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About me
I'm a young woman who started transitioning as a teen because I felt completely out of place and hated the changes of female puberty, which I now understand was linked to my autism. I thought testosterone would solve all my problems, but it only gave me serious health issues like constant UTIs that stopped the moment I quit. Coming off T allowed my body to heal and completely changed my perspective. I now see my transition as a misguided attempt to treat other issues like autism and self-acceptance. I'm learning to manage my dysphoria without medical intervention and live with the permanent consequences of that choice.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition started because I felt completely out of place as a girl. Looking back, I think a lot of that came from being autistic, though I didn't know it at the time. I had a really hard time relating to other girls and never understood all the social rules about what you were supposed to like or how you were supposed to act. Puberty was a nightmare for me; I didn't understand why my body was changing and I hated my breasts when they grew in. They felt like useless, unnecessary parts that were just there, and my black-and-white autistic thinking made me despise them.
I found a lot of this stuff online, and learning about being trans felt like an answer to all my discomfort. It gave me a framework for my feelings and a community. I thought that if I transitioned, all my problems with my body and my place in the world would be solved. So I started taking testosterone. For a while, it felt good to be seen as male and to see my body change. But it didn't fix the deeper issues.
I started having serious health problems because of the testosterone. I kept getting UTIs, several times a year. My doctor, who was supposed to be monitoring my HRT, told me it had absolutely nothing to do with the testosterone, even though there was no other cause. But when I detransitioned and stopped T, the UTIs stopped completely. I haven't had a single one since.
Stopping T also changed how I looked. One of the first things I noticed was the fat redistribution in my face. My face became rounder and softer again, which made a big difference in how I was perceived.
But the biggest change was in my mind. I had a complete change in my perspective on gender. I no longer believe that being trans is a healthy thing. I see it now as a treatment for a mix of other issues—like my late-diagnosed autism, body image issues, and internalized homophobia—that we incorrectly label as being trans. This is harmful because it doesn't solve the original issues; it just creates a new distress, along with physical health problems.
I see so many other detransitioners with stories just like mine, and I see people transitioning now going through the exact same process we did. I can detransition now, but I can't untransition. I can't go back, and that sucks. I have to live with lifelong consequences. I wish that instead of learning about transness as a teen, I had just been helped to deal with my gender-related issues and learned to accept myself. Many men and women experienced gender dysphoria, especially as teens, but since being trans wasn't such a known thing, they learned to manage their emotions and moved on. I'm learning to do that now.
I still have gender dysphoria, but I've realized I can deal with it in a different way that doesn't harm me. I don't want to hurt trans people; I want to stop them from making the same mistakes I did so they don't have to detransition or live with gender constantly on their shoulders. I really hope they can get real help and find self-acceptance.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started puberty; felt intense discomfort and hated my developing breasts. |
| 16 | Learned about transgender identity online; felt it explained my feelings. |
| 17 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 17-21 | Lived as male; experienced health complications (recurring UTIs). |
| 21 | Stopped testosterone due to health issues and changing perspective. |
| 21 | Began the process of detransition. |
| 21 (now) | 4-5 months off T; face softened, UTIs stopped completely. |
Top Comments by /u/margar3tas:
Like the other comment says, the best thing for you to do would probably be to get some proper (not gender affirming) therapy. Yes, you have all these negative feelings towards being male, but you can probably find the root causes of them, understand them, accept them, and probably at least partly manage them to the point where they no longer hurt you that much. You don't need to transition to this, it's really quite the opposite.
You don't need to start to detransition in order to begin this kind of therapy though, you can find a good therapist who understands your situation, who knows you currently live in your trans identity, but are questioning it, who can help you in this process and with your issues in general. I might actually know someone for this, send me a message if you'd like more info! :)
I understand what you mean, but I don't agree.
I detransitioned due to having a complete change in my perspective on gender. I no longer believe you transness is a healthy thing. I think it's treatment for a mix of other issues we incorrectly label as trans. This is harmful because it doesn't solve those original issues, and creates a new one, a new distress, accompanied by physical health problems.
I see that other detransitiones have similar stories and struggles as mine (late diagnosed autism, eating disorders, body image issues, dissociation, internalized misogyny, internalized homophobia, etc.) and I see that the people transitioning now are going through the same processes as us detransitioners did.
I can detransition now, sure, but I can't untransition, like, I can't go back, and that sucks. But, rather than sit and sulk about it, I'd very much at least like to make sure as little people as possible have to go through this. I wish that instead of learning about transness as a teen, I had just got to deal with my gender related issues and eventually accept myself, like people have done for generations. Many men and women experienced gender dysphoria specially as teens and young adults, but since transness wasn't a thing at the time, they just learnt to manage their emotions, and moved on. I wish I had been born 30 years earlier and didn't know of transness and would've just learned to live with myself and my body, I'm learning to do that now, but I have life long consecuences.
I don't want to hurt trans people, I want to avoid them from making the same mistakes I and others did, so they don't have to detransition or live with gender constantly on their shoulder. Never before learning about transness did I worry so much about gender and gender roles, I don't want other kids to have to experience that. Really, very honestly, I don't validate trans people's transition, cause I have empathy for them, I understand their struggle and hope they can get real help and self acceptance
And for a bit of perspective, I still have gender dysphoria, but I've realized I can deal with it in a different way that doesn't harm me
Many studies associate autism and transgenderism, a lot of detransitioners are late diagnosed autistics actually. For many of us (detrans late diagnosed autistic woman here) I think we have a hard time relating to non-autistic girls in childhood and adolescence and have a hard time understanding the social construct of gender (I mean gender roles and male-female division in society in general, not trans related) which leads us to alienation and ultimately to transition, since we don't feel like we belong with the girls or within that gender construct (that exists in society currently irregardless of trans people). Personally I also think my autism affected my experience with puberty, I didn't understand what was going on really and for example didn't understand why I had breasts, because breasts felt completely unnecessary to me, like a useless body part that was just there and moved around (black and white thinking, common in autism)
Hi, so I looked at both your posts, and I do think you look more female without the facial hair! To your question if stopping T will do more, I do think it will. One thing T affects a lot is fat distribution, including fat distribution on the face, which really affects your facial shape and skin I think. One of the first things I noticed when stopping T was my facial fat redistributing, my face looks (about 4-5 months off T now) a lot rounder now and that definitely made a big impact
It's honestly crazy cause I got a lot of UTIs because of T, several ones yearly. My endocrinologist (trans-care doctor, who prescribed and monitored HRT) said that this had absolutely nothing to do with T, even though there was no other causant. When I detransitioned and stopped T, no more UTIs, I haven't had one since