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Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or not a real detransitioner/desister.
The user shares a detailed, emotionally resonant personal history of medical transition and subsequent detransition rooted in trauma, which is a common narrative. The language is passionate and contains personal reflections, not just ideological talking points. The account's activity, while limited to a one-month snapshot, shows engagement in a support community.
About me
I started transitioning because my deep discomfort with being female was rooted in trauma and a feeling of weakness. I was quickly prescribed testosterone and had top surgery without anyone ever asking me why I felt the way I did. I lived as a man for years before realizing I was trying to escape my past, not my true self. Now, I'm detransitioning and learning to accept myself as a woman, though I regret the permanent changes. I believe we should be able to express ourselves freely without needing to medically change our bodies.
My detransition story
My whole journey started because I had a really hard time being a girl. I was born female, but from a young age, I never felt like I fit in with what was expected of me. I was always more masculine, a tomboy, and that felt right. But as I got older, especially during puberty, that discomfort got a lot worse. I started to hate my breasts and the changes my body was going through; it felt like my body was betraying me. I didn't feel strong or powerful as a female; I felt weak and vulnerable, and I hated that feeling.
Looking back, I now understand that a lot of these feelings were rooted in trauma. I had experienced psychological and sexual abuse, and I came to associate being female with being a victim. I wanted to escape that feeling more than anything. When I discovered the trans community online, it felt like a lifeline. It gave me a framework to understand my discomfort; it told me that my feelings meant I was actually a man. It was an escape, a way to completely leave behind the person I was and all the pain that was attached to her.
I was influenced a lot by what I saw online. It felt like a community that finally accepted me. I didn't really get any proper psychological evaluation. I just signed a piece of paper, and bam, I was prescribed testosterone. It all happened so fast. After being on hormones for a year, I got top surgery. The same doctor even offered me paperwork for a hysterectomy and phalloplasty. I accepted the paperwork for the hysto and got it covered, but I got cold feet at the last minute. I was terrified it would cause sexual dysfunction, so I never booked the surgery.
I lived as a man for about four years. But over time, I started to realize that my reasons for transitioning weren't what I thought they were. It wasn't some innate gender identity; it was a trauma response. I was using a new identity to run away from my past. I came to the painful realization that I had made a huge mistake. I had permanently altered my body because I didn't realize that a person could be female and also be strong. I had internalized the idea that to be strong, I had to be male.
Detransitioning was one of the hardest things I've ever done. I lost friends who just silently abandoned me when I stopped identifying as trans. It's made me scared to enter LGBT spaces now, even though I'm not straight, because I'm afraid of how I'll be treated. I'm very lucky to still have a few close friends and a supportive partner who love me for who I am, no matter how I look. But I still get very self-conscious in public, always wondering if people can tell my history, that I'm visibly different.
I do have regrets about my transition, specifically about the medical procedures. I regret that no one ever stopped to ask me why I felt the way I did. The system is broken; it's too easy to get fast-tracked into permanent, life-altering treatments without any real psychological screening. People are pushed through because doctors are afraid of being seen as gatekeepers or transphobic. I think proper mental health support and therapy to deal with my underlying trauma would have helped me far more than hormones and surgery ever did.
Now, my thoughts on gender are much simpler. I don't really believe in it the way I used to. I think we are just people, and we should be allowed to express ourselves however we want without having to change our bodies to fit a stereotype. I'm just me, a woman who has been through a lot and is finally learning to be okay with that.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| (Puberty) | Started experiencing intense discomfort with my female body and puberty changes, hated my breasts. |
| (Early 20s) | Discovered trans communities online and was heavily influenced. Concluded I was a transgender man. |
| 23 | Was prescribed testosterone after signing a single form, with no psychological evaluation. |
| 24 | Underwent top surgery after being on testosterone for one year. |
| 24 | Was offered and accepted paperwork for a hysterectomy (got cold feet and never had the surgery). |
| 27 | Realized my transition was a trauma response and began to detransition. |
Top Comments by /u/kittyflipp:
Jesus Christ, this comment.
This person was a CHILD when this began and he was swept up into transgender ideology at a young age that encouraged and pushed him to pursue his AGP fantasy as an identity.
He's obviously self-aware at this point and has removed himself from the ideology and wants to go back. I don't think people like this deserve to be treated as sick monsters so much as victims of an ideology that equates any alternate gender expression = irreversibly mutilate your body.
Damn, this is super relatable and similar to how I was funneled through the system. I just signed a piece of paper with no evaluation and bam, hormones. Same procedure with top surgery after I was on hormones for a year. My doctor also offered me paperwork for a hysto and phallo, I did accept the hysto and received coverage but got cold feet and never booked the surgery and was afraid of it causing sexual dysfunction.
After 4 years since the onset of my trans-ness, I've realized it was based upon childhood and relationship-based trauma that made me grow to hate my female identity because I associated it with being weak and inferior, I didn't realize one could be female AND strong.
That's horrifying.. I'm so sorry. :( I haven't really experienced this kind of treatment personally to my face other than friends just silently abandoning me since detransitioning but I'm definitely afraid of entering lgbt spaces now (even though I'm not straight) out of fear of things like this. :(
For a community that praises acceptance and being happy with yourselves it really disgusts me that someone looking for support can be treated like that, I'm so sorry you experienced this. For what it's worth, I don't think you deserve ostrification or be labelled as mentally ill. We all have struggles along our personal journeys and I really think it's a great thing that you could be true to yourself in the end and realize what is or isn't right for you.
Irregardless of the existence of perversion or not, without the trans community as it currently stands and the idea of fast tracking people into permanent, body altering procedures he likely would have received proper psychiatric evaluation and help for those feelings rather than being left worse than he started with suicidal ideation and a major disfigurement to his body. The problem is he was allowed to slip through the cracks with a broken system that forces people along, in fear of being seen as "-phobic" or "gatekeeping", and likes to hide the fact that people detransition at all because it goes against the ideology.
Edit (if we are talking about personal experience): The reason for my detransition was myself thinking I was trans after a history of psychological and sexual abuse. As trans stuff became popular on the internet, I got sucked into it all and came to the conclusion I must be trans (I was always very gender-nonconforming as a child as well). In reality, I was using it as an escape so I would not have to face the trauma I held, as a lot of it tied back to my birth sex. Whether it is AGP or psychological trauma, the point stands, people NEED to be properly screened before being offered major, life altering surgeries and hormones. THAT'S the issue here.
Yeah, I think they were on the radical side.
I'm trying to do that more, I guess it's hard though when I feel like I will always be visibly different, makes going out and not being self conscious about it hard I suppose. I am very thankful I do still have a few friends and a supportive partner that don't mind how I appear but I do wonder sometimes how much it's noticible in public.