People are afraid to be seen as judgemental, but in reality askinking these questions is necessary. Transgender people definitely exist and gender dysphoria is a real condition, but I feel that many people are misdiagnosed or think that they are trans when they are really suffering from another mental health disorder.

I transitioned young because being trans was an answer to all of my problems. I hated my breasts, I hated being a woman, I hated that I didn't fit the idea of what a woman should be. Being trans meant there was a way to "fix" my problems with hormones and surgery rather than years of therapy.

Transgender people deserve the care they need to transition, but we should rule out other common disorders before giving people access to hormones and surgery. In medicine they say "when you hear hoof beats, think horses not zebras". Rule out the most common and easily treated problems first, then look to see if something else may be wrong. Treat depression and anxiety before transitioning.

I agree with you for the most part. I was only 15 when I started testosterone and had a mastectomy only 3 months after speaking with a gender therapist for the first time. I do believe that trans people should be supported, especially kids, but in a way that can't cause permanent harm like social transition. Once someone is an adult surgery and hormones are their choice, but the reason you have to be 18 to consent to a tattoo or medical care is because a child can't make those decisions. I thought that I could, but what 15 year old doesn't think they know what they want.

I do want to say that blaming others won't help you heal, but I do wish there was more protection for kids. Especially in situations where dysphoria appears in adolescents. While its a sad statement, most teenagers feel some level of self hatred. Those that do should be treated with therapy, not quick fixes like HRT and surgery.

You are absolutely right. In the U.S I only had one visit with a clinic that lasted about 2 hours. A week later they gave me testosterone. 2 months after that I was given a mastectomy. While I has been feeling dysphoria for a year at that point, I was not given time to fully understand the ramifications of my decision.

I do want to note that my family went along with my fast transition because I was suicidal and having panic attacks on a daily basis because of the dysphoria. They just didn't want me to die and the doctors were telling them that hormones and surgery would fix everything. Looking back that should have warned everyone that I was not in the right state of mind to make any decisions for myself.

Medical insurance is all screwed up when it comes to these situations. I will say, going to a surgeon who specializes in post mastectomy reconstruction can help. They will list all their surgeries as "breast reconstruction" which is more likely to be covered my insurance companies. Each situation is different but you will have a better chance than just going to someone for implants where they will list it as augmentation.

I understand how you feel. I spent years convinced that I knew who I was. I did everything I could to affirm that myself. I went on T, I had a mastectomy, and I presented as a man. The moment I started to have doubts, my entire world crumbled and I felt trapped by the rubble. Would people understand? Would I always be a freak? Could anyone ever love me? Should I just end it all here? I asked myself these questions everyday. To be honest, I still ask them from time to time. In the moment everything can feel overwhelming. Trying to imagine what a future may look like, while still coping with past decisions can break the strongest of us. I try to focus on the next right step. I can't change the past and the future is usually not what we imagine, so start with the next move you need to make. Maby its as big as stopping hormones, or as small as eating a good dinner. Whatever it is, its something you can control, and you can make another next step from there. Stay strong.

I'm sorry you feel so alone. Sadly, I can't offer much hope with regaining sensation. While there is a chance that over time you will get some back, it is unlikely. You can try to massage the area once a day to restore blood flow, but that's about it.

I can tell you that you aren't alone. When I decided to get a mastectomy I felt like it was the only option. I hated my body and wanted to feel free. I was 15 and looking back I feel a lot of regret. I wish therapists and doctors had talked my through my body image issue, instead of giving me a quick fix.

I've found it helpful to try and not dwell on past decisions. I know how hard that it, but we can make new decisions moving forward.

To be honest I don't have any great advice. All I can really say is that you aren't alone. Personally, when I decided to detransition I felt like I had already ruined my entire life. That there was no way to come back, and sometimes I still feel this way, but there is always a path forward. We can't always see it, but it is there. Thoughts like "there is no point" "I wish I wasn't here" "I want to disappear" can be scary, but its important to try and push through. Life isn't over.

I'm story is very similar to yours. Cane out at 14, hormones and mastectomy at 15. I began to doubt/regret my transition about 10 months ago and since quarantine started I have been feeling more comfortable calling myself female.

Sadly I can't offer much helpful advice, as I'm in the same position as you, but I can offer solidarity. Reading your post made my day. Just knowing that I'm not the only one to go through something like this helps, and I hope I can offer the same to you.

Please feel free to reach out any time. Ive found hearing others stories to be comforting and would be happy to talk with you. If not, and you would rather stay anonymous, that is perfectly fine to. I hope the best for you.

Truthfully, there never seems like an end until your on the other side of it. I'm far from that other side but I've made some progress. The first thing I did was stop hormones. I figured that I could always go back on if I decided thats what I wanted, but it would give me a chance to see how I felt without testosterone. My endocrinologist was extremely supportive of stopping testosterone for a while. She essentially said that it was healthier anyway and as long as she could monitor my levels it was fine. I would recommend starting there, especially if you aren't comfortable or ready to talk to your parents, but maby try including them. I told them I the truth, I wanted to see how I felt off testosterone. It wasn't the whole truth but it was what I was comfortable sharing at the start. If you want to talk more please feel free to message me. I dont have all the answers but im happy to listen and offer what advice I can.

Well from my perspective it's likely those who find it easy to get hormones are living in America. It was incredibly easy for me to start hormones and get surgery. I was diagnosed with gender dysphoria at 15 and started testosterone 2 weeks later. Only 3 months after that I had a double Mastectomy.

I believe some of the access comes from finances as well. My family is well off and we're able to pay for private doctors and surgery without insurance or any worry. A few of my friends are in similar circumstances and transitioned with little resistance.

So to summarize, yes location plays a big role, but financial status is likely the biggest contributor to easy access to hormones and surgery. I wish doctors had actually looked into my case more thoroughly instead of giving me what I wanted in the moment because my family could pay for it. A 15 year old should not be allowed to make those decisions so rashly.