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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a bad-faith actor.
The comments display a consistent, nuanced, and emotionally credible narrative of someone who is recently detransitioning. Key points supporting authenticity include:
- Personal Narrative: The user shares specific, evolving personal details (stopping testosterone, using a BPD workbook, joining a DBT group, feelings about their hair) that build a coherent story over time.
- Emotional Complexity: The emotions are complex and appropriate to the context—vulnerability, frustration, passion in debates, and a focus on personal healing. This is consistent with a genuine detransitioner who is "passionate and pissed off."
- Internal Consistency: The perspective is consistent (e.g., viewing transition as a trauma-driven escapism) while also showing personal growth ("I'll try to be more open").
- Natural Language: The comments use natural, conversational language with casual interjections ("haha", ";;") and varied sentence structures.
The account does not exhibit the repetitive, agenda-driven, or simplistic talking points that often characterize inauthentic accounts.
About me
I was born female and started hating my body when I went through puberty, which made me believe I wasn't a woman. I lived as a man and took testosterone for years, but I eventually realized I was using transition to escape from my depression and other mental health struggles. I stopped hormones when I understood I needed to address my real trauma instead of changing my body. Now, I'm learning to accept myself as female and finally healing from my underlying issues. I feel like I've started living my own life for the very first time.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender has been complicated, and it took me a long time to untangle why I felt the way I did. I was born female, but I never felt like I fit in with other girls, especially when puberty started. I hated the changes in my body, particularly my breasts. That discomfort felt so deep and overwhelming that I thought it meant I wasn't a woman. I now see that a lot of that was just a normal part of growing up that I struggled with more because of my mental health.
For years, I lived as a man. It felt normal for a while, like a suit I had put on. I took testosterone. But eventually, that feeling started to fade, and I realized I was using transition as a form of escapism. I was running away from myself and from a lot of underlying pain that I hadn't dealt with. I have severe recurrent depression and have been hospitalized for it twice. When you're in that headspace, you aren't thinking rationally; you're just looking for a way to stop the suffering, and for me, that was trying to become someone else.
I was also diagnosed with BPD, and I'm starting to work on that with a workbook and a DBT group. I think I was misguided back then. Everyone was so positive and affirming of my transition, but no one, including me, looked deeper into the roots of my problems. I needed help with my trauma and my mental health, not just affirmation.
I stopped taking testosterone very recently. I need to call my doctor to discuss it properly, but I already feel like I'm slowly becoming more comfortable with just being myself in my own body. The word "woman" still feels a little weird to me, but I'm trying to be open-minded and accept my biological reality. It’s like I’ve started living my life for the first time this year; everything before feels like it happened to a different person.
I don't think medically transitioning is healthy for anyone in the long-term, but I also believe people should have the free will to decide for themselves. I just wish my experience was listened to with the same compassion that was given when I decided to transition. All that support seemed to disappear when I started talking about detransitioning.
I don't have any major regrets because my journey led me to where I am now, which is a place where I'm finally working on my real issues. I'm looking forward to my hair growing out and just continuing to heal.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Early Teens | Started hating the changes of female puberty, particularly breast development. |
| 19 | Began identifying as transgender and living as a man. |
| 20 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 24 | Stopped taking testosterone. Began intensive self-healing, working through trauma and depression. |
| 24 | Officially detransitioned and began reconnecting with my female identity. |
Top Comments by /u/maybemiray:
Thank you for the thoughtful response.
The only thing I doubt is that transition can be healthy for anyone in the long-term. I do want people to have the free will to decide for themselves how they live.
I'll try to be more open to and just share my experiences, so long as they're listened to with compassion as well. I feel like all of that open support for transition disappears when I talk about my detrans experience.
I feel like I started living my life this YEAR and everything before that, it feels like another person's life / surreal. It could have to do with denying our biological reality so much, we don't quite feel the same or know ourselves once we accept it.
Not sure about the vampire thing though haha
I lived like a man for years, too. It was pretty normal to me until it just... wasn't. Only on my journey to more intensive self-healing, self-love and unpacking my trauma could I understand that medically transitioning wouldn't help me feel any better. It was a form of escapism that would never end or resolve any of the underlying issues that caused it.
Somebody's never struggled with severe recurrent depression... I am diagnosed. No one pushed to that point is thinking rationally. They're feeling incredibly hopeless and see no other way out of her situation (even if there may have been one).
She was abused to where she felt committing suicide was the only thing that could end her suffering. This is absolutely what we should be talking about, not equating detransition to suicide or telling people "just don't commit suicide" ???
If you have depression and have been hospitalized, then HOW are you so apathetic to her situation? I've been hospitalized twice for it. Her parents were controlling and abusive. There are gentler ways to discourage transition that I absolutely support, but not this. It doesn't matter if the abuse she experienced wasn't identical to yours -- it was very real. It's cruel and very manipulative to treat your child this way, regardless of ideological differences.
You're being incredibly disrespectful regarding the loss of a stranger's life because... they're a stranger? They were still transgender? They weren't abused in the same way you were? I can't wrap my head around your thought process, but I refuse to hear someone talk down a stranger's death like this.
I stopped taking T very recently, don't worry. I definitely need to make a doctor call though to discuss it, too. I feel like I'm feeling more comfortable with just being myself slowly. Whatever that is. But I'm trying to look at myself with the least biased / open-minded opinion possible.
Thanks for your last few sentences especially, they helped a lot.
I'm freshly detrans so it's really nice to hear about other people's experiences. I do feel like I was misguided and positively affirmed way too much, rather than having anyone look deeper into the roots of my problems.
It sounds like you're in a much healthier situation now, I'm happy for you! Looking forward to seeing my own changes as time passes. I mostly want my hair to grow out much longer, it's been a long time since I've seen it like that ;;
I don't know why "woman" feels so weird to me even though I am opening up to femininity. It just feels strange for some reason, but I'll get used to just being myself in my bio body, I guess.
I'm using a BPD workbook and there's a DBT group on my campus I'm going to start going to! I think that'll help a lot.