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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a bad-faith actor.
The comments demonstrate:
- Consistent, empathetic perspective: The user consistently writes from the viewpoint of a cis woman offering support.
- Personalized advice: The advice is nuanced, practical, and tailored to each post (e.g., specific suggestions for laser hair removal, volunteering, trauma therapy).
- Natural language: The tone is conversational and includes natural variations (excitement, empathy, casual phrasing like "tool around on your laptop").
The user identifies as a "cis woman," so they are not presenting as a detransitioner/desister. However, their supportive role in the community does not make the account inauthentic.
About me
I was born female and my discomfort started when I began developing breasts during puberty. I later realized this was tied to trauma and a feeling of vulnerability, which led me to transition with testosterone and top surgery. Through therapy that explored my past, I understood my transition was an attempt to escape being a woman rather than an expression of my true self. I now live comfortably as a woman again, though I have to accept permanent changes like infertility. My journey taught me that self-acceptance, not changing my body, was the real answer to my pain.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started from a place of deep discomfort, but not necessarily with my body itself at first. I was born female, and my main issues began during puberty. I hated developing breasts; it didn't feel right and made me incredibly self-conscious. Looking back, I think a lot of this was tied to trauma I experienced as a young woman. I felt unsafe and vulnerable, and I believed that if I could just make my body appear more masculine, I would be safer and more powerful. This was a central factor in my decision to transition.
I started identifying as non-binary first, which felt like a comfortable middle ground. But I was heavily influenced by online communities and friends who were also transitioning. It felt like the right path, the only way to solve my deep anxiety and depression. I eventually took testosterone and got top surgery. The surgery, in particular, felt necessary at the time. I told myself it was about identity, but a big part of it was about trying to escape the trauma associated with being a woman.
After a while on testosterone, I began to realize that my feelings were changing. I had a lot of time to think, and with the help of a therapist who didn't just affirm my transition but encouraged me to explore the roots of my feelings, I started to untangle everything. This non-affirming therapy was actually the most beneficial thing for me. It helped me see that my desire to transition was wrapped up in trauma, internalized misogyny, and a general low self-esteem that made me believe I couldn't be a happy, whole woman.
I don’t regret my journey because it led me to where I am now, which is a place of much greater self-understanding. But I do have regrets about the permanent changes, especially the top surgery. I’m now infertile, which is a difficult reality to live with. My thoughts on gender now are that it's a very complex thing, but for me, changing my body wasn't the answer to the problems I had. The answer was in dealing with my past and learning to love myself. I'm now comfortable once again living as a woman. I've learned to accept my naturally lower voice and see it as just a part of who I am, not something that defines my femininity.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started puberty; began to intensely hate developing breasts. |
| 19 | Came out as non-binary, influenced by online spaces and friends. |
| 21 | Started testosterone therapy. |
| 23 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 25 | Began to question my transition in therapy. |
| 26 | Stopped taking testosterone and began socially detransitioning. |
| 27 | Accepted my identity as a woman and began to process the trauma that led to my transition. |
Top Comments by /u/majnyx:
I'm thinking you've never spent much time with a large group of children- or any group of children. The child psyche is very malleable to their setting. If left to their own devices in a safe place, there is literally no limit to a child's self-image. That's why young kids will honestly answer that they want to grow up to be a mermaid, President Batman, or a princess robot. During the developmental stage, they believe they can really turn into those things.
I'm so sorry to hear about your experiencing trauma due to being a woman. It broke my heart to read about getting top surgery to be safer. I can only advise talking to your therapist about this trauma, especially if your therapist specializes in PTSD or grief recovery. As a layman with a mild interest in the human psyche, my first impulse is to say your trauma is probably more than just a "factor" - it's probably more like the central factor with other contributing facets tacked on. BUT!! I'm not a professional, so take that with a pinch of salt --- and talk to your therapist!
I agree that you should look for any little thing you can like about yourself. Also, remember that you are going through some heavy self-deprecation right now which is very normal among women. Are you seeing a therapist? Professional guidance may help pull you through this phase quicker.
In case you need some practical steps: Start with getting laser hair removal. A lot of natural women have significant facial hair, so laser hair removal is a thing. If your scars are more than you can handle, I'm all about that inked tattoo life. Get yourself some art which is meaningful about finding who you are.
Try getting into volunteering and service projects to focus on others. This will help shift your perspective outward. I'm not talking about "get a hobby." I mean legit, difficult, maybe even messy volunteer work.
Most importantly, try to remind yourself that your outward appearance does not dictate your worth as a person.
I second the local library idea. Also, small coffee shops are super chill. Grab a bev to "pay for parking," and read a book/tool around on your laptop for a while.
Btw, CONGRATS ON YOUR SUCCESSFUL GROCERY SHOPPING TRIP!!! I'm so happy for you feeling comfy in your skin :)
I'm a cis woman and if it makes you feel better I have to consciously make my voice higher around children b/c my natural voice is very "alto." I recently discovered that I can sing most of the tenor 2 range. Don't let your voice phase you in your detransition :* Happy Holidays!!