People with personality disorders tend to have manipulative tendencies as a symptom, as well as attention-seeking behaviors.

As such, identifying as trans tends to get you a lot of attention (people are always looking at you), sympathy, a community of enablers, and a victim/persecution complex by which one can imagine themselves as being exempt from the accountability of past transgressions.

First, stay out of the women's room, even if your f*g-hag friends try to drag you in. Tell them, "No, I'm male. Period." Women fought hard for sex-segregated spaces, and it's your duty as a gentleman to respect that, even upon invitation.

Second, if the men try to get you out of their bathroom, tell them, "No, I'm male. Period." The idea that you are getting forcibly kicked out of men's rooms is absolutely bonkers and smells like a lie; in those scenarios, you tell a manager. No one is so desperate to validate a guy's sense of gender that they wouldn't let a man choose to use the men's room.

The short answer I can give is this:

Trans-identifying women tend to transition as a result of internalized misogyny, or internalized homophobia. That can go away more easily with some self-reflection. Irriversible surgical steps are also more common with trans-identfying women.

Most trans-identifying men are motivated by sexual ideal, and pursuit of sexual interest is common for men in general. As long as he's getting sexual gratification out of it, he keeps it going with no foreseeable end. Note that moat trans-identifying men tend to only do hormones and maybe breast implants (reversible), and tend to be the ones championing the idea that a male who identifies as a women therefore has a "female" body. Hense the term girldique™️.

There are a lot of people who kermitted sewer-slide because, after irriversible surgeries, they felt lied to about trans ideology. Because they were.

In biology, living organisms that have the genotype to produce ova (egg) gametes (barring injury, genetic defect, or deterioration) are called "female" and those which have the genotype to produce spermatozoa (sperm) gametes (barring injury, genetic defect, or deterioration) are called "male."

In humans, the term for child and adolescent males is "boy," the term for adult males is "man," the term for child and adolescent females is "girl," and the term for adult females is "woman."

That's all the terms male/female, boy/girl, and man/woman mean.

In sociology, when a population is being studied, the behaviors that are observed to be more common amongst the males are given the label of "masculine," those more common amongst the females are known as "feminine," and those that are found equally are known as "unisex," and the outliers are known as "androgynous."

Part of our society's systemic sexism is the belief that what our society considers to be "masculine" and "feminine" is fixed/innate/unchangeable for males and females. The idea that a woman is inherantly predisposed to like dresses, wearing makeup, or being passive, for example.

This is where trans ideology comes into play. Trans ideology confuses "masculine" with "male" and "feminine" with "female." They believe that to be feminine is to be female and to be masculine is to be male.

Which is sexist and incorrect.

And before you go into the whole "sex is a spectrum" thing because of intersex people, know that intersex conditions are still divided into male intersex conditions and female intersex conditions because of gametes genotype. We know which is which. There is no third gamete. And intersex people hate being appropriated for trans rhetoric.

Plus, if being trans was an intersex condition, everyone claiming to be trans would be required to test for it, especially before surgery. But we don't. We tell a shrink we're trans, they have to use the affirmation-only model otherwise they can get fired, and then everything gets put in the hands of the trans-identifying person, who is operating under an empirically verifiable delusion. Like homeopaths and chiropractors, snakeoil surgeons will take your money, give you surgery, and tell you you're on your own if yoy have any difficulties.

If none of that gives you pause, then have fun yaaslighting people towards their doom, I guess.

In biology, living organisms that have the genotype to produce ova (egg) gametes (barring injury, genetic defect, or deterioration) are called "female" and those which have the genotype to produce spermazoid (sperm) gametes (barring injury, genetic defect, or deterioration) are called "male."

In humans, the term for child and adolescent males is "boy," the term for adult males is "man," the term for child and adolescent females is "girl," and the term for adult females is "woman."

In sociology, when a population is being studied, the behaviors that are observed to be more common amongst the males are given the label of "masculine," those more common amongst the females are known as "feminine," and those that are found equally are known as "unisex," and the outliers are known as "androgynous." However, because behaviors are the result of cultural and historical context, and have almost everything to do with social conditioning, what makes something "masculine" or "feminine" changes depending on the population being studied. For example, pink was originally called a "masculine" color because it used to be a color primarily worn by males, but now it is primarily worn by females, so it is labeled as "feminine." Following me so far?

Part of our society's systemic sexism is the belief that what our society considers to be "masculine" and "feminine" is fixed/innate/unchangeable for males and females. The idea that a woman is inherantly predisposed to like dresses, wearing makeup, or being passive, for example.

This is where trans ideology comes into play. Trans ideology confuses "masculine" with "male" and "feminine" with "female." They believe that to be feminine is to be female and to be masculine is to be male.

The whole trans movement is built upon this fundamental sexist misunderstanding, and is tangled in a series of rhetoric and mental gymnastics.

How do you cope with being a man? Knowing that being a male doesn't mean you have to conform to traditional male stereotypes. Bowie, my friend. Felix Yongbok Lee. Chris Corner. Tilo Wolff. Boy George. Klaha. Rozz Williams. Miyavi. The list goes on. Just because you're a man doesn't mean you can't be a feminine or androgynous one. We, as a society, we're so close to understanding that back in the day.

"Non-binary" implies that there's binary people, and non-binary people, which is a binary. Which means non-binary people are still binary. The term wasn't very well conceived and is reflective of the pseudointellecutal nature of the concept; it entirely disregards biological sex and enshrines the idea that stereotypes are what make you a boy/man or a girl/woman and that having qualities of both make you "neither." It ignores that absolutely everyone under the sun has qualities of both, because gender isn't real, and that the only actual difference between males and females is reproductive function potential, hormones, and sexual dymorphism, which is biological sex.

It's so much easier to just call yourself an androgynous male or female; you don't have to conform to gendered norms and you don't have to cause a fuss by tripping people up with funky pronouns.

But even then, being androgynous isn't something that is fashion alone; you either look naturally androgynous or you don't. For example, people like Miyavi, Brian Molko, and Tilo Wolff.
Many people who identify as nonbinary only dress androgynously (sometimes) and don't actually look androgynous; I can almost always tell if they are male or female. Sam Smith looks blatantly like a bloke, Asian Kate Dillon looks like a woman with a shaved head, and Emma D'Arcy looks like a woman with a bowl cut.

It's just so much easier not to create a whole gender identity out of your personality and fashion sense.

An organism that has the phenotype to produce ova (egg) gametes, barring injury, genetic defect, or deterioration, is scientifically known as a "female." In humans, child and adolescent females of the species are known as "girls" and adult females of the species are known as "women." That's literally all female/girl/woman means. They are biological terms. Everything else is either social conditionong, a stereotype, or a lie.

In sociology, when a population is being studied, one of the things that is noted is external behaviors, styles, and roles, that are more common in one sex or the other, or found equally in both. The label given to features found mostly in male demographics is called "masculine," the label given to features found mostly in female demographics is called "feminine," and thouse found in both is known as "unisex." What is considered masculine, feminine, and unisex depends entirely on the populatipn being studied and the era. For example, pink used to be worn primarily by men, and was therefore considered a masculine color.

Trans ideology has lots of logical issues a fallacies, but the main one is confusing female/girl/woman with being the same thing as "feminine." As such you'll note that a lot of trans-identifying people think they're trans because they believe that external behaviors/tastes are what make them male or female.

Let me know if you have any more questions.

r/actual_detrans is a detrans subreddit for those who can't cope with any critical analysis of gender ideology, which makes it less than helpful.

So basically, if you want to detransition, but stay nice and cozy within the trans scene uncritically, it's for you.

You are absolutely falling into the same trap.

You're young, probably single, still working out your identity, and your main frame of reference for women is probably porn, which you are projecting onto your lonely hoemonal teenage self. That, plus our sexist society that doesn't think men can be anything but macho and sporty, is probably warping your perception of reality. That's how a lot of young men develop autogynephilia. It's how it happened to me.

Cut the porn and remember that being an androgynous male is valid, and that you can't actually be a woman unless you have the capacity to produce ova gametes, barring injury or genetic defect.

In the biological repoductivr classification known as sex, living organisms with the phenotype to produce ova (egg) gametes, barring injury, genetic defect, or deterioration, are known as female. In humans, child and adolescent females are known as girl and adult females are known as women.

That's literally all female/girl/woman means. Anything else is a stereotype, a social construct, a lie, or a misunderstanding.