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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a bad-faith actor.
The comments show:
- Personal, emotional investment: The user expresses personal frustration, sadness, and anger about their own experiences and the social climate, including losing a friend who became a gender therapist.
- Consistent, nuanced worldview: The arguments are consistent but contain personal reflection and nuance (e.g., acknowledging that transition might be a last resort for a "very small minority").
- Natural language and varied topics: The writing style is natural, with varied sentence structure, personal anecdotes, and engagement on different subtopics (e.g., art, bisexuality, corporate culture) that align with a genuine personal history.
The passion and strong opinions are consistent with a genuine detransitioner or desister who feels harmed by gender ideology.
About me
I was born female and my struggles started with the intense discomfort of female puberty. I found a community that encouraged me to transition, and I took testosterone and had top surgery, believing it was the answer. The relief was temporary, and I soon realized I had just given myself new problems while my underlying anxiety and trauma remained. I now see my transition as an attempt to escape being a gender non-conforming woman, and I deeply regret the permanent changes to my body. I'm finally finding peace by confronting my real issues and accepting my female body, even though it's a harder truth to live with.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was really young, feeling uncomfortable with puberty and just not fitting in. I was born female, and as I grew up, I really hated the changes in my body, especially developing breasts. I felt like my body was betraying me. I was also struggling with a lot of anxiety and depression, and I had very low self-esteem. I now realize a lot of this was tied to trauma I hadn't dealt with.
I found a lot of my community online and in art school, where I was introduced to the concept of being non-binary and then later, transgender. It felt like an answer to all my problems. My friends were all exploring their identities too, and it felt like I had finally found a place where I belonged. I started to socially transition, using a different name and pronouns. I was convinced that medical transition was the next logical step to finally feel at peace.
I took testosterone for a while. I was so sure it was what I needed. I thought it would fix the deep discomfort I felt. I also got top surgery. At the time, it felt like a huge relief, like a weight had been lifted. I thought I was finally becoming my true self.
But the relief didn't last. After a few years, I started to feel a different kind of unease. The initial high wore off, and I was left with the same underlying issues—the anxiety, the depression, the feeling of not being good enough. I began to realize that changing my body hadn't solved my problems; it had just given me new ones to deal with. I started to understand that a lot of my desire to transition was a form of escapism, a way to run away from myself and my past.
I also began to see how much I had been influenced by the people around me and the online communities I was in. It was like a social contagion. We were all egging each other on, and anyone who expressed doubt was shut down. I see now that I was a victim of that, and I also encouraged it in others, which is something I deeply regret.
My thoughts on gender have completely changed. I now believe there is no such thing as a 'gender identity.' There is only male and female. You can be a masculine woman or a feminine man, but that doesn't change your sex. I think the idea of an internal gender identity is based on stereotypes and is a faith-based belief that can't be proven. For me, being a woman isn't about 'feeling' like one; it's just a biological fact. I was trying to medicalize my discomfort with being a gender non-conforming woman.
I absolutely have regrets about my transition. I regret taking testosterone and I deeply regret getting top surgery. These were irreversible decisions that have permanently altered my body. I am now infertile, and that is a serious and painful consequence to live with. I have to deal with the health complications from the hormones and the surgery for the rest of my life. I feel like so much of the confusion and pain I went through in my teens and twenties could have been avoided if I hadn't been fed this ideology. It feels like an unnecessary struggle that was forced on me.
I’ve benefited from stepping away from that world and from therapy that wasn't just about affirming my feelings but about actually understanding them. I’ve had to confront my trauma and my low self-esteem head-on instead of trying to escape it. I’ve also completely distanced myself from the LGBT community because I found it to be a toxic environment that kept me stuck in a victim mentality.
I feel like I was part of a mass delusion, and it’s frustrating to see it continue. I lost friends over this, including my best friend who became a gender therapist and now avoids me because I tried to warn him. It’s alienating to see the world celebrate something that caused me so much harm, and to be called hateful for just telling my truth. But I feel more at peace now that I’m living in reality, even if it’s a harder truth to accept.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and developing female body. |
| 19 | Found online trans communities and socially transitioned to non-binary. |
| 21 | Began taking testosterone. |
| 23 | Underwent top surgery. |
| 26 | Began to detransition, stopping testosterone. |
| 27 | Fully accepted my identity as a female and began to process the regret. |
Top Comments by /u/lem0ngirl15:
Lmao ugh it’s truly awful but it’s so true. Thank you for sharing. This years trans day of visibility was really crazy making for me like I just cannot fathom how people are still acting like this when everything is going on. For me it’s like code red with how many cases of detransitioners are rising and yet …. Here is Dylan Mulvaney making so much money off of his victim status clout. Meanwhile anytime I’ve tried to even voice a slightly different perspective to people I get accused of transphobia. It’s so frustrating.
It’s just wild to me that we’re seen as the extremists. Like even the nuanced conversations that are starting to appear like “both sides are valid and have good points” (which imo is far too generous to the trans side but AT LEAST detransitioners are acknowledged) barely get much attention. I’m watching the Chris cuomo special rn and he’s a New York lib and yet no one I know in nyc (where I am from) probably knows this exposé exists. I have SUCH a hard time holding my tongue and I’m losing my patience. I want to make a post on Instagram but Ik people will just think I’m crazy :(
You have your body parts for a reason. Opting out of one will have irreversible consequences on the rest of your body, and not only that, but I imagine other parts of your life and even forming relationships—for the rest of your life. It’s absolutely not worth those consequences, which I think you are overestimating it’s benefit. However you’re imagining it would be post op, I bet is not actually what it would be in reality.
This is a fact. And if you’re still considering it after everyone here discouraging you and trying to offer a reality check— I HIGHLY recommend experimenting first with alternative impermanent methods that others have suggested to sooth your discomfort before rushing into something as insane as this.
Even if it was an accurate statistic (which likely it is not, and also it is something thats very difficult to measure and determine anyway), 1% would still mean thousands of people. So even if it was such a low percentage, as the rate that people are transitioning currently, it would mean still a lot of people regretting—like in the thousands. So even if it really was 1%, why don’t those thousands of people matter?
I personally think it’s utterly delusional and offensive that they equate people wanting to put an end to harmful medical practices as genocide. But that’s just me.
I also absolutely hate how when they try to defend their side of things they make the claim that trans people are being refused healthcare. That they’re being refused basic human rights. It’s such a ridiculous statement. They have the same rights as everyone else and can access healthcare like everyone else. They basically think that if they can’t get HRT and top surgery from cvs then their rights are being violated. DELUSIONAL. And a totally manipulation and misrepresentation of what’s actually going on!
I know it sucks so much. You should definitely write that book though and make your art. Eventually this will all pass and there will be a demand for these stories. It might take time though but I think it’s important that detrans people keep telling their stories
Don’t do it please :( you’re so young and have so much time to figure these things out and become comfortable in your body. If you don’t do it and regret not doing it you can always go do it later. But the same can’t be said if you do it and regret. If you have any doubts seriously listen to your gut and please please don’t do it. It makes me sad how young you are that you’re put in this position. It’s just not fair. Please don’t ignore your doubts, it’s an irreversible surgery.
I’m looking at the responses that have been made in the other subs where you posted and it’s crazy (but not surprising) how misinformed people are about how this phenomenon is affecting autistic people specific. Your doubts are 1000% valid. And your doubts about going through with this bc you think there may be other underlying issues to your dysphoria are NOT transphobic. I really really hope you at least postpone this procedure :(
I agrée. But when? Like I can’t believe this is still going on. For over 2 years I keep expecting for people to come to their senses but they’re just doubling down. I can’t tell if it’s bc they know they’re about to lose or if it’s going to continue getting worse. My “best friend” is a gender therapist now and I wonder for how much longer he can ignore reality
10000000000%. You said it so well. It’s so true. And it makes me so sad. It’s so frustrating bc I feel like so much of the confusion, anxiety, stress, crisis I experienced in my teens and 20s could have been easily avoided and I probably would have been totally fine had i not been spoon fed utter delusion. It feels like a lot of unnecessary struggle I really didn’t have to go through and wouldn’t have if I had been born in a different generation.