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About me
I was born female and started my journey feeling genderfluid, wanting a deeper voice, facial hair, and a flat chest. I had surgery to remove my breasts and a full hysterectomy, which I now deeply regret as it caused surgical menopause and took away my autonomy. My mental health suffered greatly from these permanent changes and the lack of proper support or information. While I'm happy with some changes like my facial hair, I've accepted that I am non-binary, not a man. I am now on estrogen and trying to find peace with the choices I wasn't fully in control of making.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender has been long and complicated, and I’m still figuring it out. I was born female, and for a long time, I felt like I didn't fit into the category of "woman." Before I started any medical transition, I felt that "genderfluid" described me best. I wasn't a man, and I never really wanted to be one. What I did want were specific changes to my body. I wanted a deeper voice, facial hair, a flat chest, and for my period to disappear. I had endometriosis, so the pain and discomfort of my period were a huge part of my life.
I ended up taking testosterone and getting top surgery to remove my breasts. I also had a full hysterectomy, which included removing my ovaries. At the time, I felt a lot of dysphoria about my female anatomy, especially my vagina. I still have some of those feelings, but I've learned to accept that part of my body now.
Looking back, I realize I didn't have enough support or information. I had to spend a year and a half proving my dysphoria to doctors, but I never got to see a psychologist to really talk things through. There was no aftercare. I didn't know that when you have a hysterectomy, you could choose to keep your ovaries. The doctors talked me into removing everything, and now I feel like I lost my autonomy. I’m grieving the loss of those healthy organs. I’m permanently in a state of surgical menopause because of it, and I regret that decision immensely.
Going on testosterone and having that full hysterectomy is when my mental health really started to suffer. I think the sudden menopause and being on a high dose of T messed with my head. I started having confusing dreams where I was a woman, and it made me question everything. It took me until January of 2021 to finally accept that I am, at most, non-binary or genderfluid. I am not a man.
There are parts of my transition I don't regret. I'm happy with my facial hair and I'm glad to never have a period again. I enjoy having a flat chest, though it's complicated because I also miss my breasts sometimes. I didn't like them on me, but I remember they could look nice in certain clothes.
After I stopped testosterone, I had to fight to get estrogen because my gender clinic wanted me to go through another long process of appointments with a psychologist. I was really worried about my hair thinning, which was a side effect of the testosterone. I started estrogen in August 2021, and after about six months, I noticed my hair was starting to recover. It was falling out less and filling in again. It was a big relief.
Now, I don't mind if people see me as a man, but I would love to be able to pass as both male and female. I feel different, not entirely like a woman, but I definitely regret a lot of the permanent decisions I made. I wish I had just micro-dosed testosterone or found another way to get the specific changes I wanted without going all the way. My main regret is not having all the information and not being in control of my own choices.
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Before Medical Transition | Identified as genderfluid. Wanted a deeper voice, facial hair, a flat chest, and no period. |
| Not Sure (Before 2019) | Had top surgery (chest surgery). |
| 2019 (Age not specified) | Had a full hysterectomy, including ovary removal (oophorectomy). Mental health declined afterwards. |
| January 2021 | Accepted that I am non-binary/genderfluid, not a man. |
| August 2021 | Started taking estrogen again. |
| Early 2022 (6 months after starting estrogen) | Noticed hair loss slowing down and hair beginning to recover. |
Top Comments by /u/lj_scnd:
I would stop until you're entirely sure about being on T. You're early enough to stop some lifelong changes. You seem very unsure, and I think it could benefit you to speak about your worries on this subreddit, but also a gender therapist. Worst case scenario you actually do want to be on T, and you'll just go back on it! We're here for you.
We're here for you, hun ❤️ your natural hormones take a long time to kick in and do their job, especially after Nebido. I've been on estrogen since August and my T levels are still a little too high. It'll leave your system, and you'll recognize yourself again. I promise.
I wish I had words to help you with the loss of your breasts. I'm going through something similar. For now, I use a mastectomy bra with special fillings. Perhaps it could help you to get something like that?
Take care ❤️!!
I don't have advice for you, but man do I feel for you. I don't necessarily regret my hysto, but my oophorectomy (wrote that wrong, sorry) is something I'm SO upset about. I have to fight to get synthetic estrogen, and the idea I need to take them for life is awful.
I think we're grieving. It doesn't help that doctors expect you to get rid of the "whole package", it's the reason why they talked me into a full hysto. I listened to them and now I'm forever bound to their decisions over my own body. I'm grieving that I don't have autonomy over my body. I'm grieving I got rid of organs that were healthy (not my uterus, but that's a different story).
If you need to talk about it, I'm always available. A full hysto changes you for life and the impact it has is enormous. I'm so sorry.
Up until pretty recently, unfortunately. I even had a full hystorectomy in 2019 and top surgery before that. That's when my mental state went all wrong (I think because of going into menopause and being on T fully). After that I started having dreams about myself as a woman (feeling confused) and until recently (January 2021) I've accepted that I'm at most non-binary, or genderfluid. I'm not a man.
Before I got T I felt genderfluid fit most, and now I look back at that time I think I agree. I wasn't a man, and never even wanted to be one. I just wanted a beard, low voice, my period disappearing and a flat chest: nothing more. I could've micro dosed and then stop. I didn't have any access to any after care about this, no psychologist appointments even though I had to spend a year and a half proving my dysphoria.
I spent forever having gender dysphoria about my vgin. I still do, but I accept it now. I'm pretty happy about my facial hair and am happy to never have a period again (having endometriosis), though I immensely regret getting my ovaries removed. I never knew it was an option not to! My flat chest I enjoy a lot too, though I also miss my breasts. I didn't like them but they could look gorgeous in a top.
Now my gender clinic refuses to give my estrogen until I go through a similar phase of many appointments with a gender psychologist. The hair on my head is thinning, so time feels like it's running out. Once I go on estrogen again I'm glad to get my curves, barely any body hair and facial shape back.
I don't mind passing as a man, but I would love being able to pass as both. I guess I'm a little different (not feeling entirely like a woman!) But i do regret a lot of what I've done.
I'm AFAB and I'm fairly certain most women don't give a sh*t, larger usually hurts too much and isn't all that porn makes it out to be. If someone really cares for you then average is just fine, great even.
Weird twist in the conversation though, didn't expect that here lol
I've been back on Estrogen for nearly 6 months and I'm somehow already noticing my hair "recovering". It's falling out a lot less and some parts are getting more filled in (I especially had hairloss on my crown and the front, and it's much much better now!)
Do be aware that when you quit T it'll take a few months to get out of your system (it's still not quite gone with me) so the hairloss will continue for quite some time. I guess it just takes patience and possibly minoxidil and finasteride (though I didn't take these drugs).
I understand completely. I have cis counselors as well, and they're quite frankly pretty useless in this. I'd tell your endocrinologist to stop for a bit (because of your doubts) and maybe journal about it? Would T give you what you need, do you want surgeries, if so why? Would you perhaps want a hysterectomy so you don't have the dysphoria of a period? Try to get as concrete as answers as you can. Perhaps it could help.