Those studies have very small sample sizes and are definitely not something to base an entire worldview on. Even if you take the studies for their word, there is no evidence to show that, if males and females have a difference in brain structure on average, yours being closer to female than average would mean that you're female in a male body. No one has even done these scans for a general population, found the "trans brains", and seen how those people identify. The brain is not a sex organ, it is extremely plastic and can be shaped from the world around us. If you are constantly observing women and acting like women, it makes sense your brain scan would tilt a little towards female typical patterns.

It's rough living in a world that invalidates you at every turn. It's tempting to point at science and say you were born this way, but the studies are very sparse and the evidence for your conclusion just isn't there.

I transitioned due to gender dysphoria and probably partially due to PTSD that made me feel as if transitioning could be a reset button on my life. I'm stopping now, primarily, because I've realized I am just not comfortable living as a man and I will not be able to integrate into the world of men, and I thought on this for many months before stopping hormones. My life had become full of anxieties about passing and acting the right way, I needed to stop for my health and I needed to address my mental health issues. I have embraced a lesbian identity since then that I'd never explored before, and this is helping me in my detransition.

I still very much have gender dysphoria. I think there is a misconception that people that socially and medically detransition don't have dysphoria, and this is why we detransitioned. I don't think this is the case for most of us. I was and am happy with the physical changes, I do not have reverse dysphoria ; I am just not happy that I am now an outlier people will treat differently. I'd like to remedy that so that I can live as a female with the least amount of problems.

I am critical of what I believed that lead me to transition, and the unrealistic story I saw from a lot of Youtube stars etc. I feel like the reality of transition can be much, much more difficult, it's more than just physical changes. It's portrayed as that T makes you pass easily and after some time you'll be seen as a man, and that's that. I didn't think of the possibility that I might just never "cut it". I didn't think about that there is a complex social structure to how men interact and it would prove too stressful for me to learn after living so long as a female. I also didn't think that trying to go "stealth" would feel like hiding my past and like I was lying to my friends, and that anything less would make people treat me as an inbetween. Maybe that was my own fault. I just wish I'd known.

I really don't feel comfortable being a political weapon against tucutes. I know dysphoria is the reason you transition. I know because I have it. Contra's new video makes some really good points about why this truscum/tucute divide doesn't actually prevent detransitioners in the first place. I highly recommend it.

No. Everyone using "truscum standards" means that people think they need to medically transition to be valid transgender people. How on earth does that prevent regret? Do you really think that "you need dysphoria to be trans" is clear cut enough that people who want to be validated won't simply convince themselves they have it? There is no blood test or brain scan for it, you only need to meet a checklist of criteria based on feelings to be diagnosed. And if they believe they have it, what does transmed tell them? That they're practically intersex, and medical transition is the only treatment for gender dysphoria. If they never start taking steps towards fully living as their desired gender, they will never feel relief from the symptoms.

People are already exploring gender identity and presentation, using different pronouns etc all without medical intervention or them feeling the need for it, but do you know what people call them? Tucutes, trenders, fujoshi, fetishists, SJW, snowflakes etc. Especially if they are a "boy who wears a dress" and other things they "wouldn't really do if they had dysphoria". They are not only shunned by society at large but by the trans community as well. They all know that if they do the "real trans stuff" people will finally respect them and their identity. So what do you think is going to happen..?

To prevent regret, we need to be inclusive, not exclusionary.

I have anorexia. I really can't tell you how to replace that, because I am using it in a similar way to make me look more androgynous. However, if you have any control over it and there is any choice aspect to your eating disorder, please compromise with your ED. Pick a weight that you know is thin, but not so thin that you will get sick. Don't make this a "goal weight" if you can help it, think of it more as a dividing line you can't cross. If you get to that weight, resist the impulse to get lower. Female bone structure is obvious, so at a certain point of thinness you are working against your goal. The ED will tell you you can make further "progress", but try to remember why you chose that compromise weight in the first place. Write a letter to your future self about it that might help you snap out of the disorder's grip.

You might be able to become more comfortable with your breasts. I was able to, even though I couldn't get rid of my dysphoria as a whole. Something that helped me to stop binding is "exposure therapy" of being naked. When I am at home and no one is going to see me, I spend time naked. This has allowed me to become comfortable with being shirtless etc without the baggage of society's reaction to my breasts. It has given me a place in which I can become more comfortable with my breasts in a safe atmosphere. I stopped binding when I realized for myself, "this is uncomfortable, i am only doing this because of societys reaction to it, and not for myself". Id really thought I was doing it for myself, but I wasn't.

Im newly off T, but the consensus here seems to be that the voice you have after 6 months is probably what you'll be left with, at least naturally without training your voice or medical intervention. Give it 6 months and see where it's at. People really pay more attention to inflection than pitch though in real life, so try not to dislike your voice.

I was encouraged to transition as the first and most important psychological treatment. I dont think it was wrong for me to have been helped in transitioning, because my gender dysphoria doesn't look any different from the next persons. They couldn't have known it wouldn't work for me just from looking at that. But they ignored some obvious and glaring problems that obviously could have influenced my desire to transition, they knew of those problems, I was trying to seek help for those problems, and they ignored those problems and focused on gender. They treated transition as treatment for all of my problems. I think this was irresponsible and wrong.

Unfortunately, unlike anorexia, there are no treatments that focus on changing trans identity that are both confirmed to work and that are not extremely harmful. Some people may find relief in addressing their traumas or other issues on an individual basis, but until there is a recognized treatment, I just don't recommend "go to therapy" as advice for most people. Being healthy is just more important than not being trans.

Im detrans, but please stop comparing dysphoria to anorexia and BIID. As someone whos had both anorexia and gender dysphoria, they are very different, feel very different, and present very different. Anorexia also has a proven treatment of therapy, GD does not, the only thing proven to help gender dysphoria is hormone treatments. It is completely irresponsible to recommend a completely unproven treatment to people in pain when there is already an established one. You may not like transition, but it's helping people. It's more important to help people than make them not trans. The opposite is such an anti-trans sentiment that it even makes me question whether you're really detrans or just using us for your political agenda. If you'd ever felt dysphoria, which I think all of us have whether during our transition or afterwords, I really don't think you'd believe it's anything like anorexia. It's a huge red flag.

If not binding is working for you right now, thats great. However, if you need to wear a compression sports bra or even bind in public simply because otherwise you are constantly thinking about your breasts, don't view that as bad or that you are reinforcing the dysphoria. As you've said, without binding, you're using the disordered eating instead. We all find ways to try to cope with dysphoria, some healthier than others. View it all as harm reduction, rather than trying to eliminate these behaviors. You aren't going to wake up happy with your breasts tomorrow no matter what mindset you take, it really does take a bit of time. So while you are working on acceptance, don't beat yourself up over what you need in the moment.