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About me
I'm a guy who felt trapped by society's expectations of men to be tough and unemotional. I transitioned because I envied the emotional freedom I thought women had and believed becoming someone else was the answer. After starting hormones, I felt foggy and disconnected, which led me to a therapist who helped me uncover my deep-rooted self-esteem issues. I realized my problem wasn't my body, but my inability to accept myself as a sensitive man. I have since detransitioned and am now learning to live with the permanent changes while finally working on self-acceptance.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I was always a sensitive kid and I felt a lot of pressure to be a certain way as a guy. I saw how men were expected to be tough and not show emotion, and it felt like a trap. I believed that women were allowed to be more emotionally open and empathetic, and I think I started to envy that freedom. I began to feel like my own body was wrong for me, and a lot of that discomfort focused on going through male puberty.
I started identifying as non-binary in my early twenties. It felt like a way to escape the pressures of being a man. I found a lot of community and validation online and with a new group of friends who were also exploring their gender identities. It felt amazing to finally be seen for who I felt I was inside. This social transition was a huge deal for me and it made me feel like I had finally found my place.
From there, my identity shifted again and I began to identify as a trans woman. I was convinced that medical transition was the only way to truly be myself and escape the feelings of depression and anxiety that had plagued me for years. I started taking estrogen. I think a lot of my drive to transition was rooted in a deep unhappiness with myself and a belief that becoming someone else was the answer. I also struggled with my sexuality and I wonder now if internalized homophobia played a role, making the idea of being a straight woman more comfortable than being a gay man.
After being on hormones for a while, I began to have serious doubts. My brain felt foggy and I didn't feel like myself. I started therapy with a new therapist who didn't just affirm my gender identity but helped me explore the root causes of my distress. We talked about my low self-esteem, my need for escapism, and my discomfort with societal expectations. This non-affirming therapy was the key that unlocked everything for me. I realized that my problems weren't because I was born in the wrong body, but because I had never learned to accept myself in the body I had.
I decided to detransition. Stopping hormones was scary, but necessary. I am now dealing with the permanent changes to my body, and some days that is very hard. I worry about my fertility and I have to accept that my body is permanently altered. I don't regret exploring my identity because it led me to where I am now, but I deeply regret the medical interventions. I now see that my vision of gender was too
Top Comments by /u/lluuni:
That’s funny you say that your thinking completely changed from. 20-25. They say that 25 is the average age your brain reaches full maturity.
I’m sorry this happened to you. I don’t believe your body is ruined, even though you say it currently feels that way to you. Your body is just as valuable today as it was before hormones. Over time I’m sure a lot of the upsetting changes will be less painful to bear in your mind.
I think you would be considered a desister, not a detransitioner. Desisted people are usually categorized as those who have socially transitioned and then stopped, while detransitioners have generally gone through some form of medical processes to change their bodies.
I’ve seen this sub support both types of people. I’d say you are definitely welcome here to share your story.
False, women are just forced from a young age to express excessive amounts of empathy, while men are shamed out of it. Men on average have a greater neurological response in the emotional areas of their brain when being they are being stimulated.
I know you’re hurting, but from what I’m reading, you’re doing a fantastic job with all of this. You’re relaxing in the bath with self care, you’re planning to go back to university, you’re looking into gender services and opening up to family about your problems. You’re taking all the right steps and you should be proud of that.
The study I sent you literally says that people inaccurately describe their emotions when reporting them. Women in the study said they felt more emotion than they actually did according to their brain scans, while men reported that they felt less emotional than they really did. It shows that we answer personality questions based on the emotions society expects from us, not what we truly feel.
Yet the study you sent me is about the big five personality traits, which is a personality quiz. So in other words, I gave you a study showing neurological evidence that personality quizzes are not accurate, and you responded by sending me a study.... about personality quizzes. Okay.