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The user's perspective is complex and internally consistent. They describe a personal, nuanced experience with HRT, body image, and social perception that reads as genuine reflection rather than scripted talking points. They even criticize their own subreddit for harboring inauthentic accounts, demonstrating critical self-awareness. The emotional tone—mixing frustration, jealousy, and personal resolve—aligns with the expected passion of someone discussing a deeply personal and often stigmatized issue.
About me
I started transitioning because I was terrified of becoming a masculine man like my boyfriend, seeing that future as a trap I had to escape. I began taking estrogen because it felt like a necessary tool to fix the deep unhappiness I felt with my body, just like when I had a cyst removed as a kid. It has made me much happier and allows me to express my femininity without feeling out of place, even though it comes with health risks I've accepted. Socially, it's complicated, from being mistaken for a woman in men's bathrooms to dealing with jealousy towards cis women. Now, at 24, I plan to stay on hormones because they've finally given me a sense of peace with myself.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I just couldn't stand the idea of being a masculine man. I saw my boyfriend, who’s only a year older than me, and he’s extremely hairy, 6'4", muscular, with rough skin. That’s what testosterone does, and for him, that’s fine because he likes being masculine. But for me, the thought of ending up like that felt like a trap. I hated the idea that society and biology could just hand me a future I didn’t want and tell me to "accept" it. I refused.
Before I started hormones, I felt like it would be impossible for me to be feminine. I looked at my own body and saw the potential to become like my boyfriend, and it made me deeply unhappy. I saw starting estrogen as a necessary step, similar to when I had a cyst on my face as a kid. My first doctor refused to remove it, saying cosmetic surgery on a kid’s face was wrong, but I went private and got it removed. I was so thankful; it was a problem that was easy to fix, and it made me happier. I see my transition in a similar way. HRT was a tool to fix something that was causing me distress.
Living as a man does have its social advantages, and there’s not much social incentive to want to be a woman. From my experience, you can lose a lot of friends and family. So, deciding to transition wasn’t something I did lightly; it takes a real commitment. The idea that you can be feminine without estrogen never felt true for me. Maybe for some people who had a weak puberty, but for someone with a strong masculine build, it seems impossible.
Being on HRT has made a big difference for me. I’m happier now. I can look in the mirror and feel better about myself. I can dress in a feminine way without feeling like I look uncanny or stupid. It comes with health risks, but for me, those risks are worth it. I don’t think it’s any different from my cis male friend who does steroids. There are costs to everything, and he’s way happier with the results. This is the cost I’ve decided to pay for my own happiness.
The social side is complicated. I get confused for a woman frequently at work, even when I’m dressing in masculine clothes. Public bathrooms have become super awkward because men often ask me to leave. My long hair and smooth skin seem to say a lot to people. I also have to deal with jealousy. I get jealous of cis women who get to express their femininity so freely, while I often feel trapped. When I feel that way, I have to log off the internet and focus on my hobbies or work. Comparing yourself to others is a sure way to feel bad, because you’ll always find someone who seems to have it better.
I’ve also noticed some weird things in online spaces. There’s an element of social contagion, and I’ve seen a lot of suspicious accounts in detransition forums that seem to just want to signal hate for trans people rather than actually discuss experiences. I saw a post from a throwaway account that just said they find trans women extremely disgusting to look at. It’s important to focus on real discussions.
As for relationships, I’ve always thought the idea of wanting to claim a lesbian status as a trans woman was a little weird. If you pass 100%, I guess it’s pretty lesbian, but a lot of transbian couples don’t really resemble lesbian couples because of male socialization. That’s okay; they’re not really like gay couples either. They just need their own spaces. The same is true for female-to-male transitions.
I’ve made the choice to stay on HRT. It has allowed me to be the person I feel I am inside. I don’t regret my decision because it has given me a peace with my body that I didn’t have before.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| As a kid | Had a cyst on my face that I hated and was bullied for. Felt it was a problem that could be fixed. |
| Early 20s | Felt intense discomfort with potential masculine development, seeing my boyfriend's body as a future I didn't want. |
| 23 | Started estrogen (HRT) after deciding the benefits outweighed the risks. |
| 24 (now) | Living on HRT. Happier with my appearance, though facing social challenges like being misgendered in bathrooms. Plan to continue HRT. |
Top Comments by /u/lethal-femboy:
wanting to claim lesbian status has always been a little weird to me? I guess if you pass 100% it is pretty lesbian however a lot don’t.
most transbian couples really aren’t anything like a lesbian couple due to a lot of the male socialisation.
that’s okay, they’re not really like gay couples either, just need there own spaces.
the same is true for ftm
take a detox from the internet. I find that really helps.
personally I get jealous of cis women who get to freely express feminity while I feel trapped.
I log off when I'm feeling this way or focus my attention on something else, one of my hobbies or my work. Its okay, unfortunately jealousy is a human emotion and the internet amplifies it for everyone.
plenty of women and men find going out online makes them jealous of others.The important part to remember is people can be very fake with there online personas or even irl personas. Focus on your own self improvement.
Also not comparing ourselves to anyone to much, cis trans whatever is an extremely healthy thing to do.
I your always comparing yourself to others you will always find someone who seems to have it "better"
well there isn’t really much social incentive to want to be a woman, from my experience you lose a lot of friends and family, so if you’re gonna be a mtf it takes me effort to commit. going on E doesn’t make you stronger or anything, you have to really want it. living as a man in social settings has some giant pros.
i think also an element of social contagion with women
im for plastic surgery if you're reasonable with it, I had a cyst on my face as a kid, I got bullies for it. My original doctor refused to remove it as "cosmetic surgery on a kids face is wrong" well I eventually went private and got it removed and fuck am I thankful, no one sees it, its gone and now I've never had to deal with it. I think telling me to accept a massive bump on my face doesn't really makes sense when its so easy to fix.
also yeah I think there's a lot of cis people here, this page has an insane amount of accounts that have zero post history and are all throw aways, a lot of it seems to be just want to signal a hate for trans people then actually discuss detrans.
I remember I saw a post here which was literally just a throw away account say how they find trans women extremely disgusting to look at....
without hrt it would be impossible for me to be feminine, my bf is only one year older then me and he is extremely hairy, 6'4 muscular and his skin is so rough, him trying to dress fem or make up would never compensate sadly, he will always be masculine. Thats what T does
luckily he likes being masculine, personally I'm happier now so ive made the choice to stay on hrt, yes it comes with health risks but those are risks I find worth it.
I really don't think you're any different from my cis male friend who does seteriods, does it have risks? absolutely but he is way happier with himself.
there's costs to everything and hrt isn't different, for some it isn't worth it for some it is.
certainly being put in the party of extreme gnc is interesting, I get confused for a woman frequently at work even when dressing masc and public bathrooms are now super awkward because men often ask me to leave. but thats the price I decided to pay, I don't dress particularly gender non confirming but I guess long hair and smooth skin says a lot to people.
thats said, being able to look in the mirror and be happier with myself is amazing, being able to dress fem without looking stupidly uncanny is also amazing.
there is this false belief pushed that you can be fem with estrogen, and maybe for some if there puberty was weak? but for my boyfriend who is a year older then me and extremely hair, strong, rough skin, beard. He can't really ever dress fem without looking extremely uncanny. luckily he enjoys being masc, I however hate being masculine, I refuse the idea that i mus "accept" the shit society and biology throws at me.
just like when I had a cyst on my face I got cosmetic surgery to get it removed, why? because i fucking hated that cyst and im much happier without it.