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There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a bad-faith actor. The user's perspective is consistent with a desister's experience: they describe a personal history of identifying as transgender, taking hormones, and the subsequent process of detransitioning and overcoming "the damage." Their passionate, sometimes angry, and evolving views on the trans community are consistent with the grief and process of re-evaluation described by many detransitioners and desisters. The language is organic, emotional, and contains the personal reflection expected from a real person.
About me
I started feeling confused and unhappy as a teenager and found online communities that convinced me I was a trans woman. I took hormones for a while, believing it was the solution to my deep discomfort with myself. I eventually realized it was a mistake and that I was just a man struggling to accept my own body. I went through a period of anger, feeling misled by the very spaces that promised support. Now I'm focused on healing and believe true peace comes from accepting your physical reality, not fighting against it.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was a teenager. I was really confused and unhappy, and I found a lot of online communities, especially on Reddit, that made me believe my problems were because I was born in the wrong body. I started identifying as transgender, specifically as a trans woman. I spent a lot of time in MTF subreddits where everyone encouraged each other to transition. It felt like a supportive space at the time, and getting that validation gave me a kind of euphoria. I ended up taking hormones for a while.
Looking back, I see how much I was influenced online. The communities I was in made being "cis" seem boring or even offensive, and being trans was seen as something special. If anyone even suggested that maybe you weren't trans, they would be ostracized. It created an environment where it was hard to think clearly.
I don't believe in the idea of gender dysphoria the way it's often talked about now. I think it's more about a rejection of your own body and a deep discomfort that gets misinterpreted. For me, it wasn't that I had a woman's brain in a man's body. I think I was just a man who was really uncomfortable with himself and life in general. I believe gender is tied to our physical reality, to our chromosomes, and you can't truly change that. Trying to transition felt like a rebellion against that reality, but it's a fight you can't win.
I started to realize that transitioning was a mistake for me. The feelings of euphoria were temporary, and underneath, I was still the same confused person. I began to see how the online spaces that had once felt so supportive were actually harmful. They convince vulnerable people, especially teenagers, that transitioning is the only solution. I got angry for a while. Right after I decided to detransition, I said some harsh things to trans people online because I felt tricked and I was grieving the whole experience. I was pissed that I had messed with my body with hormones. I'm lucky I didn't have permanent issues like infertility, because if I had, I think that anger would have stayed with me much longer.
Now, I see things differently. I don't think transitioning is the right path for anyone. I believe the way to deal with that deep discomfort is to train your mind to accept your body and your life, not to change your body. I've been overcoming the damage from that time, and I feel so much better now. I don't regret detransitioning at all; it was the best decision I could have made. My regret is that I ever started down that path in the first place.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 16 | Started feeling confused and unhappy, began spending time in online trans communities. |
| 17 | Started identifying as a trans woman and began taking estrogen. |
| 19 | Realized transitioning was a mistake for me and decided to stop hormones (detransition). |
| 19 | Felt a lot of anger and frustration towards the trans community I had been part of. |
| 20 (Now) | Working on overcoming the damage, feeling much better, and solidifying my views on gender and transition. |
Top Comments by /u/mentos20024:
Overall I blame Reddit for supporting this kind of stuff.
In those trans subs, people are allowed to convince teenagers into transitioning, Reddit sees no problem, but if we slip one or other slur in a momment of anger here in detrans, we will quickly get banned by the Reddit staff.
Reddit is perhaps the number one social media in providing "validation" for trans people...
But yeah, back when I was trans-identifying I used to feel euphoric when I saw this kind of unfair ban, lol, the way I see it now is that I was just a confused idiot, this is quite serious, lol
This is how many trans subs works too. They will ostracize anyone that even dares to say something as simple as "you are probably not be trans, those signals doesn't mean you are trans". They also think being transgender is like being special and being "cis" is derrogative and offensive.
I mean... Arguably most people that transitioned here used to feel quite positive thigns about trans people before transitioning, then after realizing it was a bad decision for them, they develop aversion. It is because of grief. Who wants to be a hater?
From my first weeks after choosing to detransition, I went from saying some really offensive stuff to some trans people, to understanding some people really have a certain nature.
I believe gender is on our chromossomes just like sex, and there are intersex people and this is the closest to a true trans person.
Gender dysphoria? What would it even mean if you can't change gender, if means rejection of your gender and affliction.
Sure, there are people that are used to seeing life in the lens of the opposite gender, this is merely caused by their own use of cognitive abilities, and you can train your mind to do a better use of cognitive abilities in a way that fits your life better, that is how you overcome gender dysphoria, not by transitioning.
What do I think about transition? It is taking things too far, the negative outcomes are not limited to oneself, not limited to physical issues, males on estrogen for example, are just rebels in my view, you can't escape or change gender, because it is deep in physical reality, yeah, and a male trying to be a female, is problematic, very problematic. I dislike this problem so I'd rather keep away from trans people than joining others in a lost fight against physical reality.
But even if I question if trans is real, I do it due to social reasons, I'm a social being and it means I'm forced to question a lot of things rather than having 100% confidence in my own views, which is fine.
Deep down it would be hard to convince me about the existence of a woman trapped in a man's body and vice-versa. As for gender dysphoria, I don't think it is a valid reason to betray your beautiful body. Lol, trans activism be so like done to me.
Yeah... But usually the masses don't have more than 87.5 = IQ, so it hardly understand that is this kind of behaviour that drives detransitioners to later be disgusted at the trans community, it is just natural... Why blame us for trying to set boundaries? Being trans is heck confusing, when they call it unicorn, they mean it, magical unicorns that hypnotize people to feel so damn confused, and not in a good or pretty way ok, evil unicorns.
I personally feel pissed sometimes, that I got to question my gender and use hormones and stuff, but as I'm overcoming the damage, it is getting so so much better, oh but if I had stuff such as infertility or something for the rest of my life I'd be pissed for a long time.
I remember when I used to identify as transgender, browsing MTF sub and seeing people complain about how "cis people " saw trans people as their AGAB, calling trans women as trans men, lol, those very "cis people" had it right on their heads. We shouldn't call trans women as trans women.. But here I'm crossing the woke line of Reddit Ban, I've commited hate crime! I'm ready for my ban!!