It’s not as much “living as a woman” as it is being comfortable with being female. You can act, dress, be however you want. What’s most important is feeling comfortable with your self, body, and identity. Hormones or not, you are you. Just be sure to not dislike who you are. No need to fit yourself into a box.

Thank you so much… This has genuinely helped me. It’s only been a month for me, after all, so maybe I do just need to give it time. Did your register go back up, or did the timbre of your voice just change to that of a more feminine sound, if you don’t mind me asking? Again, thank you for the reassurance! I don’t feel so alone anymore.

Thank you… I’m going to Australia on Wednesday to visit my partner for 3 months, and they said they’d support me and do most of the talking for me and just give me a safe, quiet place to heal and be loved. My parents said that once I get back, if my voice hasn’t changed still, they’ll look into ways to fix it. I’ve just always been an impatient and impulsive person.. I hope I can get through this. I hope my voice goes back. Most people who have been on T for years don’t have as deep of a voice as me, and my voice dropped an octave in a MONTH. It’s crazy.. I don’t know why it happened to me. It doesn’t feel fair.

This is…. incredibly inspiring, actually. When your voice returned the first time, did your low register go away? Like, did you lose the ability to hit the same low notes? And did your register get higher, even if not as high as it was pre-T? I’m just wondering if I’ll see pitch changes as well as timbre changed, this is the #1 thing I’m thinking about. But, seriously, this really does give me hope. If you have any more info about what’s happened to your voice, I’d really appreciate it!

I still have the same problem. What I’ve done is I’ve stopped medically transitioning, but try to remain as gender neutral in my presentation as I can. Since how I feel depends on the day, I have the versatility to adapt to either identity. They’re both a part of me, after all. I still bind most days, but that’s just because I feel uncomfortable with other people seeing my female anatomy. Just try to take a neutral stance on it and adapt to whatever you feel in the moment, without the need of medical transition to achieve it.

It’s not that I was like.. super offended by the screenshot or anything. I was mostly just shocked with this massive influx of people then going into my DMs and such (all mostly supportive, at least.) I’m glad that the post got taken down, and I’m even more grateful towards the mod here that reached out and requested for it to be taken down, but my shock mostly just came from an already-bad mood.

Don’t see it as admitting you were wrong, but being your honest self. When you asked the people you know to call you by your new pronouns, that was you being honest. And so is you changing your mind about some aspects about yourself. Both you and the people around you will be happier if you are true to yourself.

Some thoughts from someone who had the exact same experience: once you transition and are perceived as male, society will start to treat you differently. Men are socialized differently, and their social groups can often be much more distant. People in general will treat you much more distantly, and it might be harder to befriend women. I found that I would always get weird looks when shopping for cute things. I realized that I was perfectly content just dressing and acting masculine. I’d recommend reading into the social effects of transitioning, and if you decide you’re perfectly okay with that, then go for it, but just be sure to consider everything.

Despite everything, you are still the same person that you were pre-transition. Your lived experiences and perspective as a female are still there. That’s something that nobody can take away from you. You are absolutely lovable and you can still go back. The longer you are off T, the more your body will readjust. Human bodies are incredibly malleable things. There are plenty of ways you can begin your detransition without money. Online voice training videos can be a huge help, and coming out to friends can offer you a larger support network. Later down the line when you do have more money, voice demonization surgery and laser hair removal are definitely options. If you’re referring to your face when you mention plastic surgery, I’d say not to as your fat redistribution will eventually return to female levels. Above all, there is an entire community here that has been through the same hardships you have. You are and will always be lovable for the person you are.

This has made me feel so, so, SO reassured… God, this is EXACTLY what I needed to hear. So your lowest notes were gone after you stopped T, or just not in your natural resting register? Either way, if your voice was able to return to female range, I hope mine can, too. I naturally spoke around “middle C” pre-T, and now I speak at the F below middle C. I’m the same way where I can sing high notes again but I can’t do it loudly or else my voice cracks back down. I can sing an octave above middle C, and up to the F above that. Pre-T, I was able to go to the A above that. (God.. I forgot if middle C was C3 or C4, otherwise I’d be referring to them as that.) This has definitely inspired me to wait a little bit before jumping immediately to surgery, though. I can’t thand you enough!

P.S. I was 18 when I started T 4 months ago before stopping a month ago. Well.. am. I still am 18.