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About me
I started estrogen at 21, hoping it would fix my deep discomfort with my world and my body. I soon realized I didn't actually want to live as a woman and was upset by the physical changes, especially breast growth. I learned my real issue wasn't a hatred of being male, but a struggle with self-esteem and how I was perceived by others. I'm still on hormones but planning a double mastectomy to reverse that change, taking everything one step at a time. Now, I focus on what each individual choice does for me, not on any big label.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was 21. I had a lot of discomfort with my body and my place in the world, and I thought transitioning might be the answer. I went to an informed consent clinic and started taking estrogen. I was never completely sure I was making the right choice, but I pushed the doubts aside, thinking that even if I wasn't "truly trans," the hormones might still help me feel better.
After about six or seven months on hormones, I realized a lot of things. I discovered that I didn't actually want to socially transition; the idea of living as a woman full-time wasn't something I desired. I also started to feel upset by some of the changes from estrogen, like breast growth, which felt just as wrong as the masculine features I had before. It became clear that I had misclassified my feelings. The discomfort I felt wasn't a deep, physical repulsion toward my male body—that's what real dysphoria is. For me, it was more about hating how I was perceived and sexualized, and struggling with general self-esteem and body image issues.
I'm still on hormones, but my perspective has completely changed. I'm planning to get a double mastectomy to remove the breast tissue that grew, as that is a permanent change I'm not happy with. I've learned that the most important thing is to break everything down into individual choices, not to see "transition" or "detransition" as one big package deal. You have to ask yourself separate questions: Do I want this specific surgery? Does presenting a certain way make me feel better or worse? You have to take the label of being "trans" completely out of the equation and just focus on what feels right for your body and your life.
A lot of my original feelings were worsened by stress, depression, and anxiety. When I was stressed about life or even stressed about the idea of being trans, all my discomforts felt magnified. I've benefited from looking at this logically instead of following a pre-set path. I don't really have regrets, because I'm dealing with the consequences and making a new plan for myself. I'm infertile now from the hormones, and that's something I have to live with, but I'm taking things one step at a time.
I think my experience shows how people can be influenced to misinterpret their feelings. Online spaces and even well-meaning communities can sometimes convince you that any body discomfort is gender dysphoria, when it might be something else entirely.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 21 | Started estrogen HRT after visiting an informed consent clinic. |
| 21/22 | After 6-7 months, realized I did not want a social transition and was upset by some physical changes (breast growth). |
| 22 | Decided to remain on HRT but plan for a future double mastectomy. |
| 22 | Currently identifying as detransitioned in perspective but still medically transitioning. |
Top Comments by /u/kklluuttzz:
I think the biggest problem with this is citing a 60% detransition rate. according to the wikipedia page, we really don't have enough nonbiased studied to reveal actual detransition rates, in fact the only study I see on this page that cites a 60% detransition rate is specifically referring to desistance (detransition before starting hormones)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Detransition
the common thing I hear on 4c is that desistance rate is very high, but the regret rate of people who have gotten as far as starting HRT is much lower.
pointing out that detransition has high suicide rates and mental health issues seems kind of pointless. you mean the exact same high suicide rates and mental health issues common in trans people who do NOT transition?
You could have definitely phrased this in a much less fear-mongery, much more mature way.
"Have you considered the possibility that your child might not be trans? you and your child should read up on detransition. consider checking out this subreddit: /r/detrans"
finally yeah imagine using reddit and not knowing every single sub (including this one) is just a glorified echo chamber.
Take it piecemeal. Don’t worry about whether or not you should stop transitioning as a whole. Break it down into what it really is: a set of completely discrete choices. Should you stop T? Should you ask your close friends to try referring to you as female? Should you try wearing clothing that you like instead of clothing designed to help you pass?
honestly? really and truly? femboy memes on social media. boys in cartoons who wear skirts and makeup sometimes and it's not played off as a joke. one character in one piece of media that I could relate to about my body image issues that then solved them in a believable way.
One little twink kid in some piece of media who, instead of being the nerdy kid or the jokester, is played up as being pretty and desired by other people for being the way that he is.
I think we're headed in the right direction
this sub has 2 big problems
1: extremely diluted subject matter
this subreddit shouldn't have any advice posts from people who have yet to transition. this is a subreddit for detransitioners. I understand someone may want a gender critical perspective, and I don't know of any subreddits that are comfy and offer that, but they really don't belong here. if there was a pinned containment thread for these that would be a step up from nothing. a weekly advice thread for non-detransitioners. but really eventually it'd belong in it's own subreddit
this subreddit shouldn't have any posts about GC ideology (or obviously TRA ideology) that aren't at least indirectly related to detransitioners
2: there's rules against TRA activists, but none against TERF activates
rule 4 makes sense! it's a good rule. but I don't see why we allow ROGD parents with no firsthand experience of dysphoria to come into the community and tell people what to do either. and god some of the language they use is just gross
thanks for reading my text wall
Erectile function and fertility is a complete tossup. You may never have function back, or you could have it back tomorrow. Bone changes will not reverse Fat redistribution changes in face and body will reverse, faster if you lose and then regain the weight. Body hair changes will reverse very slowly Muscle atrophy will reverse, faster with exercise
my diagnosis says "unspecified endocrine disorder"
Biggest shock to me is the docs told me finasteride was an antiandrogen. took me a while to figure that one out.
Informed consent is standard at a lot of clinics. It's what I got. I don't think that it's too surprising, especially since i was 21 at the time. Nobody walked me into that clinic but me.
Whether or not you are trans is not only impossible to divine without first hand experience, it is also inconsequential. It's not that identity is meaningless, it's that it's only one factor in deciding what the hell you should do with yourself.
you shouldn't ask yourself "am I trans?" "do I have dysphoria?"
ask yourself: "what are the chances going on testosterone is a good thing for me, and what are the chances I'll regret it?" take identity completely out of equation and work completely with how you feel and how you think that will change.
this is how my body hair looked on my legs pre-estrogen, and it started to look like more femaleish hair after only 5-6 months (and that was from a few years of testosterone as primary sex hormone). hope this helps.
facial hair will likely not change
I'm mtftm kinda, just sort of a baby compared to you. This leaves out a lot of details but...
I decided to transition a little over a year ago. Even then I had serious doubts about if I was really trans. I decided that regardless HRT was likely right for me. After 6 or 7 months of exploring stuff I realized a social transition wasn't something I even wanted, and that some of the effects of HRT were upsetting me as much as my masculine features used to. I'm still on HRT, but I plan on a double masectomy soon.
The important thing is that you shouldn't really lump all this "detransition" vs "transition" stuff into two boxes like that. You should take everything as an individual issue, like it really is. is surgery something that you want, completely separate from any notion of your transition? do you feel like presenting female with strangers makes you feel better or worse? make your decisions from that state of mind instead of just walking down the "its what all trans women do" path
I'm still on HRT
The only actual side effects a cis male would have issue with are
- erectile dysfunction / infertility, which may not matter depending on your sexuality
- breast growth, which sucks but doesn't go away if you stop HRT, and after a double masectomy focusing on breast tissue removal, won't regrow
- fat redistribution affecting your figure / facial fat, which I personally don't care about
Try and keep your gut instincts out of it, and think logically about whether these are positives, or negatives. I encourage you to take a look at the FULL list of effects and do the same.
if you aren't trans, the things you mistook for dysphoria still haven't been cured. I feel less comfortable with myself when my mental state is worse (I haven't been eating or sleeping, I'm stressed about something, I'm sick, etc)