally coming to terms with how I was born. I had to realize that no matter how much I tried to disguise myself as a cisgender man or bury my female past, I'm still the same person. I realized that I can't change and become the opposite sex. I can't fully live as the opposite sex, because men and women are so different. By transitioning, you are straying further and further away from yourself. I recognize that you said you don't know what you actually look like. This is similar to what I felt soon before I stopped HRT. I felt like I was growing into something unknown to me. I viewed transness from different perspectives and did a ton of self-evaluation and trauma analysis until I came to the conclusion that it's never that serious. I shouldn't alter my body because of how I feel. It doesn't matter what I look like, I know who I am inside. Detransitioning is AWKWARD. But, being transgender is much more difficult than being cisgender. It's truly no one's business but yours. People may talk. What will they do though? If someone ever even has the balls to ask about it, I'd just tell them I switched back lol. That's my go to line at the moment. Detransitioning is mostly a change in mentality. You have to come to terms with yourself. If you want to be feminine, be feminine! We need more beautiful men in the world. If you want to present male and ditch the whole thing, go for it. It's your journey. Wherever you end up, you will be happy. You know what's right for you, and whatever decision you make is yours and yours only. You are a beautiful person. Beauty does not have a gender. You just have to be you. Eliminate the things that you don't enjoy. Embrace your true personality and flourish. It will take time, but it will be okay ❤️
Thank you so much!!! It truly is night and day, I went from a miserable hermit back to the bubbly, energetic outgoing kid I've always been. I feel more connected to who I was as a little girl than who I was for 4 years as a man. It's like my past self time travelled and she's all grown up now❤️
YOU LOOK SOOOO GOOD OH MY GOD!!! I love seeing these timelines!!! Everyone looks so happy and radiant after detransitioning. Don't worry about your voice. I don't sound 100% female either. But I don't care because I've spent too much time hating myself to care about what I sound like anymore. You're fucking gorgeous and I'm so proud of you❤️
Exactly. I'm being told that I shouldn't speak out because it's MY experience, not anyone else's, but it's all the same experience. We were all in the same place once. Until this whole thing crashes sooner or later, we'll be deemed transphobic for sharing the truth about gender affirming medicine.
Yes it should. Let kids grow up. Getting hormones IS as easy as you think. Disrupting a child's biological development because of something they heard about online (or from their parents) that they wouldn't even think about if not given these circumstances is never okay. it's chemically castrating kids.