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About me
I was fifteen and in a really bad place when I fell for the idea that I was a boy because I'm a tomboy. Online communities convinced me my discomfort was because I was born in the wrong body, and I almost destroyed my relationship with my parents. I realized it was all escapism from my other problems and that the real issue was society's sexist expectations of females. I now know I'm just a female person whose interests don't define my sex, and I don't believe in medical transition as a solution. I'm finally at peace just being myself.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started and ended in the summer of 2020, when I was 15. I was going through a really rough time. I had just been diagnosed with autism, but my parents didn't believe the doctors, which was incredibly hard. I was also being bullied and struggling with intense anxiety and depression. I felt completely lost and alone.
During that low point, I became convinced I was transgender. I started spending a lot of time on Reddit, TikTok, Twitter, and YouTube, and the people there seemed to have all the answers. They told me that because I was a tomboy, hated my breasts, shopped in the boys' section, had a crew cut, and felt more comfortable with my male friends, it meant I was definitely a boy. They said things like, "if you don't do it now, you'll never be happy," and I believed them. I was naive and easily manipulated, partly because of my autism, and I fell for it.
I tried to get my parents to call me a different name and use different pronouns. It went badly and I almost completely ruined my relationship with them, which I regret so much because I love my parents.
But I eventually snapped out of it before school started. I realized that the people online were giving me a fake diagnosis. I came to the conclusion that I'm not trans, I'm not a boy, and I'm not non-binary. I don't really consider myself a girl either, but if I have to have a label, I'm just a female. A person.
I think my desire to transition was a form of escapism from all my other problems. I hated being a "girl" because society associates it with being weak, dumb, and less than male. I never felt respected. I thought changing my body and name would fix that feeling, but it wouldn't have. The problem wasn't my body; it was society's rigid rules about what my body should mean.
I strongly believe that clothes, hobbies, personalities, and hair don't have a gender. There is no such thing as "boy's clothes" or "girl's clothes," there are just clothes. The only thing that makes me female is my biological body. I don't need to change my body to wear a button-up shirt or have short hair. I still hate my breasts, but it's not because they're wrong on me—it's because society projects this image onto them and they can be a physical nuisance. I don't believe in the concept of gender identity anymore. There is only male and female sex, and your interests and style have nothing to do with that.
I don't regret exploring these feelings because it led me to this understanding, but I deeply regret the pain I caused my parents and myself. I am completely against medical transition for anyone now. I think it's a terrible solution to a social problem. You don't need to take hormones or have surgery to be yourself. You are beautiful the way you are. Please don't fall down the same hole I did.
| Age | Date (Approximate) | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 15 | Summer 2020 | Was convinced I was transgender (FTM) due to online influence during a difficult time. |
| 15 | Summer 2020 | Asked parents to use a new name/pronouns, severely damaging our relationship. |
| 15 | Late Summer 2020 | Realized I was not trans, just a female who doesn't conform to gender roles. |
| 15 | September 2020 | Snapped out of it before school started, ending my social transition attempt. |
Top Comments by /u/mechkoji:
This summer i was convinced that i was trans. I was going through a huge rough patch having just got diagnosed with autism and my parents not believing the doctors, being bullied, and intense anxiety and depression. I tried to get my parents to call me a different name and long story short I completely ruined my relationship with my parents who i love so much. I would blame people on reddit/tiktok/twitter/youtube for giving me fake diagnoses and such, but it really was mostly my fault. I've always been a "tomboy" and i hate that. I hate being a "girl" because it's associated with being weak, dumb, and i've never felt respected by my friends who are all males. I shop in the "boy" department at american eagle and aeropostal. I have a pretty typical 15 year old "boy's" crew cut. It was my fault because i was naive enough to fall for the people telling me that those things mean i have to change everything about myself to fit into a box for society. I've come to the conclusion that im not trans, im not a boy, im not nonbinary, but i dont really consider myself a girl. I dont put labels on myself but if i have to i guess im just a female kid. Im glad i snapped out of it before school started
Ah my feelings exactly! For me, people would ask "Have you considered non-binary?" FUCK OFF!!! Not wanting to fit into a box/category for society is not a gender ffs! Stop asking me for my pronouns! Stop making up new genders that boil down to being a "masc femme trans whatever the fuck"! I'm so sick of it
I was pressured to go all in ftm this summer and i almost destroyed my relationship with my parents. Im pretty naive and easily manipulated because im borderline autistic. They said things like "if you dont do it now, you'll never be happy" and such. I dont know why i have to be a "butch lesbian", "tomboy", "masculine girl", etc. why can't i just be a person? Clothes, hobbies, personalities, dialects, hair, etc. dont have a gender. I don't want to have to fit in
I can't believe society thinks it's ok to take drugs with awful side affects to change a person's "ugly" body. Nobody but society and yourself says you can't wear cute clothes. As much as people like to think, no, dresses do not have genders. You don't need to change yourself to fit into society's image of a cute petite girl. Trust me, i considered myself ftm for a long time. I thought I couldn't go out in khakis and button up because i was female. Clothes don't have a gender. Personalities dont have genders. Feet dont have genders. The only thing keeping you from walking around in your regular, unaffected by drugs, body in a dress is yourself. Nobody is saying you can't be beautiful and cute because you're biologically male besides this corrupt society forcing strict gender roles on everyone. Please don't take hormones. You're beautiful without artificial chemicals and drugs. Don't ruin yourself to fit in. Please love your body the way it is because you only have one and it's beautiful just the way it is. Please don't fall down the same hole i did.
I have autism and I don't believe that any person should transition. Clothes, personalities, and hair don't have genders. I hear people make the argument of "It's not about clothes. It's about my body." I used to think that way too until I realized that the reason I hated my breasts wasn't because I wasn't supposed to have them, it was because society projects an image of a female with breasts. Breasts are associated with female which is associated with being weak, stupid, pretty, and less than male. Once I got past the fact that I didn't have to fit into society's perception of what a female is, it all sort of fell into place for me. I still hate my breasts and want to chop them off, but more so because they're just a nuisance. I still haven't got past the embarrassment of them, though. I don't believe in "trans". I also don't believe is "man", "woman", "girl", "boy", etc. There is only male and female and there is no difference between the two except for physical traits. I stand strong on the fact that I don't feel the need to categorize myself for society