Everything in moderation doesn't work, though, especially not in instances where there's mental illness and surgeries (any surgery can be life threatening).

Why would a person want to go through plastic surgery? Why don't you feel good about those things? It's because of society. It's nothing to do with you - you are fine and existing in your natural state. Society upholds standards, stereotypes, and expectations. If you have a nose that is not seen as "beautiful", you will want to change it. Other people will have changed their "not beautiful" noses, so you will see fewer and fewer people with a nose like yours. The people shown by society as "beautiful" will have different noses, a similar type of nose. Your nose is fine, and changing it will not fix the problems that led you to having issues with your nose. Not only does it not fix the societal problems, it does not fix your mental problems that led you to go through with unnecessary surgery in the first place. Any surgery could potentially kill you, and people seem to have just forgotten that when it comes to plastic surgery. You could lose your nose, you could lose your sense of smell, you could be unable to breathe through your nose, you could have a completely different nose to what you were expecting. Your nose could end up deformed. It costs so much money to change yourself, but it's free to just learn to accept yourself. This above story comes from experience. I was planning on getting a nose job, and even had surgeons I wanted to visit. I'm really glad I didn't.

Plastic surgery is conforming. We need more diversity.

...gender is forced upon us? Gender is the roles society expects us to play based on our sex. Boys are aggressive and play sports and have short hair, and girls are polite and play with dolls and have long hair. Nobody "chooses" a gender, nor is it innate in any kind of way. It's just forced on you before you were even born. It starts with names, and baby clothes, and toys, and how people interact with you. There is no "trans" or "cis". You are your body, not just a brain inside a meatsack. Gender is not real, it's just a belief everyone has to keep believing in to make it seem real.

Sex on the other hand, yeah that's observed at birth, not assigned or forced. Unless you have a DSD, in which case it gets more complicated, but I don't and I don't want to speak for them as I know many people with DSDs hate the fact that a medical condition has got lumped in with gender issues now.

But why? Why will it make you feel better? Why would you see your body as deficient in the first place? You're looking at the outcome, not the reasons behind it. The reason is not "because I want to" because that is not how any decision works. There is thinking behind it and reasons behind it, some that we can consciously understand and some that we don't even realise.

The fact that there are any risks at all, that anyone would be willing to die or suffer chronic pain from surgical errors, for their appearance - something so shallow and meaningless compared to your personality and life and thoughts and feelings and knowledge. That's horrific, and shows the state of our beauty standards.

What do you think about South Korea, for example? Almost everyone has plastic surgery. There are adverts for clinics everywhere. I would guess 99% of celebrities do not have their natural faces. Children are gifted eyelid surgeries by their parents. Do you see the links, and the problems there? Do you think these decisions are made in a vacuum, free from societal influence? How can you look at the rise of people wanting nosejobs in the West, directly influenced by Snapchat and Instagram and how their phone cameras morph their features, and not see issues?

Everything is linked. There is not one decision that can be made outside of the societal ideals and norms. No person is an island, and no one exists in a vacuum. All actions have consequences. I suggest to you that you read more criticism of plastic surgery and the beauty industry, because it's not nearly as simple as "I want to". It's an insidious chipping away at your self-confidence for profit.

I don’t think the fact I’m better at talking with girls indicates I’m a woman

Then what indicates that you are a man? Is it liking masculine things or how your body looks less feminine? Because these are not necessary things to be anybody. You have XX chromosomes, that's all it takes to be a woman. Anything else is just dressings. It's going to be difficult to socially pass as a man, like you're describing, because you have been socialised as a woman and it will be harder to relate to male socialisation.

I'm sorry if this was a bit harsh. I briefly identified as non-binary/genderfluid, and the things that you are saying are things I felt. I still struggle having a Feminine body, with boobs and hips, but that's not the most important thing to me anymore. I am (mostly) happy with where I am at right now, which is a biological woman doing whatever I want regardless of "gender" or how people may perceive me.

If you're questioning it, then stop and wait. Don't plough on through your doubts. That's the worst thing you could do. It could seriously affect your health and the rest of your life.

I have a provisional diagnosis of autism (hopefully getting a full screening done later this year) and I previously had a fair amount of issues with gender dysphoria. Growing up, I felt like I was actually a boy to the point that I thought my parents had made me have some kind of surgery to turn me into a girl. For a period, I identified as gender-fluid/non-binary. Even up until the beginning of this year, before I found gender critical communities, I didn't feel "right". Knowing that it's probably a mix of autism and societal norms has really helped me. I still have problems having a physical body, but I feel like I can accept it the way it is a bit better now (less gender dysphoria, more corporeal dysphoria if you will). It's been very useful to work out which feelings are from me thinking and acting differently, from societal expectations, and from clinging onto whatever community would have me/say they would "fix" my distress.

I think a certain amount of this would be helped with more awareness about what autism actually is and better mental health services. It wasn't until a few years ago that I was talking to a psychologist about something unrelated that I mentioned I had problems interacting with other people, he suggested a referral to the local autism service (there's been a long, long wait...), and things started clicking into place once I looked up what autism is actually like, particularly in women. I was ~23, and no one had ever offered any other explanation prior to this. Because I thought ASD was mostly a "male thing" and it was being really smart and being completely socially inept, I had mostly ruled out my having it. If there is more accurate representation, combined with better mental health support, I think there would be a lot fewer cases of this. And just a better world for everyone all around, tbh.

Maleness doesn't have to be positive. It's neutral. I don't think self love or whatever is useful for a lot of situations, like in this. Self acceptance and tolerance is much better. Looking at your body and thinking "this is my body" rather than "I love myself!".

Your maleness is an aspect of you. Your genitalia do not define you. Your lower voice is a sound you use to communicate, not part of your identity.

I have changed my personal way of thinking to this, about my own gender and body. It was a lot of brute force, I will be honest. Being very conscious about the thoughts I have surrounding my body and other people's bodies. Concentrating on the aggressively neutral rather than the negative. I have arms that can hold things. I have eyes that can read. My nose can smell lots of different things. I am disabled, so there's things I can't do. It took a long time to think of realistic things that are neutral that I can do. I still have problems tacking on a "yeah, but..." to those things. I have legs that can walk, but not for very long and it hurts when I do it and I remember when I could walk across the city and just hurt when I got home and now I can't even walk down the street, etc. isn't a useful way of thinking. Trying to stop that at the "I have legs that can walk" is hard but important. It's taken many, many years for me to get to this point. A certain amount of therapy, but I didn't learn this technique there - just way to try and be more objective about myself. I got a lot of this from experience and from other people on the internet who have had body image disorders and/or eating disorders. I don't think this will work for everyone, but it has definitely helped shift my ways of thinking into (hopefully!) better patterns.

Once you start looking at your whole body as a tool rather than an object or a set of parts, it becomes a lot easier. Decorate the tool, don't take it apart and criticise it. And then you start trying to build it better and get happier using the tool.

There needs to be people like you in the world. Men who are different, and still male, showing other men that it is possible. Use your maleness as a tool to defy the stereotypes set up for men.

I don't know if any of this will help, but maybe it'll have made you think of something. I would recommend seeing a therapist, but I know it can be tricky nowadays. I hope something helps and you start feeling better soon :)