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About me
I started disliking my female body when I was twelve and hit puberty, and I mistakenly thought that meant I was supposed to be a boy. I went on testosterone, but the clinic rushed me and even tried to push me toward surgery I didn't want. I eventually realized my feelings weren't about gender but were just a normal part of growing up and dealing with body image issues. By focusing on my mental health, the dysphoria faded, and I detransitioned at twenty. I regret the medical changes but learned that you don't need to change your body to be yourself.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was 12 years old, right as I was hitting puberty. I was a girl, and I started to really, really hate my body and the changes it was going through. It felt weird and scary, and I just wanted my old body back. At the time, I mistook those feelings for wanting to be a boy. I was 100% sure I was trans. I wish someone had just told me that it's completely normal to dislike your body during puberty, that your hormones are going crazy and it takes a while to get used to everything. But that didn't happen.
I ended up going on testosterone. I got my hormones from Planned Parenthood, and my experience there wasn't great. They asked for a therapist's letter but accepted one from my school guidance counselor, who I'd never even talked to about being trans. Then, in the same appointment where I got my first shot, they immediately said, "ok now let’s get you started on the process for top surgery." I had never said I wanted top surgery; they just assumed. Thankfully, I refused because I didn't want to rush into anything. It felt like they were just pushing people through.
Looking back, I don't think my feelings were really about gender. I think a big part of it was that I spent a lot of time in online trans spaces, watching trans YouTubers, and that obsession with transitioning just took over my head. I also think that because of the trans movement, a lot of people who aren't trans start to think that gender is something you're supposed to feel. But I don't think it is. For me, gender is just a descriptor of age and sex. A girl is a female child, a woman is an adult female. It’s that simple. You don't have to "feel" like a woman to be one.
I started to realize I wasn't trans anymore when my dysphoria began to fade. I started focusing on curing my depression and body image issues by working on self-love. I forced myself to stop the negative self-talk and tried to be more positive, or at least neutral, about my body. After a while, I realized the dysphoria was gone. What really sealed it for me was my ex-boyfriend. He would call me by my chosen male name but absolutely refused to use "he" pronouns for me. I realized I had absolutely no problem with that. I thought, what's the point of being trans if I have no dysphoria and don't care if people call me "she"?
I detransitioned around age 20. I'm glad I never got top surgery; I would be very upset now if I had. The testosterone changed my face, and I wish I could have my old face back. I didn't really "come out" as detransitioning to most people; I just quietly changed my name back on social media. Some people seem to think I'm a trans woman now, which makes me uncomfortable.
I don't have any regrets about exploring my identity, but I do regret medically transitioning. I now see that I never wanted to be a boy; I was just an uncomfortable young girl going through a hard time. My main advice to anyone questioning is to just pause. You can always start hormones or get surgery later, but you can't undo it. Your mental and physical well-being is more important than what anyone else thinks. Just be yourself. Girls can be masculine, boys can be feminine, and you don't need a label for everything.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 12 | Started puberty and began to dislike my body, mistakenly believing I was trans. |
| 16 | Was still 100% sure I was trans. |
| 20 | Realized my dysphoria was gone and decided to detransition. |
Top Comments by /u/lightspinnerss:
Because you are so conflicted about this, I suggest canceling your appointment and putting a pause on the idea of getting top surgery. You can always reschedule later if you decide this is really what you want, but you can’t undo a double mastectomy. Take time to figure it out before moving forward with anything
No offense to anyone who identifies as nonbinary, but I don’t think it exists
Because of the trans movement, and trans ppl saying things like “I feel like a boy” or “I feel like a girl”, a lot of people who aren’t trans thought that that means that gender feels like something. It doesn’t. People who aren’t trans don’t feel their gender like trans people do.
So in most if not all cases, when they don’t feel their gender, they think they must not have a gender, when in actuality they just aren’t trans
“Children will kill themselves” what they need is THERAPY. I would’ve been suicidal at that age with or without medical transition. And I’d be suicidal now if I had been allowed to medically transition as a teen. It’s better to wait because, as far as I’ve seen, dysphoria resolves after adulthood in many (most???) cases. And no one’s saying they can’t socially transition
First of all, let go of the restrictive gender roles. Just be yourself. Girls can be masculine and boys can be feminine. You don’t have to label yourself either. And if anyone questions you or tries to make fun of you.. that’s their problem, not yours
I hate when people say “if you play as a girl in video games you must be trans” because I know a guy who plays as a girl and he’s definitely not trans. He plays as a girl bc he says he doesn’t wanna be staring at a guys ass the entire time he plays 😂
I did the same thing. I started focusing on trying to cure my depression and body image issues by forcing myself to be more positive (or at least not negative) about myself. After a while I realized my dysphoria went away
It took me awhile to realize I wasn’t trans anymore tho because of the people who say “you don’t need dysphoria to be trans”. What made me realize I wasn’t trans was my ex. He called me by my trans name but absolutely refused to call me he. I realized that I had absolutely no problem with it so I decided.. what’s the point in being trans if I have no dysphoria and don’t care if people call me she
I pretty much did this same thing. I also stopped all therapy and stopped going to the doctors I was seeing (I moved towns tho)
But no matter what I tell them, planned parenthood refuses to believe I’m not trans anymore. It’s like they absolutely refuse to use she pronouns no matter how many times I tell them or put it in my chart. It’s quite annoying
1: yes it did and I wish I could have my old face back
2: I didn’t get top surgery and I’m glad I didn’t bc I’d be very upset now if I had
3: for the most part, no. I didn’t rly “come out” to most people, just changed my name on social media back to my birth name. But some people seem to think I’m a trans woman which makes me kind of uncomfortable
I had a similar experience. I wish that instead of telling girls that experience this that they’re trans, people would instead tell them that it’s normal for girls to dislike their body during puberty. I now realize that it wasn’t that I wanted to be a boy, it’s that I was uncomfortable with the sudden changes with my body and just wanted it to be how I always knew it before. Obviously I don’t feel that way now, but puberty can be pretty shocking for young girls
I didn’t go to that one but my experience at planned parenthood sucked
I got my hormones there. They asked for a letter of recommendation from a therapist, and then accepted one from my school guidance counselor, who I never talked to about being trans. Then, during the same appointment where I got my first shot, they said “ok now let’s get you started on the process for too surgery” I had never expressed a want for top surgery, they never asked if that’s something I wanted. They just assumed. Thankfully I refused as I didn’t want to rush into transition.
It really feels like they’re rushing people into surgery and hormones