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About me
I was born female and started hating my developing body, especially my large breasts, as a teenager. I found communities online that convinced me this was gender dysphoria and that top surgery was the only answer. I had my breasts removed, but I quickly realized I had done it out of self-hatred, not from a place of self-love. I now live as a woman with a flat chest and am happier, but I am angry at a medical system that never questioned my underlying issues. I believe many young people are being led down the same path without proper exploration.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was complicated, and a lot of it came from a place of deep self-hatred that I didn't understand at the time. I was born female, and from a young age, I felt a lot of discomfort with my body, especially when I went through puberty and developed large breasts. I hated them. They felt alien and wrong on my body, and I just wanted them gone. I now believe this was a mix of body dysmorphia and general discomfort with becoming a woman, but at the time, I was convinced it was gender dysphoria.
I was influenced a lot by what I saw online. I found communities where people talked about their transitions, and it seemed like the answer to all my problems. The idea was that if I changed my body, the internal pain would go away. I felt immense pressure to transition because it was presented as the only real solution for someone feeling the way I did. I was also dealing with depression and anxiety, and I saw no other way out. I never went on hormones; my focus was entirely on my chest. I got a double incision bilateral mastectomy to remove my breasts. I was an F cup before, and the relief of having a flat chest was immediate and powerful.
I detransitioned socially very quickly after my top surgery. It wasn't that I regretted the surgery itself—I still enjoy my flat chest—but I realized that I had done it for the wrong reasons. I had tried to change myself out of hatred, not from a place of self-love or a true understanding of who I was. If I regret anything, it’s that. I regret removing a part of my body motivated by that self-hatred. I can only speculate, but I think I would have felt more secure in my decision if I'd gotten the procedure done with a less self-hating mind.
Sometimes I wonder if getting a reduction first would have been a wiser, more cautious step. Clothes can be harder to find now because things that fit my hips don't account for my flat chest. But overall, I feel happier and freer in my body this way. The surgery solved a specific body issue I had, even if my reasons for wanting it were tangled up in other problems.
A big part of my anger now is directed at the medical system. I feel like I wasn't given all the information. Doctors and therapists didn't properly inform me of possible side effects or the reality that transitioning might not fix my underlying issues. I was led to believe it was the only path to a better life. I think there are a lot of people, especially young people, who are misinterpreting other problems—like trauma, anxiety, or just plain discomfort with puberty—as gender dysphoria. I'm suspicious that this huge increase in people identifying as trans isn't entirely organic, and that social influences play a big part. I have no problem with trans people, but I have a big problem with a system that lets gender non-conforming people fall through the cracks and encourages permanent changes without enough exploration.
Detransitioning socially was hard because I felt embarrassed about "being wrong." But that feeling fades with time. There's nothing bad about figuring out what isn't right for you. It’s all part of the journey.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Early Teens | Started feeling intense discomfort with my body and hated developing large breasts during puberty. |
| Late Teens / Early 20s | Discovered online trans communities and became convinced my body hatred was gender dysphoria. Decided to pursue top surgery. |
| 23 | Had a double incision bilateral mastectomy (top surgery) to remove my breasts. Never took hormones. |
| 23 | Socially detransitioned very soon after surgery, realizing my motivations were rooted in self-hatred. |
| 25 (Present) | Living as a female with a flat chest. I have mixed feelings but overall am happy with my body, though I am critical of the medical system that allowed my rapid transition. |
Top Comments by /u/koinojoint:
I detransitioned very quickly after my top surgery, but I chose to have it knowing that even if I did detransition, it was something I had wanted for a very long time.
I'd caution you to take any of the advice here as concrete. Regret is a shifting experience. If I regret anything, I regret removing a part of a body in an attempt to change myself out of hatred. I can only speculate, but I imagine I would have felt more secure in my decision if I'd gotten the procedure done with a less self-hating mind.
I really enjoy my flat chest, but a lot of times I fear what others think of me. That's something I still consider to be part of a worthy tradeoff, but it's something to consider. My best advice would be to consider a reduction first. Best to you!
I'm detrans, had a DI bilateral mastectomy without ever going on HRT, and I'm happy with my results. I was an F cup previously and feel relieved, to say the least. I also considered getting a reduction and had the same thought process as you: a reduction felt like an extra step inbetween because I just wanted them gone.
To be totally truthful, sometimes I wish I'd gotten a reduction when viewing the situation in hindsight after detransitioning, but for a silly reason: sometimes clothes that fit in both the chest and hips are a lot harder to find. The less trivial reason would be that I think I would have felt more self-assured and certain if I'd taken the inbetween step. But for me, it's over and done with, so it's not really worth ruminating over. Especially because I feel a lot happier and free with my body this way.
You seem very grounded in your approach to this, and I think you understand your motivations well enough to decide what you want for yourself. Like others have already, I'd personally recommend getting a reduction first, and I know that this seems inconvenient and is definitely costly (hopefully you can get the reduction covered by insurance?), but imo it might be worth the extra security and certainty you could gain. Best of luck!
As you said, you are not detrans. You're free to form your own opinions, but your judgement of others in a situation, one that you do not have any way of understanding yourself, is quite disrespectful.
If you actually read some of the stories here in depth, you'd learn that many many people here did not go through informed consent, and were diagnosed with gender dysphoria. Actual therapists and doctors did not inform us of possible side effects in many cases, or led us under the impression that transitioning would drastically decrease our dysphoria and increase our quality of life, when in the end, it did not.
Yes it was our choice. But many of us were under immense pressure to transition, suicidal because of our dysphoria and saw no other way-- including those who received treatment under informed consent. We were told transitioning was the only solution and that is just not the case. Such is borderline or actual medical malpractice in the case of not receiving adequate counseling or information prior to medical transition. That is why people are angry, and in many cases, they have full rights to sue.
People here have real concerns about the increasing amount of young people with gender dysphoria seeking treatment, because it seems highly likely that this increase is not an organic phenomenon. It's potentially the result of external causes, or social contagion causing people to misinterpret other issues as gender dysphoria, or even causing people to develop gender dysphoria. We are allowed to raise these legitimate concerns.
Personally, I have no beef with trans people. I have issues with the way that GNC people are susceptible to wrongly transitioning, and the way that the medical system just lets them fall through the cracks. I see a serious need for reevaluation of the current system, especially with more young people seeking treatment.
I want to give you the benefit of the doubt in believing that you made this post in some convoluted attempt to protect your own community and identity. But putting others down like this, blaming them for their trauma, is both immature and inappropriate.
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Take your time with it. I started telling people I knew would be supportive just to gain some momentum. The hardest part for me was the embarrassment of “being wrong” but it really fades with time. And there’s nothing bad about finding out what wasn’t right for you.
Oh man this is spooky. I just wrote something really similar and am also ~2 years out and wanted to give back some of the support I got too. Thanks for sharing this, it was posts like these that helped me out and I'm sure others will find the same :)
Doctors are responsible for informing patients of side effects. Stop blaming detransitioners for trusting medical professionals they should have been able to put their faith in. If you're going to partake in this sub, be respectful instead of shutting down people's experiences that you don't share.