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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account "kirino_imouto" appears to be authentic and not a bot.
There are no serious red flags for inauthenticity. The user demonstrates:
- Personal, first-hand experience by identifying as a male with a cross-dressing fetish who considered but rejected medical transition.
- Consistent, detailed ideology centered on the Autogynephilia (AGP) theory of transgender identity, which is a common (though controversial) viewpoint in detransitioner/desister spaces.
- Passionate and nuanced arguments that reflect a deeply held, personal belief system, not scripted bot responses.
The user is a desister (someone who stopped identifying as trans without having medically transitioned) whose perspective aligns with a specific ideological subset of the detrans community.
About me
I was born male and my desire to transition began in my thirties as a sexual fetish for crossdressing. I became obsessed with the idea of becoming a woman, but my research revealed the serious health risks of hormones and surgery. I realized my feelings were a fantasy, not a true identity, and I decided against any medical procedures. I am grateful I never made any permanent changes to my body. I now have a healthy relationship with my fetish, understanding it doesn't define who I am.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started in my adulthood. I was born male and lived as a man for many years. I never felt like a woman trapped in a man's body as a child; these feelings came much later. For me, it was rooted in a sexual fetish for crossdressing, something I now understand is quite common in heterosexual men. I was sexually aroused by the idea of being a woman, specifically by wearing women's clothing and imagining myself with a female body.
I spent a lot of time online in communities discussing this. I learned about autogynephilia (AGP), and it described my experience perfectly. My desire to transition wasn't about an inner female identity from childhood; it was an erotic fantasy that grew over time. I became obsessed with the idea that I could become a woman and live out that fantasy all the time. I started to believe the idea that my true self was female, which is a very Western, almost philosophical concept. In other cultures, a man like me would just be seen as a man with a cross-dressing fetish, but here, it got turned into a transgender identity.
I seriously considered taking hormones and even looked into surgeries. I wanted to look a certain way. But I also did a lot of research into the health effects. I read about the serious health complications, the loss of libido, potential negative effects on cognitive function, and the fact that it's essentially a massive, irreversible experiment with no solid proof that it leads to better mental health in the long run. This research is what stopped me. I realized that taking cross-sex hormones for what were, at their core, cosmetic and fetishistic reasons, was a very stupid and dangerous thing to do. The risks to my physical health were far too great for a desire that was primarily sexual.
I also came to believe that the entire concept of "gender identity" separate from sex is a modern invention without a solid scientific basis. We created the idea that a person can have a "female brain" in a male body to justify medical treatments. But a person is a man or a woman based on their biology. You can't change your sex. The treatments are just cosmetic changes that often lead to being infertile and having serious health problems.
I never went through with any medical procedures. I never took hormones or had surgery. My transition was entirely social and psychological, and my detransition was the process of realizing the true nature of my feelings and stepping away from the transgender identity I had begun to adopt. I don't regret exploring these feelings, but I am deeply grateful that I avoided making any permanent changes to my body that I would have certainly regretted. I now see my crossdressing for what it is: a fetish, not an identity. I have a much healthier relationship with it now that I've separated it from the idea that I need to change my body to match a fantasy.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Early 30s | First began to seriously explore a transgender identity, fueled by autogynephilia (AGP) and crossdressing fetishism. |
| Early 30s | Researched medical transition (HRT, surgery) extensively but decided against it due to the severe health risks and lack of evidence for long-term benefit. |
| Early 30s | Realized my desires were fetish-based, not identity-based, and began to detach from the transgender narrative. |
Top Comments by /u/kirino_imouto:
Crossdressing fetishism is common in heterosexual men (crossdressing fetish among men is about as common as homosexuality). Some of these men decided to identify as transwomen so they can be crossdressed 24 hours a day and because they think they look better crossdressed if they are on cross-sex hormones. This explains about 80% to 90% of MtF cases today.
Since the men who do it know exactly why they are doing it (because they are sexually attracted to it) they also have less reason to detransition later. In my case, as one of those men myself, I didn't take hormones because I read its health risks and the side effects of lowering libido, and possible negative effects on cognitive function. Also, the type of crossdressing I like to do is so ludicrous that even cis women doing it would look ludicrous in public.
Because they would not be trans people if they did.
What is exactly a trans person? A trans person is a person that believes in the idea that people have an inner essence and that the sex of their inner soul does not match the sex of their body. They also believe that, being trans means that they need to make the body appear to the be opposite sex as much as possible.
These treatments are purely cosmetic and done to satisfy this desire for cosmetic changes at all costs to their physical health. They also regard that physical health is of secondary importance to appearance.
Here they claim that it is at least 3/4 of the cases at the time it was written (2017), not its likely to be more:
https://4thwavenow.com/2017/12/07/gender-dysphoria-is-not-one-thing/
I do think there exists a substantial proportion of younger impressionable heterosexual males without cross-dressing fetishism that develop cross-gender ideation.
While for males who develop a cross-gender identity after the age of 30, it is pretty much close to 100% of erotic cross-dressers.
I agree that there are gender non-conforming people everywhere. For example, the Japanese guitarist Hizaki: https://i.pinimg.com/736x/bd/cf/77/bdcf775e164d082f5f35eece55cd0de3.jpg
In Thailand, ladyboys are ladyboys. In non-western countries, men with a cross-dressing fetish are men with a cross-dressing fetish.
In the west, I think because of our Greco-Roman-Christian background, we have the platonic idea that people have an inner essence in the ideal realm and that sometimes this metaphysical essence is misaligned with the physical reality. This gives rise to the idea of transgenderism.
This article is a good overview of western/non-western approaches to gender non-comformity:
https://bprice.substack.com/p/trans-is-something-we-made-up?s=r
Are you actually saying everyone should be able to do HRT regardless of whether they are trans?
Taking HRT for purely cosmetic reasons is just a very stupid thing to do.
Also from a medical perspective prescribing cross-sex hormones makes no-sense: it is just experimentation with severely negative health effects and no robust evidence of positive outcomes:
Gender dysphoria does not exist as a well-defined condition and there are no rigorous randomized control trials testing the effectiveness of cross-sex hormones in treating it. In particular, because it takes decades for the results and also because nobody really takes this issue very seriously in the first place.
Psychologists have not conceptualized gender as a concept separate from sex until very recently (roughly around the 1960s) and in fact, it doesn't appear to have any scientific justification: a person is a man or a woman because that person is a human male or a human female. It was only after doctors invented the concept that men might become women or women might become men (they could have a "sex change") then they had to invent a psychological concept of sex separate from the biological concept of sex (which cannot be changed).
In regards to crossdressing fetishism, that is a very common male fetish. It exists in at least around 3 to 5% of heterosexual males. So it is a pretty common fetish. It occurs because some men have a sensibility to sexual stimuli that are internal rather than external. Why this sensibility exists? That is a matter of neuroscientific research. So far the evidence appears to suggest it might have a relation with mirror neurons.
Do you think that 5% of men are women born into a male body and their crossdressing fetish is a manifestation of the inner female spirit that is trying to get out? Well, that is a religious belief, it is not a scientific belief since it is not a testable hypothesis that can be falsified by empirical evidence.
A lot of different fetishes are classified as "AGP" and a few of these fetishes might occur in some cases but not in others. For example, there are men that are exclusively aroused by the idea of being penetrated during sex but have no attraction to female clothes. Other men are exclusively aroused by the fantasy of having a vagina, without any other peripheral fetish. Other men have only cross-dressing fetishism without any of the behavioral and interpersonal AGP fetishes. I don't think lumping all these fetishes as "AGP" is useful in fact.
Typically in males with gender dysphoria there are two types:
- Early-onset gender dysphoria occurs in males that are typically gender non-conforming since childhood. They tend to be homossexual and develop the desire to transition to the opposite sex when they are young.
- Late-onset gender dysphoria occurs in males after adulthood and is typical of heterosexual males with transvestic fetishism. They develop the desire to transition to the opposite sex typically in middle age.
Studies of sexual orientation and sex reassignment in many countries confirm this: in Germany, the men who develop gender dysphoria in adulthood typically have sex reassignment at age 42 and are heterosexual 85% of the time. While for those who develop gender dysphoria before adulthood they are typically homosexual and have sex reassignment around the age of 25-30.
Typically the late-onset cases take decades for gender dysphoria to develop because they are typically masculine heterosexual males with a fetish for crossdressing. In their case, the process of developing a persona of the opposite sex takes usually a few decades (on average it takes 21 years after the first cross-dressing sexual experience for a crossdresser to develop a name for his crossdressed persona). After many years of crossdressing, the crossdresser might develop a love affair with his cross-dressed persona which generates gender dysphoria.