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About me
I was born male and my transition began because I mistook my deep anxiety and insecurities for being a woman. I took estrogen and had top surgery, which made me physically weaker and altered my body in ways I now regret. Through therapy, I learned my distress came from other issues and that transition was just a band-aid. I am now detransitioning to live fully as a male again, training to enlist in the Marines. I am focused on rebuilding my strength and getting my body back on a natural male track with the help of testosterone therapy.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and now detransition has been a long and complicated one, and looking back, I see things a lot more clearly now.
I was born male, but from a young age, I struggled with a lot of anxiety and deep insecurities that had nothing to do with my gender. I felt powerless in a lot of situations, and I think I was looking for a way to explain why I felt so much distress. At the time, I became convinced that my discomfort was because I was meant to be female. I now see that my feelings of "dysphoria" were actually signs of other problems. They would pop up during moments of stress that were completely unrelated to my body or how I was perceived.
I started to socially transition, using she/her pronouns and living as a woman. I even started taking estrogen. The estrogen had a big physical effect, making me a lot weaker than I naturally would have been. Eventually, I also had top surgery, a double mastectomy, to remove my breasts. At the time, I thought these were the right steps to take.
But over the last year or so, my thinking completely changed. I stopped considering myself female about a year ago, and I stopped using she/her pronouns around six months ago. For a little while, I used a nonbinary label as a kind of cover while I tried to figure everything out. What really helped me was going to therapy. I learned coping strategies from dialectical and cognitive behavioral therapy that helped me deal with my underlying anxiety and depression. I learned that my distress was coming from other places, and transitioning was like a band-aid that wasn't addressing the real wound.
I now believe I was a desperate person, and there's a whole social movement that takes advantage of desperate people looking for an answer. It convinces you that your insecurities mean you were born in the wrong body. Once you're in, you're told you need to take medication for life and get surgeries. It creates a system where you become reliant on other transgender people for validation, and that can be a vulnerable place to be.
I regret the physical changes I made. Getting on estrogen and having top surgery are things I wish I hadn't done. I'm a male, and I altered my body away from that, which I now see as a mistake. My muscles are still recovering from the estrogen, and I have the recovery from the mastectomy to deal with. I'm now socially detransitioning to live fully as a guy again.
A big reason I'm detransitioning is because I want to take myself seriously. I'm pushing myself physically every day, studying to enlist in the Marines. I even have an appointment to look into testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) to help get my body back on a natural male track. I want to be in a conservative, male-dominated space and push myself through that challenge. I see it as a way to finally face my problems head-on instead of trying to escape from them.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's not the root of most people's problems. Getting stable mentally, outside of questions about gender identity, is the most important thing anyone can do. I don't want anyone else to make the same mistakes I did.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| - | Started taking estrogen. |
| - | Had top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| (Approx. 1 year ago) | Stopped considering myself female. |
| (Approx. 6 months ago) | Stopped using she/her pronouns, began identifying as nonbinary. |
| Now | Stopped taking estrogen. Socially detransitioning. Training to enlist in the Marines. Seeking TRT. |
Top Comments by /u/metamodernslut:
Thanks for the reply! Tbh you just listed all of the reasons I'm enlisting. I want to push myself and go through all that hell. I want to be in a relatively conservative, male dominated space.
A big reason for my detransition is wanting to take myself seriously for a change. I'm studying for the asvab, pushing myself physically every day but sundays, and I'm really thinking about being called to serve my country during wartime.
My muscles are aching even worse now that I'm off hormones, and I've already got an appointment set for potentially getting on trt to get back on track. I'm not fucking around.
Thanks for the response! I do feel lucky that it feels so easy for me.
I'll have plenty of time to rethink that decision as it will take at least several months to be in proper physical condition to even be considered for the Marines. The effect of estrogen on my muscle density has made me significantly weaker than I otherwise would be and I have the recovery time of mastectomy to take into account as well, so I'll have plenty of work to do. I look at it as it'll be better to be exercising anyway, so it's a win-win.
I've already started social detransitioning, so I guess I'll know soon enough what living like a guy is like again.
Exactly. You are a desperate person. Cults and religions often take advantage of desperate people who are looking for an explanation for their suffering. You would likely not think that transitioning would solve your problems if there weren't a group of people intent on convincing you that it would. Once you're in, you'll have to take medication for the rest of your life. You may get surgeries you might come to regret. You'll be reliant upon other transgender people for validation, and some of those people might use your need for that validation to control or take advantage of you.
I am not a professional. However, in my experience, my "dysphoria" arose during moments of distress that was completely unrelated to my gender. Much of this distress came from insecurities and anxiety that, once again, had nothing to do with my sex or gender expression. The other distress I felt came from external circumstances that I felt powerless to combat, and in many ways, I was. I learned coping strategies from dialectical and cognitive behavioral therapy, which a professional counselor helped me to deploy.
I can't stop you, nor do I wish to talk you out of anything. If you're dealing with something more severe than depression and anxiety, then you will need different tools than I used for treatment. Being "convinced" that you're meant to be male is a pretty choice phrase, however, because there is currently a social movement "convincing" people that their insecurities and self-hatred mean that they're "meant" to be in a body that doesn't match with their reality.
lol idk it was late. I stopped considering myself female a year ago and stopped using she/her pronouns about six months ago. I've been kinda using nonbinary as cover while I sort things out, and this just made the decision to fully detrans even easier.
I'm personally a male, I made changes to my body during transition that I regret. I don't want someone to make the same mistakes I did, but I can't tell you the right answer because there isn't one. I can say that no matter what, getting on stable footing mentally outside of your gender identity will help you feel assured that you're making the right choice for yourself.