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About me
I started transitioning seven years ago when I was struggling with deep loneliness, and the idea of being trans offered a comforting reason for my distress. I had bottom surgery, which greatly reduced my dysphoria and was a positive decision for me, though the results are obviously different from a female's. Afterwards, my loneliness just changed into a different kind of isolation, and I've become pretty jaded about ever finding a real relationship. I began having serious doubts, not because I wanted to detransition, but from a fear for my faith and seeing the movement itself become cult-like. Now, I'm left with a mix of good and bad, feeling like a guinea pig who is isolated and questioning everything.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started about seven years ago. Back then, the trans community felt different, less intense. I didn't see the cult-like aspects I see now. I was struggling with a lot of things, mainly a deep feeling of being alone and a fear of being abandoned or rejected. I can be honest with myself and admit I have the psychology of someone who could fall into a cult, looking for a place to belong.
I transitioned because the idea gave me a clear reason for why I felt so distressed. Hearing that my discomfort could be explained by being trans was comforting because it offered a solution: transition. It felt like the only way to overcome the feeling. It wasn't a perfect solution, but when you're desperate, you take what you can get.
I had bottom surgery. Seeing a gynecologist for the first time afterwards, she said everything looked surprisingly similar to a natal vagina, minus the scars. For me, the surgery was a positive decision. It drastically reduced my dysphoria and cleared my head in a way I hadn't felt since before puberty. It’s a separate thing from what a female is born with, and the function is limited, so I understand why a potential partner might be put off by it. There's a lot of nuance to it.
But after surgery, the loneliness changed. It was a different kind of alone than before, but I still felt very isolated. I’ve given up on finding a large community for myself and am just aiming for small, personal friendships now. I'm pretty jaded about relationships. I don't understand them and have never had one. The only man who ever showed interest in me just wanted my body, not me, which was something I wasn't mentally prepared for before transitioning.
The desire to detransition didn't come from me initially. It came from a growing fear about my faith and going to hell. I don't even really want to detransition, but the worry is there. I also started to see the trans movement itself as a problem, acting in that cult-like manner I mentioned, using people as political tools. I’ve come to believe that if transitioning is helpful for someone, they shouldn't let political ideologies dictate such a major decision.
I see a lot of young people jumping into this now, and it worries me. They don't fully know themselves, and the last thing they need is to go through all of this and have it not work, leaving them with more problems than they started with. It's not good risk management. We're all guinea pigs in a new form of medical science, and too many people treat it like magic.
Looking back, I don't think medicalizing everything is the right way to understand being trans. It's an oversimplification. As for regrets, it's complicated. The surgery helped me in a significant way, but the overall path has left me isolated and questioning everything, including my faith. I don't have a clear answer on whether I regret it or not. It's a mix of good and bad.
Age | Event |
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23 | Started my social and medical transition. |
30 | Had bottom surgery. Felt it greatly reduced dysphoria. |
30 | Began having serious doubts and fears about my transition, influenced by religious concerns and seeing the trans movement as cult-like. |
Top Comments by /u/lisassaxophone:
I appreciate the kind words. I know logically its not impossible for me but I doubt.
I dont understand relationships and never had one. One men who ever have shown interest wanted my body, not me. Something I was not prepared for mentally before transision.
I'm pretty jaded about the whole thing.
I have given up hope that i'll find a proper community for myself. I'm aiming for smaller scare interpersonal friendships. Hopefully im wrong about this.
I just feel very alone. In a different way than before, but alone never the less.
I'd say they are young and don't even fully know themselves. The last thing they need is to go through this and have it not work. Than they have more problems than before.
Not good risk managment nor a good long term plan.
Too many jump into this as if its magic and not a new form of medical science where we are all guina pigs.
Im assuming it was that wording which tripped up the Dr.
Implying you would like to be a man at all would lead them to label you as trans I presume.
Plus with how the affirmative care model is prominent now its easier to make such assumptions.
Next time you see them maybe try explaining that dispite how that sounds you genuinely dont wanna transition and are content with yourself. May fix your paperwork issue.
Serious question that i know is off topic but i cant ask this most places without backlash.
How can you identify as both non binary and a lesbian. Lesbain means women who is into women. If you are not a binary gender your not a women and thus can't be a lesbian.
Unless to you lesbian refers to your sex in which case if your sex supercedes your gender identity why identity as non binary in the first place
Quality comment and you hit the nail on the head why many trans people feel threatened by detrans stories.
We had to fight for our distress to be any bit understood. Hearing that there is a legitimate reason why you feel the way you do is comforting as it gives a way to overcome it. I.e transision.
Its far from an ideal solution but beggers cant be choosers.
Im curious what you mean by "its an oversimplification to medilize the phoenoma of transexuality"
people are defensive because some people are very rude about it and will made disparaging comments.
I seen a gyno for the first time and she said it looks pretty similar minus scars which is impressive considering.
function is highly limited and i can see why men may be put off by it as a whole.
But for me personally it was an overall positive decision that made dysphoria drastically less and cleared my head in a way ive not felt since before puberty.
Its hardly for everyone though and its true that its a separate thing from a natal vagina overall.
There is nuance.
The desire to detransision did not come before faith. I don't even want to do it. I also contemplate it because I'm worried about going to hell.
I know I hav abondoment and rejection issues. I have psychology of someone who would fall into a cult. I can be honest with myself about this.
I see the trans movement now acting in said cult like manner, but when I made the decision 7 years ago, it was not near so bad.
I understand this concern and the general distaste for woke culture.
It absolutely just uses trans people as a political tool to further far left social ideals.
That said if transision is helpful for you id advice detransision for this reason alone. Dont let others dictate such a major decision.
Besides while it can seem at times that the aforementioned idology is everywhere, its not at all the case. Many disagree if they are even aware of it.