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About me
I felt completely controlled by the mental health system after being diagnosed as autistic and bipolar, and I saw many of my friends lose all hope. They started to believe they were the opposite gender because it seemed like the only way to escape their deep self-hatred, and the system that fought them on everything else just went along with it. I watched them get surgeries and take hormones, but they were still trapped by the same anxiety and fear. For me, everything changed when I moved into a van at 18 and started facing the world on my own terms, learning I was capable of more than anyone told me. I now see that focusing on gender was a distraction from the real work of learning to accept and believe in myself.
My detransition story
My entire journey with transition was deeply tied to my struggles with autism and the mental health system. I was diagnosed with Asperger's and bipolar disorder, and from a young age, the system tried to manage me with a bunch of therapies and medications. They put me through cognitive tests, ABA, CBT, and even tried me on SSRIs and anti-psychotics for a week. The state wanted to put me on benefits and force me into supported housing, essentially monitoring my basic life skills like showering. Their goal seemed to be to turn me into a passive vegetable who followed a protocol, which completely stripped away any belief I had in my own potential to manage my life.
I saw this happen to so many of my autistic friends. After years of this system failing them, they felt completely hopeless and alienated from themselves. That’s when the thought, "what if I were meant to be the opposite gender?" would appear. And the system, which had given them pushback on everything else, just accommodated this new idea with no questions asked. I watched countless friends go on hormones and even get surgeries, but it never fixed the core issue. They were still anxious, still unable to leave their house, and some even harmed themselves or took their own lives. They were trying to solve a problem of self-hatred and alienation by changing their bodies, but the problem was always in their heads.
For me, the turning point was getting completely detached from that system. I believed that I could be my own person and live my own life, despite my diagnoses. I started living in a van when I was 18 and learned to navigate the world on my own terms. I realized that the key was facing the outside world and my fears, step by step, through things like engaging in a hobby in public. It gave me a taste of what was possible and showed me that I could do it.
My thoughts on gender now are that it became a distraction from the real work of self-acceptance and self-actualization. For me and the people I knew, transition was often an escape from dealing with the underlying fear, anxiety, and low self-esteem that came from being failed by the system. I don't regret my own social transition because it was a part of that journey of figuring things out, but I deeply regret that so many of my friends were led down a medical path that ultimately didn't help them and sometimes made things much worse. The real change happened when I started believing in myself.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on my experiences:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Young | Diagnosed with Asperger's and bipolar disorder. Put through various therapies (ABA, CBT) and medications (SSRIs, anti-psychotics). |
| 18 | Moved out and began living in a van, detaching from the mental health system to learn self-reliance. |
| Various Ages | Socially transitioned, but did not pursue medical interventions like hormones or surgery. |
| Present | Detransitioned after realizing my struggles were rooted in anxiety and self-alienation, not gender. |
Top Comments by /u/memorymemorymemory:
This sounds like depersonlisation/derealisation too, possibly an accute psychosis as well. Go to a psychologist, not psychiatrist, and tell them you suspect those things. I've suffered from the same, it's no fun and the aim is to realise and train yourself to not just realise but remember it's all between the ears; in your head. It's different from merely disliking your own body.
All of that has not only been shown to have terrible success rates and not reproduce stable results, but ABA is actually abusive and normative. Being a huge sperg that's been in and out of system and met hundreds of others the most useful thing I've seen is in fact getting dettached from all that and forcing oneself to accept oneself and go out and see the world. I've been living in a van since I was 18 and learned on my own. And many others have, too. Things take time and individual self-discovery to attain acceptance and stability, something virtually all therapists do not offer. Shit, all the autists I've seen go through HRT did so out of complete hopelessness after years of system, many of them killing themselves or totally shutting themselves off. They've been completely alienated from themselves and any belief in their own potential.
Therapists put me on various cognitive and aptitude tests, ABA, CBT, ACA, as well as entirely 'just to see' on SSRI medication and even anti-psychotics for a week. The State put me on autismbux, wanted to force me into residential 'accompanied' housing and essentially have me sit on my ass with a monthly 1k quid handout a month and 'help me reintegrate' i.e. have me do volunteering once a month and monitor me showering, washing up and keeping tidy. All things they do out of a preset protocol. Psychiatry and even society do not know how to deal with autists, so they turn them into vegetables that gradually lose any motivation to do those very things on their own and in their own way. Which they can. So a lot of these cases end up completely anxious and alienated on their benefits and 'aid' until suddenly they hate themselves and figure they've done everything wrong and thoughts like 'but what if I were meant to be the opposite gender?' very quickly. And then the system, like with anything else before, does nothing but accomodate them. No pushback. I'd need more than two hands to count the amount of friends I've seen end up on hormones, some even sex changes, still be nowhere more satisfied and confident (and practicing) towards self-management and self-actualisation, and then it's over; they'll never leave their house or even a room again, or worse end up harming themselves or even kill themselves. I'm no more (innately) 'resilient' than anyone else. I just had the blessing of being told and convinced of believing in myself. Believing that despite also having Asperger's and bipolar I'm my own person and can go wherever I can.
Good luck. Remember that autism is a developmental disorder or in other words it means that individuals with it develop normally or better intellectually, but lag behind in terms of social maturity, as they don't learn it as organically. A step at a time, it's all about finding the 'click' moment where your brother will want to do it on his own.
Generally it seems the problem becomes a fear/anxiety of everything after countless failures combined with a certain comfort in their ways. So the key is to have them truly realize they're controlled by fear and to convince them that only by facing the outside world, however small it may seem, like engaging a hobby they have in a public place. Anything that will give them a taste of what more the world has to offer and show that it's doable.