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Reddit user /u/mega_moustache_woman's Detransition Story

Transitioned: 16 -> Detransitioned: 23
female
low self-esteem
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
depression
influenced online
influenced by friends
got top surgery
serious health complications
now infertile
puberty discomfort
anxiety
benefited from non-affirming therapy
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About me

I started as a teenager who felt a deep discomfort with my changing female body and was convinced online that transitioning was the answer. I took hormones and had surgery, but it only gave me temporary relief from my underlying depression and anxiety. I now live with profound regret over my infertility and the permanent changes I made, feeling I was manipulated during a vulnerable time. Through therapy, I learned my dysphoria was a transient feeling, not my true identity, and that I was running from myself. I am now learning to accept myself as the female I was born to be and believe young people need protection from these irreversible decisions.

My detransition story

My whole journey with this started when I was a teenager. I felt a deep discomfort with my body during puberty, which I now understand was just a normal part of growing up that most people go through. At the time, though, I was convinced it was something more. I had a lot of depression and anxiety, and I had really low self-esteem. I hated the changes happening to my body, especially developing breasts. I felt like they were wrong for me.

I spent a lot of time online, and that’s where I found communities that reinforced my feelings. They told me my discomfort was a sign that I was born in the wrong body, that I was actually a boy. It felt like an escape from all the other problems I was dealing with. I was influenced by what I read and by the friends I made in those spaces. I started to socially transition, changing my name and pronouns. It felt like a solution.

Eventually, I took hormones and I got top surgery. I was so sure it was the right path. But the relief I felt was temporary. After a while, I started to realize that I hadn’t solved my underlying issues. My depression and anxiety were still there. I began to see that I had made permanent changes to my body based on a temporary feeling. I had been running from myself.

I benefited greatly from finding a therapist who wasn't just there to agree with me. She challenged me to look at my trauma and my low self-esteem, and to understand how they had shaped my decisions. She helped me see that I was trying to escape from being me. Through that therapy, I came to understand that gender dysphoria is often transient, and that I had been pressured by society to see a common teenage struggle as a permanent identity.

I have serious regrets about my transition. I regret the surgeries and the hormones. I am now infertile, and that is a profound loss. I look at my body and see the scars, both physical and emotional. I feel like I was manipulated by a system that profits from creating forever patients. I made decisions as a young person that I can never take back, and I believe children should be protected from being allowed to make those choices. You can't get a tattoo, but you can have a life-altering surgery? It doesn't make sense.

My thoughts on gender are simple now: you cannot change your sex. Sex is a biological reality, not a social construct like race. The doctor didn't assign my sex at birth; nature did. The idea of being "trans" is a delusion. The best thing any of us can do is learn to love and accept the people we were born as. I wish I had known that sooner. I would tell anyone questioning now to wait. The person you are today won't exist in five years. There's no rushing this.

Age Event
14 Started experiencing intense discomfort with puberty and my developing body.
15-16 Spent a lot of time online, influenced by trans communities; began socially transitioning.
17 Started taking testosterone.
19 Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy).
22 Began to question my transition; started therapy that challenged my beliefs.
23 Realized I regretted my medical transition; began identifying as female again.

Top Comments by /u/mega_moustache_woman:

12 comments • Posting since October 2, 2023
Reddit user mega_moustache_woman (desisted male) comments on a detransitioner's post, suggesting their mother had Munchausen by proxy and that doctors enabled her due to fear of being labeled transphobic and losing their licenses, while questioning why the government and medical industry profit from creating "forever patients."
124 pointsOct 13, 2023
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Sounds like the doctors enabled a Munchausen by proxy / mother with obvious narcissistic "compassion" to destroy your healthy body.

But I also understand their position. It's getting so bad that these physicians are afraid of losing their jobs or their licenses in certain places. Them not performing these unnecessary procedures is considered a hate crime in places like Canada now.

So what are they supposed to do? Also, why does the government and medical industry care so much about this? I get that the medical industry stands to make billions of dollars off of newly minted "forever patients" with no comorbidities, but why the government?

Are they being bribed? Are they also standing to profit off of this?

Reddit user mega_moustache_woman (desisted male) questions the logic of allowing minors to consent to permanent gender-affirming surgeries while prohibiting other adult activities like joining the military or getting tattoos.
67 pointsOct 9, 2023
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I feel like this isn't a choice children should be allowed to make. If they can go through with this, why not let them join the military, take out loans, work at strip clubs?

I don't understand why kids are kids until it's time to make permanent body modifications they most likely will grow to regret less than 10 years later.

You can't get a tattoo but you can have a cosmetic double mastectomy?

Reddit user mega_moustache_woman (desisted male) explains how witnessing a suicide as a first responder took suicide "off the table" for them, describing the tragic, permanent grief inflicted on the victim's parents and first responders.
48 pointsOct 26, 2023
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Hey, there. I want you to know that I've witnessed a couple of suicides as a paramedic, and also survived a couple of attempts myself. Your death will have permanent rippling effects throughout the lives of many people. Not just your family's.

On one of the calls I was sent on as a firefighter, we arrived just as the gunshot rang out. We booted the door and walked past this person's desperately grieving parents. I walked down the hall, opened the bedroom door, and approached the man to make an assessment.

I was brand new.

I started putting electrodes on this guy. The shiny nickel plated revolver still smoked in his hand. His brain spilled out onto the white bedsheets and pillow cases.

We didn't let his parents see him like this. But you will never know true and tragic grief until you hear the wraith like moaning of the mother of a slain child.

I can't forget this. I don't even know what this guy's name was. But, I'll remember him for the rest of my life. And his parents. So will the dozen or so detectives that showed up at the scene just after me, my entire crew, this person's friends and whoever else knew or cared about him.

This experience took suicide off the table for me.

I'm sorry you're experiencing this. It's not going to be forever. At least put it off for a day.

Reddit user mega_moustache_woman (detrans male) explains to a questioning teen that they went through the same feelings, urges them to wait because their identity will change, and advises finding a non-sycophantic therapist.
31 pointsOct 2, 2023
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I would tell them, I went through this. I know exactly how you're feeling right now. I'm you from the future.

Wait. Just wait. Who you are today won't exist in 5 years and you'll be grateful. There's no rushing this. These are decisions that can never be unmade.

Also, let's find you a therapist who isn't a sycophant.

Reddit user mega_moustache_woman (desisted male) explains the surreal and heavy finality of death, comparing it to a sudden, forceful descent into Hades that the human mind struggles to accept.
17 pointsOct 27, 2023
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For many of us, we don't believe something so terrible can be real until it actually happens. Most seem to live in a constant state of denial about the fact that we will one day die. The human mind has difficulty accepting it. Especially when it's the deaths of those we love.

For many, the experience is surreal. Unexpected. The finality of death suddenly weighs down on us like hands tearing us towards Hades.

The lucky have a lifetime to prepare for this departure. What do you think is going to be on the other side of it?

Reddit user mega_moustache_woman (desisted male) comments on cultural appropriation, arguing against taking offense on behalf of others and distinguishes between sharing culture and genuine harm.
15 pointsOct 25, 2023
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Yeah. I'm not gonna think I should get mad at someone based on an assumption that they might be offending another person I have no relationship to or experience of being.

Like, if you decide to wear a kimono for fun, I'm not personally going to take offense. If a Japanese person decided to, that would be up to them. But it would also be unusual because they routinely dress white people up in kimonos whenever we visit their country. Same thing happens in Mexico or many other countries. They want to share their culture. For some reason, in the US, we tend to throw on our Capes of Virtue and accuse the culturally curious of being appropriationists.

If people are crying out that they're being mistreated and are asking us for help, that's a different story. They've indicated that they're angry, can explain why, and we have the opportunity to assist them in their struggles.

Reddit user mega_moustache_woman (desisted male) explains that sex is a biological reality, not a social construct, and argues that transgenderism is an attempt to dismantle biological, not social, categories.
13 pointsNov 6, 2023
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I'm starting to realize that the harsh answer is simple: there's no such thing.

You can't change your sex. Biologically, male and female are entirely different across almost all species. Especially among ones as dimorphic as ours.

Transgenderism is a radical attempt to dismantle biological constructs, not social ones.

Race is a social construct. Sex isn't.

Reddit user mega_moustache_woman (desisted male) explains that gender dysphoria is often transient, warns that societal pressure leads to permanent decisions for temporary feelings, and advises a friend to lovingly challenge a transition plan rather than offer blind support.
11 pointsOct 20, 2023
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Gender dysphoria is transient in most people. I had it as a kid and that stuff eventually went all the way away.

What's happening these days is that there's societal pressure to reinforce these temporary and extremely common feelings in teenagers, and now we have waves of young people making permanent decisions over temporary problems. Transitioning is suicide-lite.

We're allowing ourselves and our friends to be brainwashed in echo chambers. We need to stop being so sycophantic and start challenging each other out of love. And we need to stop running towards environments and content which only serves our confirmation bias.

You're a rare friend to this person. I don't believe we should judge each other but you also shouldn't have to blindly support this destructive decision. In the end, they might end up angry because no one tried to stop them.

Many trans people and their peers today are likely to realize they've been manipulated by profiteering doctors and politicians and come to deeply regret what they've done. You can stand out as one person who opposed the delusion.

It's best if people genuinely recognize that no one can ever truly change their sex as soon as possible. Unfortunately, something so obvious is a hard won battle, and you'll likely be crucified for doing so.

Reddit user mega_moustache_woman (desisted male) explains that being trans is a delusion, stating you cannot change your sex, which was determined by nature, not assigned by a doctor.
10 pointsNov 14, 2023
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After a while, a lot of us realize "trans" isn't a thing. It's a delusion. A false reality. You cannot change your sex. Race is a social construct, not sex.

The doctor didn't assign your sex at birth, nature did.

The best any of us can do is love and accept the people we were born as.

Reddit user mega_moustache_woman (desisted male) expresses horror and sympathy for a trans man who was sexually assaulted, calling the act abhorrent and hoping they are never victimized again.
7 pointsOct 16, 2023
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I can't imagine what you're going through. This is absolutely abbhorent. I can't believe humans have the capacity of capability to even commit such acts against one another. I just hope you never find yourself in a situation where this can happen to you again. You've already experienced this far more often than any person should.