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The user expresses a nuanced, personal, and consistent viewpoint. They identify as "gc" (gender critical), express frustration with both the trans community and Reddit's moderation, and their comments reflect the passion and specific knowledge expected from a genuine participant in these spaces. The language is natural, with personal asides and emotional tone.
About me
I was born female and my discomfort started in my early teens when I hated going through puberty. I found community online where my feelings were given a simple explanation: that I was a boy, and I pursued testosterone and top surgery. I later realized my transition was rushed and my feelings were more about my autism and trauma than being male. I stopped hormones after three years and now live with permanent changes, like infertility. I see my transition as a painful detour and regret that I wasn't given better care to address my real issues.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition is complicated, and I want to share it plainly. I was born female. My discomfort started in my early teens. I hated going through female puberty; I hated my breasts developing and everything that came with it. I felt deeply uncomfortable in my own skin and couldn't relate to the other girls. I now believe a lot of this was due to undiagnosed autism, which made the social and physical changes of puberty feel overwhelming and wrong.
I found a lot of community and answers online. I was heavily influenced by what I saw in trans communities, where my feelings of alienation were given a simple explanation: I was a boy. This felt like an escape from the discomfort and the low self-esteem I had. It offered a clear path to a different life. I started identifying as non-binary first, around age 17, but that quickly shifted to identifying as a transgender man. I think there was an element of internalized homophobia there too; the idea of being a lesbian was scarier to me than the idea of being a straight man.
I pursued medical transition. I started taking testosterone when I was 19. I got top surgery a year later, at 20. I was convinced this was what I needed to be happy and finally feel comfortable. For a while, I did feel better. The initial changes were exciting and felt like confirmation that I was on the right path.
But the feeling didn't last. I started to become critical of the community I was in. I saw a lot of toxicity, especially how women and lesbians were being treated and spoken about. I began to question the entire system. I realized that my own transition had been rushed. There was no intensive therapy or real consideration of other reasons for my feelings, like my autism or past trauma. The system just affirmed me without question.
I stopped testosterone after about three years. I don't regret my top surgery on a personal level because I still prefer having a flat chest, but I deeply regret the reasons why I did it and that I was allowed to do it so easily. I am now infertile because of the hormones, which is a serious and permanent consequence I have to live with.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's become a social contagion for a lot of young, vulnerable people, especially autistic girls like I was. For me, it wasn't about being in the wrong body; it was about escaping from a body and a life that felt too difficult to cope with. I benefited greatly from non-affirming therapy later on, which helped me unpack my trauma, autism, and low self-esteem without just blaming it all on being born in the wrong body.
I do have regrets. I regret that I wasn't given better care. I regret that I permanently altered my healthy body. I regret that I was influenced so heavily by online spaces and that my internalized homophobia wasn't addressed. My transition was a mistake for me, a detour driven by pain and confusion, not a true expression of my self.
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| Early Teens | ~2010-2012 | Started hating female puberty, developed discomfort with breasts. |
| 17 | ~2015 | Began identifying as non-binary, influenced by online communities. |
| 19 | ~2017 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 20 | ~2018 | Underwent top surgery. |
| 22 | ~2020 | Stopped testosterone, began the process of detransition. |
Top Comments by /u/lail-a:
They banned gc and many other non offensive or mildly offensive subs... Yet they left actual pro-rape and violence subs (along with racist, sexist, misogynist, homophobic etc ones)
Anything that the admins don't like is 100% at risk now. They said the 2nd wave is Wednesday
Tbh the main thing for me is the fact that they left actual hate subs.
There's pro-rape and violence subs, incel subs, racist subs, homophobic subs, and even actual transphobic subs... But this is where they start? It also means there's no trust anymore, and the next wave of bans will be stuff like here and the lesbian subs.
I also think there should be warnings etc first for something like gc if/when it's out of line, especially seeing as something on the level of the donald was hateful virtrol for years and only got quarantined this year.
There's a fair bit of stuff on gc I didn't agree with because I'm moderate, but I've never seen a violent or hateful comment because it was so heavily modded, which is unlike a lot of subs they left up.
It's just disappointing at the censorship really, not so much at gc being banned specifically, but more what that says for everyone else.
Many of those subs weren't hateful.
But more importantly- most of the hateful subs were left up (misogynist, racist, incel, pro-rape ones etc), and many of the ones targeted were mild or even entirely inoffensive.
Any sub that doesn't fit the admins narrative is fair game. The ban is nothing more than virtue signalling.
Hey, gc here.
Personally I don't hate anyone, I do hate the toxicness of the trans community (for example), and how often they try to oppress women, lesbians, gays, etc in the name of being super "woke".
Don't get me wrong, being trans doesn't exactly make sense to me - but it makes a lot more sense than the identifying as 1037383993937 genders. But I honestly have huge respect for the kind of people like you - who openly talk about certain abuses etc within the community (sorry if I'm phrasing it wrong)
I think the big problem per se for many of us, is that now you can go "woohoo i have lipstick, I'm a real woman!" If being trans involved intensive therapy, consideration, and surgery (eventually), I think most people would at least tolerate it. Like, I do think some people genuinely believe they're in the wrong body etc., But I also think this is a minority of self-identified trans people.
I'm on lunch at work so I don't have time to make a super detailed comment, but I can partially relate as growing up I felt weird about my race, nationality, religion etc. Even as a tiny child, I felt uncomfortable about it.
I can't speak for everyone when I say this, but I think most people will agree that it's the system people hate, not the people (and especially not people who aren't fueling the system)
I hope everything goes well for you, whatever you decide sends socially distant hugs
A lot of the stories have extremely detailed information that I'm not sure anyone would know without being trans, or being the parent/SO of someone that was.
I'm the kind of person these people use the T-slur for, and even though I have no ill will towards trans people, even if I did, I wouldn't have such a detailed level of knowledge about the matter.
There's also a certain edge to the stories I've read here, and that's even harder to fake. It's not even a good excuse to try and silence you guys. No matter how much (if any) is faked, there's some (or a lot of) truth.
Hopefully you guys do have a backup though, they've even been hijacking women's health subs, so I don't doubt somewhere along the line you guys are next
I know r/abuseporn was one of them. There's also a sub with misogyny in the title still left up. I think was it misogynyfetish or something. There was another sub where would be rapists/actual rapists told stories of rape, I can't remember the name for that, but it had rape in the title so it might be gone just for that.
I didn't save the names, so I'm sure there's more but I'm not sure which